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  • Spend Money Based on Your Wealth Not Your Income

    Spend Money Based on Your Wealth Not Your Income

    Let’s say you are fresh out of law school working in big law.

    At the current salary scale, that means you’re making $225,000 in salary, plus another $25,000 or so in bonuses. We’ll call it $250,000 in total compensation.

    That’s a lot of money. 

    It’s so much money, in fact, that you convince yourself you can make some lifestyle changes.

    For starters, you figure it’s time to leave the old law school roommates behind and move into a nicer, but smaller apartment by yourself.

    Even though the tradeoff for living by yourself is paying more in rent, you justify it because your income is so high.

    Besides paying more in rent, you can’t help but order in more meals now that you’re earning a high income. Plus, you’re working long hours, afterall. Who has time to cook?

    Even though you survived on frozen chicken breasts in law school, that won’t cut it anymore now that you’re a practicing attorney.

    Finally, you start taking Ubers to get around town. It’s only $15 per ride, and you make more than $20,000 per month.

    Even though you took the bus or the “L” home in law school, you can afford a ride! Uber it is!

    Does this sound familiar to you?

    Maybe it sounds completely ridiculous?

    Personally, this story is all too familiar.

    When I graduated law school, I spent money based on my income instead of my wealth.

    As soon as I started making money after law school, I started spending on things I really didn’t need.

    About a year after I graduated, I moved into an apartment by myself. I started spending more freely. I took taxis (no Ubers back then) when I could easily have hopped on the bus or walked.

    What made it worse in my case was that I was not even making big law money. At the time, I was a judicial law clerk making around $70,000 per year.

    It was because I was careless with my money that I fell into credit card debt so quickly after beginning my career as an attorney.

    On top of my poor spending choices, I had student loan debt. Because I had debt and hardly any assets to my name, my net worth was less than zero dollars.

    That means I had negative wealth, even though I was earning a decent income.

    This is all background for the main question behind today’s post:

    Do you spend money based on your income or based on your wealth?

    Let’s revisit our fresh big law attorney who’s earning $250,000 per year.

    Earlier, I said “That’s a lot of money.”

    And, it is.

    But, what I should have said was, “That’s a lot of income.”

    See, earning a lot of money is not the same as having a lot of money.

    There’s a key difference.

    Income is temporary. There’s no guarantee that your income will always be there. People lose their jobs all the time. People also switch careers, which can result in lower income. 

    Wealth is your financial foundation. When you have money, meaning you don’t spend it, you can build wealth.

    Of course, when we talk about wealth, we are talking about all of your assets minus your liabilities. This is your net worth.

    When your liabilities are greater than your assets, you have a negative net worth, like I did when I graduated law school. By the way, the same is true for most people when they graduate law school.

    A high income is not a bad thing, but it can be a wasted thing. 

    A high income means you have a lot of money coming in.

    That’s not a bad thing, but it can be a wasted thing.

    What you do with that money is what determines your wealth and financial progress.

    If you use your high income to acquire assets, you are winning the game. The same goes for paying off your liabilities.

    If you use your high income to buy expensive things, you’ll be stuck in place. At the end of the year, you’ll likely be in no better shape than someone making a fraction of what you make.

    That’s why I prefer to think about how much money I keep each year, instead of how much I make.

    Woman shopping car indicating we should spend money based on our wealth not our income.
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    But, I thought high earners deserve to splurge!

    You may think that a new lawyer earning $250,000 per year should be splurging on life’s finer things.

    Would your opinion change if you acknowledged that lawyer’s net worth is a negative number?

    Think about it: most new lawyers leave law school with hundreds of thousands of dollars in debt. They also have little to no assets. That means they have a negative net worth. 

    Should someone with a negative net worth really be splurging on a fancy apartment?

    If that person is looking to build a solid financial foundation, the answer is obviously, “No.”

    This person should continue living like a law student and spending in accordance with his net worth, not his income.

    I recommend you use your high income to acquire assets and eliminate liabilities.

    Don’t get me wrong. I am not suggesting that earning a lot of money is a bad thing. 

    Having a high income is a major benefit.

    In fact, I recommend that all of my law students take the high paying job right out of school, if they can get it. 

    A high income means you can pay off your debt faster. It means you can build up your emergency savings and fund your investment accounts sooner.

    There can be no doubt that a high income can accelerate your progress to financial freedom.

    You just need to use that income to acquire assets and eliminate liabilities.

    As you take those steps, you’ll see your net worth climb, and you’ve earned the right to start spending more.

    We all know that it’s bad to live beyond our means. The problem is we don’t evaluate our means properly.

    You don’t have to be a personal finance expert to know that living beyond your means is a bad idea.

    Most of us intuitively understand that we should live within our means. Actually doing so can prove to be more problematic.

    Part of the explanation may be that we don’t think of our spending in terms of our net worth.

    We may not appreciate that if we are spending extravagantly while our net worth is still low, or even negative, we are living beyond our means. It doesn’t matter what our income level is.

    That’s why I recommend you spend based on your level of wealth (your net worth) instead of your income.

    Of course, this lesson applies to all of us, not just recent graduates. 

    This is challenging for lawyers and professionals who feel compelled to keep up with the Joneses

    When you’re making $750,000 per year, you may think you need to buy the $100,000 luxury car. Or, you may not hesitate to spend $10,000 to upgrade your family’s plane tickets to first class.

    But, can you really justify that level of spending when your net worth does not match up with your income? 

    What happens if that income goes away?

    Instead, you should prioritize saving and investing until your net worth justifies that higher spending threshold.

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    Spending money based on your wealth does not spending from your wealth.

    When I say spend money based on your wealth, I don’t mean that you should spend from your wealth.

    In other words, this is not a post on spending down your wealth in retirement.

    Rather, what I mean is that you should consider your net worth before deciding how much of your income you are comfortable spending. 

    For example, if you earn $250,000 per year from your job and have a negative or low net worth, you should continue living like a law student.

    If you earn $250,000 per year and have a net worth of $1M, you would be justified in splurging from time-to-time.

    If you earn $250,000 per year and have a net worth of $10M, you shouldn’t worry about spending extravagantly with all of that income.

    Why not worry about spending so much?

    The reality is that your investment earnings on $10M will far exceed your $250,000 income from work.

    Even a 5% investment return on $10M would earn $500,000 per year, double what you earn from your job. You actually might start thinking about why you still have that job in the first place.

    These numbers are just for illustration purposes. Still, the idea is that your spending decisions should factor in your net worth at least as much, if not more so, than your income.

    Don’t ignore your wealth when it comes to spending. 

    Whenever you are evaluating your current financial position, especially your spending decisions, I recommend that you focus on your wealth at least as much as your income.

    Income is temporary. It can go away at any moment.

    If you are fortunate enough to earn a high income, use that high income to acquire assets and pay down liabilities. That means you’ll have to avoid spending extravagantly until your level of wealth can justify it.

    Wealth is foundational. Yes, there will be drops in the markets and your net worth can decrease. That is to be expected. 

    However, if you focus on spending in line with your net worth, you’ll naturally adjust your spending if your net worth temporarily drops. When it rises again, you can justify spending more. The key is to be flexible.

    If you can think in these terms, you will build a strong financial foundation that will give you choices down the road.

    At the end of the day, financial independence is all about choices. 

    The people who create choices for themselves will be the ones who don’t have to worry about money as they move through life.

    They will be the ones with true wealth that supports extravagant spending, if they choose. 

    That’s not a bad thing.

    Do you know people who spend money based on their income instead of their wealth?

    Why do you think people fall into that trap?

    Let us know in the comments below.

  • Stop Feeling Guilty and Annoyed About Spending Money

    Stop Feeling Guilty and Annoyed About Spending Money

    No matter how far along you are on your personal finance journey, you will always need to make choices on how to spend your money.

    I recently wrote about how I felt annoyed when I wanted to buy a new bike and new golf clubs.

    You have to make decisions like this whether you make a lot of money or very little money.

    The more money you make, the harder these choices can be. When I was in my 20s, traveling and a social life were my biggest spending challenges.

    Now that I’m in my 40s, it’s making good spending choices for not only me, but my wife and three kids.

    The other day, I confessed that I was annoyed because my goal to pay off debt was keeping me from buying a new bike or new golf clubs.

    What I’ve realized since then is that I also felt guilty about spending money on myself when I could better spend that money on my kids.

    I felt guilty because my five-year-old wants to learn how to ride a bike. I should buy her a bike and teach her to ride before I splurge on a new bike for myself, right?

    With powerful feelings like annoyance and guilt, how can we make good spending decisions even as we make more money?

    Don’t ignore key personal finance fundamentals even as you start to make more money.

    What I’ve learned as my career and family obligations evolve is that it’s easy to forget the little things I used to focus on when money was tight.

    This recent experience reminded me that I need to step back and focus on personal finance basics.

    I’m not alone in needing a reminder from time to time about personal finance fundamentals, like budgeting. I talk to plenty of people who tell me that they kept a budget in their 20s but not so much in their 30s and 40s.

    They share with me that even though they’re making more money, it seems like they have less and less money to spend.

    I totally get it because I was the same way. I tracked every penny I made in my 20s until I learned how to stay on budget with two simple numbers. Recently, I haven’t been as diligent.

    My recent dilemma with the new bike and golf clubs reminded me to go back to the fundamentals.

    The benefit is that by remembering the basics, I can help myself by taking the anxiety and guilt out of these types of spending choices.

    So, what are the fundamentals I’m referring to?

    After I wrote that post about the new bike and golf clubs, I reviewed my top 10 budgeting tips for lawyers and professionals.

    My Top 10 Budgeting Tips for Lawyers and Professionals

    1. See the ball go through the hoop.
    2. Don’t cancel your social life.
    3. Talk to your friends about your life money.
    4. Keep on traveling.
    5. Spark and cut.
    6. It’s OK if you occasionally exceed your spending.
    7. Make a game out of it, like the $500 challenge.
    8. Buy it if you want it, but not right away.
    9. You don’t have to go big or go home.
    10. Plan ahead for budget busters.
    person walking inside shopping center showing that we all have choices to make when it comes to our spending.
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    These budgeting strategies helped me realize that I can choose to spend money on what I want and shouldn’t feel guilty or annoyed.

    The key is understanding how a certain purchase fits into the rest of my overall spending.

    On this occasion, 3 of my top 10 budgeting tips stood out and helped me with what to do about the new bike and golf clubs.

    Let’s take a look.

    6. It’s OK if you occasionally exceed your spending.

    What should you do if you overspend one month? Don’t get discouraged and give up. Before all your hard work goes to waste, take the next month to course correct. 

    If you overspent by $300 in August, make it a priority to underspend by $300 in September.

    Is this easier said than done?

    Well, sure. It’s always easier to say you’re going to do something. The hard part is following through. It will take discipline to get back on track. What will drive that discipline? 

    Once again, it’s your ultimate life motivations that we’ve talked so much about (and will always continue to talk about). Without that clear vision of your ideal life in front of you, no budget will ever last.

    Don’t panic. Course correct. Stay on track.

    Even though I didn’t buy the new bike or golf clubs, if I chose to do so, I could course correct the next month.

    Going over budget for just one month is fixable. The key is to not blow my budget multiple months in a row.

    If I did that, I would end up digging a hole so deep that it would be a major challenge to get back to good spending levels.

    8. Buy it if you want it, but not right away.

    Just because I didn’t buy the bike or golf clubs yet doesn’t mean I can’t buy them in the future when the time is right.

    I always think of my mom when I see something that I want to buy but know I shouldn’t buy it right away.

    About 10 years ago, my mom bought me a jacket for a birthday present. It was the exact jacket I wanted. How did she know, I asked her. “You mentioned it when we were downtown four months ago.” Four months ago!

    I shouldn’t have been surprised. My mom has one of those steel trap memories.

    If you only met her for five minutes and then saw her again two years later, don’t be surprised when she asks about your consulting gig, your trip to New Orleans, and that blue dress that she really liked.

    I learned from my mom’s gift strategy and modified it to help myself resist the temptation to make impromptu purchases. I don’t have her memory, but I do have a phone with a notes function. 

    When I see something that I might want to buy, I do my best to resist the temptation of buying it immediately and make a note in my phone. After a couple weeks, if I still want that thing, I buy it. 

    More times than not, I no longer want whatever it was that tempted me in the moment.

    If I still want the bike or golf clubs a few weeks from now, I can still buy them. By waiting, I also might benefit from end-of-the-season sales and can shop around for the best offers.

    10. Plan ahead for budget busters.

    Budget busters are any inconsistent expenditures, good or bad, that can derail your planning. 

    Good budget busters might include trips, weddings, and holiday/birthday gift shopping.

    We can also add a new bike and golf clubs to the good budget busters category. These certainly count as irregular expenses but can wreck our budgets if we don’t properly plan for them.

    Bad budget busters include unexpected car repairs, home repairs, or medical expenses.

    Note, budget busters are inconsistent; they are not unexpected. These expenditures are 100% predictable every year, we just don’t always know when they will surface. 

    woman counting dollar bills indicating the choices we all have to make with our spending and budget.
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    Planning ahead for budget busters is crucial to staying on track.

    To do so, open up a savings account, preferably at a different bank than your checking account. This helps isolate those funds so those dollars don’t disappear. 

    As part of our really lost boy’s Budget After Thinking, you’ll recall that we had a separate line item for budget busters in both our Now Money (bad budget busters) and Life Money (good budget busters).

    I encourage you to do the same. Each month that you don’t spend your budget buster money, transfer it to your savings account so it’s there when you need it.

    One more bonus tip for dealing with budget busters.

    We talked above about how to course correct when you exceed your budget in one month. On the flip side, what should you do when you’ve had a great month and underspent? 

    I recommend you transfer the amount you underspent to your budget busters savings account. Don’t let that hard-earned money sit in your checking account. 

    Those dollars will disappear. By transferring them to savings, those dollars will be at your disposal when needed.

    Instead of buying the bike or golf clubs now, I can transfer some funds in my savings account and wait to go shopping until I have enough saved up.

    Don’t ignore your budget even if you’re far along on your personal finance journey.

    My experience with the new bike and golf clubs served as a great reminder to revisit personal finance fundamentals, like budgeting.

    If you haven’t thought about your spending choices in a while, now is a good time to do it.

    The 10 budgeting strategies mentioned above have worked for me in the past and continue to work for me today. 

    If you review those top 10 strategies, I hope you see that making good spending choices does not have to make us feel annoyed or guilty.

    It just takes a little mental energy, exerted ahead of time.

    When making good spending choices becomes part of your everyday life, you can eliminate the guilt and anxiety that comes with tough choices, like buying a new bike or golf clubs.

    Have you been in a similar situation where you wanted to buy something but were worried about how it fit into your overall budget?

    What did you decide to do?

    Let us know in the comments below.

  • How to Think About Money and Italian Beef

    How to Think About Money and Italian Beef

    Too many of us are really good at pretending not to worry about money.

    “Credit card debt?” Everyone has it. 

    “Emergency savings?” My job is secure.

    “Retirement?” I have so much time.

    Accept money for the tool that it is.

    Instead of honestly assessing our relationship with money, we actively ignore it. Yes, actively ignore. We don’t passively hide from our credit card bills. We all have the credit card apps on our phones and receive multiple emails about our bills. We know what the numbers are, and we bury that knowledge. We exert mental energy to not think about our money.

    Let’s stop doing that and re-frame how we think about money. Instead of convincing ourselves that we’re not worried about money, let’s accept money for the tool that it is. Let’s get energized thinking about what money can do for us.

    Thinking about money does not make you a bad person.

    Thinking about money does not make you a bad person. Always remember what money is: a tool. You are not a bad person for wanting to use that tool to build the best life for you and your family. 

    Remember, the goal is not to fall in love with or obsess over the dollars in your bank account. The goal is to think about how you can use those dollars to maximize your life experiences. When you start thinking like that, money is energizing. 

    A higher income won’t cure your money worries.

    You are not immune from worrying about money just because you have a high income. Ask people further along in their careers if earning more money magically solved all their money worries. A lot of times, the opposite is true. 

    The more we earn usually means the more we spend. We tell ourselves that we deserve to spend more. Or, we need to spend more to match our neighbors or colleagues. You can see this through the clothes people wear, the vacations they take, the restaurants they eat at. This habit of spending more, even as we earn more, explains why credit card debt in America continues to surge.

    The other thing about earning more? It also usually means we’re working more. If you were worried about money when you had more available time to think about it, what’s going to happen now that you’re working longer, harder hours?

    Vicki Robin, often credited for laying the groundwork for the FIRE movement, has a lot to say about the relationship between money, work, and time. Her book Your Money or Your Life is a must read.

    how to think about spending money on sushi or Italian beef
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    I could go for an Italian beef.

    Years ago, my friend came to Chicago to visit. He loves good food and treated me to one of the premier restaurants in the city. Very fancy, Japanese menu. 12 courses. Sake pairings. At one point, my friend spilled some sauce on his shirt. Having noticed his predicament, the waiter walked over and discreetly handed him a stain removal pen folded in a napkin. Classy, right?

    It was one of the best dining experiences I’ve ever had, but it had nothing to do with the food. I loved being there with my friend, and he knows it wasn’t about the food.

    Towards the end of the meal, I got up and went to the bathroom. I returned to my friend and the couple at the table next to us gushing about the meal. Turning to me, one of them asked, “Did you absolutely love the food, too?” He choked on his Unagi when I responded, truthfully, “I could really go for an Italian beef.” 

    I want you to spend your money.

    OK, so what’s the point? I am in no way saying we should all stop spending money. Or, that we shouldn’t use our money to enjoy what we want in life. Quite the opposite, actually. I want you to prosper. What I really want is for you to define for yourself what a prosperous life means. 

    If that means you want to use your money to eat Japanese delicacies instead of Italian beef, please do! Just do it because you put some intentional thought into how spending your money that way fits into your overall life experience.

    Get energized thinking about money.

    If you’ve read this far, I’m assuming that you’re tired of pretending not to worry about money. You’re tired of treating money just like everyone else. You’re tired of fooling yourself that if you just made more money, everything would be fine. You want the worrying to stop. 

    Now, you want to feel like you’re moving forward. You’re ready to be energized about using money as a tool to reach your hand selected goals, regardless of how much you make.

    To start moving forward, we need to change how we exert our mental energy when it comes to money. In the beginning, many of us exert mental energy into making excuses about our money. Or maybe worse, we actively ignore our money. We convince ourselves that we’re just like everyone else. We pretend not to worry.

    Let’s flip that around. Instead of exerting mental energy to ignore our money worries, let’s get energized thinking about how we can use money as a tool to build our lives. It starts with discovering what truly motivates us. Only then can we talk about strong personal finance habits. Without the motivation, we’ll slip back into that existence of pretending not to worry.

    There’s no dress rehearsal in life.

    Life doesn’t come with a dress rehearsal. There’s no practice game to test out new plays. We need to think about our motivations now and continue to think about those motivations as we go.

    You’ll soon hear all about my Tiara Goals, my made-up name for what truly motivates me. At this point, I’ll share the simple recognition that we each only get one life. I don’t say that to be morbid or depressing. I don’t say it to be inspirational, either. I’m saying it simply because it’s true.

    Bill Perkins, author of Die with Zero, makes a very convincing argument that most of us wait too long to start using money to create life-changing experiences. You should read Die with Zero and talk about it with your people. This book has led to more money conversations with my friends and family than any other book I’ve read.

    This truth is a powerful reminder for me to use money as a tool to accomplish my Tiara Goals. That truth helps explain why I work hard for my clients with mesothelioma, own rental properties, teach law students, and now write this blog.

    I encourage each of you to start thinking about what truly matters to you. Not in a theoretical sense. Not what you expect other people would say should matter to you. What you, after deliberate thought, believe truly matters. You won’t have all the answers right away, but you need to start somewhere. 

    For now, let’s start by helping each other. Let’s stop pretending that we aren’t worried about money, so we can do something about it.

    “Credit card debt?” Yup, and I’m attacking it. 

    “Emergency savings?” Growing each month.

    “Retirement?” Not a problem.

    “Unagi?” Eh, I’ll have the Italian beef. Dipped, hot peppers.

    4 responses to “How to Think About Money and Italian Beef”

    1. Kevin Avatar
      Kevin

      This really hit home for me! I read the book Die With Zero, and loved it.

      1. Matthew Adair Avatar

        Glad you enjoyed the post! And thank you for being a consistent reader of Think and Talk Money!

    2. SA Bandoni Avatar

      So, is the Italian beef like a ‘steak & cheese sub’ in Boston?…if so, then , hell yes… Italian beef over Unagi every time. It is great to see you tackle the topic and attempt to make money a candid discussion. I suspect your teachings, and this blog will inspire more people to do the same.

      1. Matthew Adair Avatar

        I appreciate those kind words, SA. It’s all about starting the conversation. And, Italian beef is probably like a steak & cheese sub… only better!

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