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  • 529 Plans for Sky High College Costs

    529 Plans for Sky High College Costs

    My five-year-old has already decided that she’s not going to college.

    She doesn’t want to sleep there, she says. Instead, her plan is to move in with her aunt.

    At least that’s one kid I don’t have to worry about when it comes to paying for college.

    In case your five-year-old hasn’t already decided her future, read on to learn about 529 educational savings plans, one of the best ways to pay for college.

    My students are already worried about paying for college for their unborn children.

    Whenever I teach personal finance to law students, we take some time to at the beginning of class to discuss what each of us would do with financial freedom.

    This is always my favorite part of class.

    Over the years, I’ve had students who want to travel the world, start businesses, pursue hobbies, and take care of aging parents.

    I’ll never forget the student who wants to coach high school football after working as a lawyer. Or, the student who simply wants the time to exercise every day. As she put it, “look good, feel good.”

    Of all the goals I’ve heard, there is one that comes up more than any other: paying for their children’s education.

    A lot of times, I hear this goal from students who don’t even have kids yet. I think that shows how important education is for many people. It also shows how worrisome it is to think about paying for college.

    What’s troubling is that my students typically have their own student loans to pay back. And, before they’ve even started their careers, they’re thinking about paying for the education of their unborn children.

    That’s intense. But, understandable.

    Some students share that they want to pay for their children’s college because they benefitted from their parents paying for college. These students were grateful for the opportunities their parents gave them.

    For other students, they want to pay for their children’s college because their parents did not pay for their college. They want to help their children avoid student loan debt as they begin their careers.

    For most people, saving for college is a top priority.

    According to a recent study by Fidelity, 74% of parents say they are currently saving for college.

    77% of parents think that the value of a college education is worth the cost.

    At a time when there is a lot of uncertainty surrounding student loans, it’s never been more important to have a plan to pay for your kid’s education.

    One of the best ways to do that is with a 529 college savings plan.

    In today’s post, we’ll discuss the major advantages of 529 plans. We’ll also learn how you can estimate the cost of college for your child so you can figure out how much you should be saving today.

    Be warned, the numbers are scary.

    What is a 529 college savings plan?

    529 college savings plans are state-sponsored, tax-advantaged investment accounts. The name stems from Section 529 of the Internal Revenue Code.

    While there are certainly other ways to save for college, 529 plans are hard to beat.

    The reason 529 plans are such a great way to save for college is because you receive triple tax benefits:

    1. Most states offer tax breaks on contributions to its residents for participating in the in-state plan. For example, as Illinois residents, my wife and I can deduct up to $20,000 in contributions to the Illinois-sponsored 529 plan from our state income each year.
    2. Your investment earnings grow tax-deferred, meaning your investments will benefit from tax-free compound interest. That means your savings will grow faster without being hindered by taxes.
    3. Investment earnings are 100% free from both federal and state taxes when used for eligible education expenses. Eligible education expenses include things like tuition, room and board, books, computers and other standard costs associated with college.

    An investment opportunity with triple tax benefits like this is almost unheard of.

    How do 529 plans work?

    In basic terms, 529 plans are investment vehicles designed to grow your contributions and make paying for college easier. When you invest in a 529 plan, you are generally investing in some combination of stocks and bonds.

    That means there is risk involved, just like with any other investment.

    Once you open your 529 account, you will choose how to invest your contributions. In this sense, 529 plans are similar to a 401(k) plan offered by your employer.

    Like with your 401(k) at work, a 529 plan will typically provide you different investment choices within the plan. You can choose how aggressive or conservative you want to be with your investments.

    The investment options will vary depending on which state’s 529 plan you choose.

    Every state offers a 529 plan.

    Every state offers a 529 plan. You don’t have to be a resident of that state to use its plan. You also don’t have to use your 529 savings for a school located within that state.

    Regardless of what plan you choose, the federal tax incentive remains the same. Money invested in 529 plans grows tax free. That means no federal taxes on your 529 earnings as long as the money is used for qualified educational expenses.

    While you also won’t have to pay state tax on earnings (same as federal), there are some additional state tax implications to be aware of.

    These state tax benefits are a bit more complicated because they vary state-to-state.

    Blue USA map with borders of the states and names on grunge background illustrating that each state offers a different 529 college savings plan.

    Remember, there is no federal tax benefit when you make your original contributions. But, most states do offer its residents a tax break on their original contributions for investing in-state.

    Morningstar has a detailed breakdown of which states offer additional tax benefits to its own residents.

    If your state offers tax benefits to invest in-state, that’s usually a good reason to choose your in-state plan.

    My wife and I use Illinois’ 529 plan, called Bright Start 529, for the added tax benefits we receive as Illinois residents.

    Besides the state tax benefits, keep in mind that not all 529 plans are created equal. 529 plans may offer different investment options or charge different fees. States may also provide different level of oversight, which may be important to protect your investments.

    You should always do your homework before choosing a plan to find one that matches your goals.

    I’ve found Morningstar’s rankings and analysis of each state’s plan to be the most helpful tool. According to Morningstar’s most recent rankings, the top 529 plans are offered by:

    1. Alaska
    2. Illinois
    3. Massachusetts
    4. Pennsylvania
    5. Utah

    To recap, when choosing which 529 plan to participate in, pay attention to what investment options are available within that plan. Also, look to see if you will qualify for additional state tax benefits.

    How much can I contribute to a 529 plan?

    Besides choosing the type of investments in your 529 plan, you can also choose how and when to contribute.

    Some people prefer automatic monthly contributions. Others prefer to contribute sporadically throughout the year, like when they receive a bonus at work.

    Unlike with most retirement plans, there are no yearly contribution limits for 529 plans. Instead, each state sets lifetime contribution limits per beneficiary, typically ranging from $235,000 to $550,000.

    This is a good time to point out that you can have a separate account for each of your kids. This allows you to save more money overall sine the contribution limits apply separately to each kid.

    It’s also a good idea to have separate accounts when you have different investment horizons based on the ages of your kids.

    For a complete list of the contribution limits by state, click here.

    By the way, if those limits sound incredibly high to you, you may be in for a shock when it comes time to pay for college.

    Keep reading to see what the projected costs of attending college are for a current kindergarten student.

    What happens if my kid does not go to college or I have money left over?

    If you have money left over in your 529 plan, you have some options. You can use that money for one of your other kids, without penalty. You can save it for a grandchild.

    As of 2024, you can roll extra 529 funds into a Roth IRA for the beneficiary, with some limitations. This was a terrific development for families worried about having too much money saved for college.

    If none of the available options work for you, rest assured that your money will always still be your money. You will have to pay a penalty and some taxes. Any unused earnings are subject to a 10% federal tax penalty plus income tax.

    How much should I be saving in my 529 college savings account?

    This is the ultimate question, right?

    While nobody can say for certain how much college will cost or how your investments will perform, we can make reasonable estimates to help form your strategy using an online calculator.

    I like the calculator available on Illinois Bright Start 529 website. What’s nice about this website is you can look up the future estimated cost of attending specific schools around the country.

    I also like using calculator.net. They have a College Cost Calculator where you can see how much college costs on average today and how much it is estimated to cost when your child starts college.

    Whatever online calculator you use, you’ll have to make some assumptions when you start plugging in numbers.

    For example, nobody can predict what your exact investment return rate will be. That said, you still need to plug a number into the calculator.

    What number should you use for investment return rate?

    • Bankrate.com and NerdWallet each suggest using an investment return rate of 10% annually (before inflation) based on historical stock market performance.

    10% seems like a reasonable number to use, keeping in mind that we’re just looking for an estimate to help us decide how much to save for college. Your actual returns may be lower.

    Besides the estimated return rate, you’ll also need to account for the rising costs of college. Most of the online calculators recommend you assume the cost of college will increase by 5% each year. That also sounds reasonable to me.

    One last thing: it’s never a bad idea to run through different investment scenarios to get a more complete picture. Try playing around with what the numbers look like if your investments only return 8% per year. Or, see what happens if college costs increase by 6% per year.

    With these assumptions in mind, you can start to get an idea of how much you should be saving for college today.

    Be warned, the dollar amount will probably scare you.

    Let’s look at an example using a current kindergarten student.

    Illinois’ Bright Start 529 calculator estimates that the cost of this kindergarten student attending the University of Illinois Urbana-Champaign will be $264,735.

    Assuming you don’t have any current savings and you estimate a 10% annual rate of return, the Bright Start 529 calculator indicates you should save $10,796 per year.

    Does that sound like a lot of money?

    Want to really be scared?

    What if your kindergarten student is interested in private school for college? Maybe your child has his heart set on Northwestern University?

    Bright Start 529 estimates the cost of Northwestern University for your kindergarten student will be $691,942. That means if you have no current savings, you should be contributing $28,217 per year.

    Yikes.

    And that’s only for one kid.

    How are you supposed to save that much money for college?

    If these numbers sound scary to you, what can you do about it?

    I have some thoughts:

    1. First, you need to spend some time thinking and talking about why it’s important to you to be good with money. Maybe the reason is as simple as paying for your kids’ college. Whatever your money motivations are, write them down. This is what I did with my Tiara Goals for Financial Freedom.
    2. With the right motivation in mind, you then need to make a Budget After Thinking. The overall purpose of your budget is to generate fuel for your future goals, including paying for college.
    3. Next, you need to stick to that budget by tracking two simple numbers. Making a budget does you no good if you aren’t sticking to it.
    4. Monitor your savings rate and aim for steady improvement over time, even if you’re only able to save a small amount to begin with.
    5. While you start to build your savings for college, avoid the three big causes for why many of us fall into debt, which can cancel out all your progress.
    6. Along the way, talk to your people. Remember the cardinal rule of Think and Talk Money: talking about money is not taboo. You are not alone in trying to save for college or trying to live a financially responsible life. Talking to your people will help you stay on track when times seem tough.

    The most important thing is that you take responsibility for your own money life.

    Nobody else can do this for you.

    The good news is that embracing these tips will help you beyond just paying for college. These are the exact strategies that will lead you to a life of financial freedom, the ultimate goal for many of us.

    It’s not supposed to be easy. If it were easy, everybody we do it.

    By educating yourself on 529 plans and talking to your people about money, you are way ahead of the curve.

    Do you have a plan to save for college?

    • Have you started saving for college?
    • Are you currently using a 529 college savings plan?
    • How do you motivate yourself to make regular contributions in light of other financial goals?

    Let us know in the comments below!

  • Money on My Mind: Global Happiness

    Money on My Mind: Global Happiness

    This week, we discuss recent reports on global happiness and starting families.

    We also discuss lessons from successful businesses that we can apply to our personal lives.

    The World Happiness Report 2025

    Since 2012, an organization known as The World Happiness Report (WHR) has studied global wellbeing and how to improve it.

    Each year, they analyze data from 140 countries and publish their findings in an effort to give everyone the knowledge to create more happiness for themselves and others.

    That sounds like a great mission to me.

    They also publish a global happiness ranking of all the countries studied. The rankings are based on answers to a single question:

    Please imagine a ladder with steps numbered from 0 at the bottom to 10 at the top. The top of the ladder represents the best possible life for you and the bottom of the ladder represents the worst possible life for you. On which step of the ladder would you say you personally feel you stand at this time?

    WHR explains that this “life evaluation” question empowers people to make their own judgments about what matters most.

    As part of its analysis, WHR uses economic modeling to explain countries’ average life evaluation scores. They look at six variables, and one of them jump out at me:

    “Freedom to make life choices.”

    What countries would you guess scored the highest on the 2025 rankings?

    The top five countries in the happiness rankings are:

    1. Finland
    2. Denmark
    3. Iceland
    4. Sweden
    5. Netherlands

    Each of these nations has ranked near the top for a long time.

    Where is the United States on the happiness chart?

    The United States fell to number 24, its lowest happiness ranking ever.

    The United States’ highest ranking was 11th place way back in 2011.

    I’m not totally surprised that the United States’ ranking is as low as it’s ever been.

    We’ve discussed some theories that may help explain this drop:

    I wasn’t surprised to see the United States rank 24th in the global happiness rankings, but I was shocked by the sub-ranking for this specific question:

    Are you satisfied or dissatisfied with your freedom to choose what you do with your life?

    The United States ranked 115th out of 147 countries in response to the freedom question!

    That ranking truly shocked me.

    It also helps explain one of the primary goals of Think and Talk Money: to help each of us reach financial freedom.

    When we are financially free, we can choose to live life on our own terms. To me, that sounds a lot like what the WHR freedom question is trying to answer.

    When you have financial freedom, you can make important decisions based on what truly matters. When you don’t have financial freedom, you risk making unsatisfactory decisions for money reasons.

    We can choose to spend more time with the people who are meaningful to us.

    We can choose to use our skills for work that is meaningful to us.

    Group of happy friends posing for a selfie on a spring day as they party together outdoors because they understand happiness is tied to financial freedom.

    Most of us grow up thinking that life only revolves around getting an education and then getting a job. We don’t allow ourselves to believe that financial freedom is possible for us.

    This was exactly how I felt before I wrote down my Tiara Goals one day on the beach in 2017.

    My goal with Think and Talk Money is to help us all realize that financial independence is within our reach. If we can think and talk about our money choices even a little bit every week, we can make sure our money life remains in balance with the rest of our life.

    By practicing strong personal finance habits, each of us can feel more satisfied with our freedom to choose what to do with our lives.

    How would you rank yourself on the freedom question?

    Are you satisfied with your freedom to choose what you do with your life?

    What are your core values?

    Have you ever written down your core values?

    Do you know what you’re striving for?

    Successful businesses look at these questions regularly. I find it helpful to learn how successful businesses operate so I can apply similar principles to my own life.

    For example, there’s a great business book called Traction by Gino Wickman. In the book, Wickman encourages businesses to focus on vision, mission, and values.

    It seems like a pretty good idea for all of us to think about vision, mission, and values as they apply to our own lives.

    For example, if you’re one of the nearly half of Americans not taking your PTO, are you making that choice based on your core values?

    It’s possible that you are. Perhaps you’re being strategic and have formulated a plan to benefit from all those extra hours at the office.

    Or, it’s possible that you’ve never really stopped to think about why you’re working so much. You’ve never paused to articulate to yourself what you want out of life.

    In Traction, Wickman makes a compelling argument why businesses should not skip this crucial step.

    We all should take the same step in our personal lives. In 2017, I wrote down my core values, what I call my Tiara Goals.

    Looking at the big picture, my Tiara Goals have helped me visualize what I truly want out of life.

    In the short term, my Tiara Goals help guide me through difficult decisions. As long as I’m clear with myself about what I want in the long run, I can make daily decisions to get my closer to those goals.

    Millennials want more kids but can’t afford them.

    According to a recent report from Business Insider, Millennials want more kids but can’t afford them.

    This makes me sad.

    The study points to rising costs, as well as the reality that Millennials are saddled with large amounts of student loan debt.

    Combined, it makes sense that Millennials are worried about money.

    If you want to start a family, or grow your family, what better motivation could there be to spend a little bit of time each week thinking and talking about money.

    If this is your reality, or you know someone in this position, establishing strong personal finance habits is crucial.

    Each week at Think and Talk Money, we focus on developing these strong personal finance habits.

    Please share Think and Talk Money with your friends and loved ones.

    I hope that in spreading the word about Think and Talk Money, we can all help each other make big life decisions without worrying about money.

    This is important whether you are hoping to start a family or have other life goals in mind.

    We can all benefit from making intentional and informed decisions with our money.

  • Money on My Mind: Always Working?

    Money on My Mind: Always Working?

    Simple question. Don’t lie to yourself.

    Do you work too much?

    I’m not asking if you work too hard.

    I mean too much, as in too many hours of your life dedicated to a job.

    I started thinking about this question after recently coming across a few surveys.

    Let’s talk it out. Let me know what you think in the comments below.

    I am shocked by these survey results.

    I’m not often surprised by survey results. This is one of the rare exceptions.

    According to a recent report from MyPerfectResume, 81% of workers worry they may lose their jobs in 2025.

    8 out of 10 people! Is it just me, or is that mind-boggling?

    On the flip side, only 4% of workers report no concerns about losing their jobs.

    These numbers are shocking to me, but maybe I shouldn’t be that surprised. As Yahoo Finance explains,

    Many large corporations have already announced or kicked off a round of layoffs, including Chevron, CNN, Estee Lauder, Meta, and Southwest Airlines. And that, of course, doesn’t count the thousands of workers terminated under Elon Musk’s campaign to reduce the federal workforce.

    My mind immediately jumps to a follow-up question:

    How many of those people worried about losing their jobs have an emergency savings account?

    Sadly, the answer is probably very few people have meaningful savings.

    Surveys like this one motivate me to continue bringing attention to core personal finance issues, like having adequate emergency savings. This is why I so strongly believe that talking about money is not taboo.

    Life is too short and too precious to be in a constant state of worry. Is there any sense worrying about something, like getting laid off, when you have practically no control over whether it happens or not?

    Instead of worrying about what we can’t control, I think it’s better to use our energy on what we can control, like saving up for emergencies.

    Hopefully, you’re not one of these people worried about losing your job. If you are, there’s no better time than right now to prioritize your savings.

    If the first survey shocked me, this one just makes me angry.

    According to this Pew Research Center study, 46% of US workers take less paid time-off than they’re offered.

    I need to say that again.

    Nearly half of US workers choose to work more days than they are required to!

    And, it gets worse if you’re a high earner or highly educated.

    According to the same study, the more money you earn, the less likely you are to take your full paid time-off.

    The more educated you are, the less likely you are to take your full paid time-off.

    The more senior you are, like being a manager vs. non-manager, the less likely you are to take your full paid time-off.

    If the first survey mentioned above surprised me, this one just makes me angry.

    Do you recognize a difference between working hard and always working?

    Don’t misunderstand why these results make me angry. It’s not about working hard vs. slacking off. It’s not about being a good employee vs. a bad employee. I am 100% in favor of people working hard and working with integrity to get the job done.

    My frustration is that somewhere along the way, “working hard” turned into “always working.”

    By the way, before you accuse me of being a slacker, I am no stranger to working hard.

    I work full-time as a lawyer, manage 11 rental properties, teach law school courses on Wednesdays and Sundays, and publish three blog posts per week. Still, none of these things are more important to me than spending quality time with my family.

    Years ago, I first read Tim Ferris’ game-changing book, The 4-Hour Workweek. Ferris described how his small business took off as soon as he started doing less, not more. He empowered his staff and stopped himself from getting in the way. Not only did his company thrive, he had more time available to pursue what really mattered in his life.

    Since writing The 4-Hour Workweek, Ferris has become one of the most influential thought leaders around. To learn more from Ferris, visit his website here.

    Why do you work so much?

    If you’re one of these people choosing to work more hours instead of taking your earned vacation time, have you ever asked yourself why?

    Keep in mind, these are days off that your company has already agreed to give you. You earned them. Why are you not taking them?

    Are you worried about getting fired? Passed up for a promotion? Is your self-worth tied to how many hours per week you work?

    Years from now, when your grandkids are huddled up for story time, do you plan on telling them how much you worked and how many life experiences you skipped out on?

    These are hard questions to truthfully answer. If you’re being honest with yourself, you may start thinking about another set of questions:

    Is this job the right job for me? Do I want to spend my life stressed from working too much? What would be a better use of my working hours so I can spend more time doing the things that I love with the people that I love?

    I’ve spent a lot of time thinking about these questions. I’ve realized that I’ll never understand what the point is of working so much at the cost of spending time with the things and people you love.

    Maybe I’m the weird one. But, I don’t think I am. Unfortunately, the data backs me up and confirms that working too much can have series consequences.

    Fortunately, we can learn from strategies geared towards retirees. Let me explain.

    Apply lessons for retirees to your life today.

    Writing for BBC Science Focus Magazine, Hayley Bennett shares 5 expert tips for a healthy post-work life.

    The tips include finding a purpose, strengthening your body, and rebuilding your brain.

    Woman on beach in summer thinking about spending more time during her working years living with purpose and focused on health as learned on Think and Talk Money.

    When I came across this story, I immediately thought that we shouldn’t wait for retirement to do these things. This is solid advice for all of us, at any stage in our lives.

    Do you know what sounds pretty great to me?

    A life filled with purpose sounds pretty great. The same goes for being fit and smart.

    The challenge is that work often gets in the way.

    When we let this happen, the consequences can be catastrophic.

    As just one example, lawyers as a profession have long struggled with mental health issues. I first learned about these challenges during law school orientation. Today, I see it in practice. Being a lawyer is a hard way to make a living. When you work as a lawyer, the hours are intense and stress levels are consistently high.

    In 2023, the Washington Post analyzed data from the U.S. Bureau of Labor to determine what the most stressful jobs are. The study confirmed that lawyers are the most stressed.

    Of course, lawyers are not alone in struggling in this regard due to long, stressful hours. The same study showed that people working in the finance and insurance industries were right up there with lawyers as being highly stressed.

    Anecdotally, I’ve personally talked to people recently in a wide variety of other fields, like consultants and small business owners, who are frustrated for the same reasons.

    The point is, regardless of industry, many of us struggle with work stress.

    What can we do about it?

    That’s a complicated question with many possible answers. For starters, I firmly believe that by building strong personal finance habits, we can create more opportunities to find purpose and practice good health.

    I recommend you think back to our conversations about Parachute Money and why you should want to be good with money. When you’ve made thoughtful money choices, you can choose to live a life right now on your terms rather than waiting until retirement.

    I agree with what you’re probably thinking. These are not easy or fun topics to think about. However, in my opinion, it’s much worse to let life go by while failing to take responsibility.

    Am I wrong about people working too much?

    Maybe I’m wrong about people working too much?

    I don’t think I am.

    The data paints a very sad picture for lawyers, and I have to believe anyone else working long and hard hours. If you have similar data about your profession, please share it with us. I hope I’m wrong about what that data will show, but I fear I’m right.

    As always, let us know what you think in the comments below.

    And, thank you for continuing to share stories you’ve come across that would be good to discuss here.

  • How to Responsibly Use Good Debt

    How to Responsibly Use Good Debt

    There may not be a more polarizing debate in personal finance than the concept of Good Debt vs. Bad Debt.

    “Good Debt” generally means loans used to acquire income generating assets, like rental properties or businesses.

    “Bad Debt” generally refers to consumer debt, which is personal debt owed because of buying things for personal or household use. For most people, this simply means credit card debt.

    Two absolute giants in the field, Robert Kiyosaki (of Rich Dad Poor Dad fame) and Dave Ramsey (maybe the most well known personal finance expert in the world), take opposite viewpoints.

    If you’d like to learn more about Kiyosaki, check out his website here. For more on Ramsey, click here.

    Before addressing their different opinions, it’s important to highlight that both Kiyosaki and Ramsey agree on a critical point:

    All consumer debt is bad.

    You’d be hard-pressed to find any personal finance expert who says that credit card debt is OK. I’d be concerned if you found anyone at all, expert or not, who seriously took the position that credit card debt is OK.

    We’ve talked about how this type of debt is scary and can drag down your finances. We also explored the three big reasons why people end up with credit card debt. The bottom line is you’ll never be truly financially free if you’re burdened by debt.

    A quick side note: There is some difference in opinion as to what else besides credit card debt qualifies as consumer debt. For example, is your primary home mortgage considered consumer debt? What about your student loan debt? I’ll give you my take below.

    Now, let’s take a look at how each Kiyosaki and Ramsey differ on Good Debt v. Bad Debt.

    Kiyosaki believes in the power of Good Debt.

    Kiyosaki argues that Good Debt is a powerful tool to generate consistent cash flow from investments. Kiyosaki defines Good Debt as debt that is used to buy assets like real estate or businesses that generate income.

    As long as the debt leads to positive income, it’s considered Good Debt. For example, Good Debt would include taking out a mortgage to buy a cash flowing rental property.

    Kiyosaki suggests that Good Debt can be responsibly used to quickly acquire more assets, even if the debt is considered a liability.

    To better understand the difference between assets and liabilities, check out our post on net worth.

    In Rich Dad Poor Dad, Kiyosaki discusses in detail how investors grow their wealth through the responsible use of Good Debt.

    Ramsey believes all debt is Bad Debt.

    Ramsey could not disagree more with Kiyosaki.

    If it were up to Ramsey, there would be no distinction between “Good Debt” and “Bad Debt.” All debt is bad and carries risks that will weigh on your emotions and drag down your net worth.

    Ramsey is adamant that debt should not be used as a tool to build wealth. He contends that a person’s income is the best way to consistently build wealth.

    In his bestselling book, The Total Money Makeover, Ramsey walks you through how to build wealth without relying on debt.

    So, where do I come out on the Good Debt v. Bad Debt debate?

    Kiyosaki and Ramsey are personal finance legends. There’s no right or wrong in this debate. I appreciate each of their viewpoints.

    Ultimately, what side of the debate am I on?

    I’m on Team Kiyosaki.

    When you responsibly use Good Debt, you can more quickly create income streams to accelerate your journey towards Parachute Money. However, if you’re struggling with consumer debt, taking on any additional debt, even Good Debt, is a bad idea.

    Like other real estate investors, my wife and I have experienced firsthand the power of Good Debt. In seven years, we have acquired four cash flowing rental properties (three in Chicago, one in Colorado) that add extra income to our personal balance sheet each month. Without that income coming in, our financial picture would look completely different.

    On top of that, we have benefited from appreciation with each of our properties, further increasing our net worth. Of course, appreciation is largely out of anyone’s control. Market conditions have been very favorable for us.

    Some people may condescendingly say that we’re just lucky. As bestselling author and thought leader Mel Robbins would say, “Let them think that!”

    Of course we’ve been lucky!

    That doesn’t change the fact that we acted on opportunities when others only talked. We lived in small apartments for six years with a growing family. We responded to tenants whether we were on vacation or it was the middle of the night. Above all else, we stayed disciplined, focused on our goals, and paid the bills even when money was tight.

    For these and so many other reasons, I believe in the responsible use of Good Debt to acquire cash flowing assets.

    Just because we’ve taken on debt doesn’t mean we don’t worry about it.

    All that said, Ramsey’s voice still rings in my ears when it comes to debt. Up to this point in our lives, my wife and I are comfortable with the Good Debt we’ve taken on to build our portfolio. Even so, we frequently think about Ramsey’s point of view and the valid debt risks he highlights.

    Even with the extra rental income coming in, we still feel the heavy burden of mortgage debt. That’s why our goal for 2025 is to prioritize eliminating as much mortgage debt as possible. While we are comfortable with a certain level of debt, we don’t ever want to be reckless.

    If you’re thinking about using debt to acquire assets, don’t ever ignore the heavy emotional toll that debt will have on you. Just as importantly, if you’ve struggled with debt in the past, be careful about going down that road again.

    It’s easy to get blinded by the potential cashflow of an investment while ignoring the accompanying debt. Long before you ever sign the loan documents, make sure you’ve done your homework and thought hard about what it’ll take to pay that loan off.

    What about primary residence mortgage debt and student loans?

    I mentioned that I would share my perspective on whether debt to buy a primary residence or student loan debt is Good Debt.

    I think both should absolutely be considered Good Debt.

    This is one area where Kiyosaki and I don’t agree.

    Why I consider a primary home mortgage Good Debt.

    Kiyosaki favors using Good Debt to buy assets, meaning investments that put money in your pocket. A primary home does not put money in your pocket, so Kiyosaki would not recommend using debt for this purchase.

    He’s not alone in this viewpoint. Many smart people think it’s financially foolish to buy a primary residence instead of renting. For an in-depth analysis on the question of buying vs. renting, check out this video from Khan Academy.

    I don’t agree with this viewpoint. For most of us, our primary residence is the best way to build generational wealth for our families. This is not my personal strategy for building wealth. That said, I understand that this strategy is how most of us do build wealth.

    Besides just wealth building, I appreciate more than ever how owning a home can be emotionally beneficial. Since we moved to our longterm home, I’ve already experienced the psychological benefits of establishing roots and feeling connected to a community. After bouncing around apartments in Chicago for nearly 20 years, I can tell you that it feels good having a permanent home.

    So, I consider a primary home mortgage Good Debt. For similar reasons, unlike Kiyosaki, I recommend including your primary residence in your net worth.

    Why I consider student loans Good Debt.

    I also disagree with Kiyosaki on whether student loans count as Good Debt.

    I don’t want to put words in Kiyosaki’s mouth, but his perspective seems mostly shaped by how he feels about the modern educational system in this country.

    How exactly does he feel about our education system?

    He… hates it.

    All things considered, it makes perfect sense that he thinks student debt is Bad Debt.

    I don’t agree. I’m grateful for my education through law school. I learned how to think and solve problems. I learned how to challenge myself and do hard things. I think this is true for anyone that goes to school and takes it somewhat seriously.

    I’m not discounting Kiyosaki’s point that maybe the system needs fixing. Regardless, I believe that education opens doors, whether that’s through connections made along the way or licenses earned (like the license to practice law).

    From my perspective, debt incurred to pay for that experience and training is well worth it.

    If that wasn’t enough, the data shows highly educated people earn more money. In fact, men with graduate degrees earn $1.5 million more over a lifetime than those with only high school degrees. That’s another reason why I consider an investment in yourself through student loans Good Debt.

    Are you Team Kiyosaki or Team Ramsey?

    Maybe you feel there is such a thing as Good Debt. Maybe not. Either perspective is completely valid.

    In the end, can we at least all agree that credit card debt is always bad debt?

    Are you Team Kiyosaki or Team Ramsey?

    Let us know in the comments below.

  • Scary Stats to Know about Debt

    Scary Stats to Know about Debt

    My four-year-old daughter created a game recently that I’ll call “The Raise Your Hand Game!”

    At random times, she’ll say something like, “Raise your hand if you have an ‘M’ in your name!”

    I raise my hand. Refusing to play along is not an option.

    With my hand in the air, she’ll nod in approval that I participated and didn’t lie.

    That’s the whole game.

    Let’s play. I’ll be the host.

    “Raise your hand if you currently have debt!”

    Come on, play along. Get those hands up.

    Nearly 80% of you should have your hand in the air.

    Yup, 8 out of 10 of us have some form of debt. Put another way, just about everyone reading this post has debt. That’s why learning to effectively deal with debt is a core personal finance concept.

    For the next couple of weeks in the blog, we’re going to focus on debt so we can continue our progress towards financial independence.

    Those of us who can successfully eliminate debt will move closer and closer to financial independence.

    Those of us who don’t want to learn will remain debt’s financial prisoner.

    As we begin our discussion on debt, let’s start with some scary statistics.

    According to the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, total household debt in the United States grew to $18.04 trillion by the end of 2024. That’s such a big number, it’s hard to know what to do with that information.

    Let’s break it down by the type of debt:

    • Credit card balances increased by $45 billion from the previous quarter and reached $1.21 trillion at the end of December 2024.
    • Auto loan balances increased by $11 billion to $1.66 trillion.
    • Mortgage balances also increased by $11 billion and reached $12.61 trillion.
    • HELOC balances increased by $9 billion to $396 billion.
    • Other balances, reflecting retail cards and other consumer loans, increased by $8 billion.
    • Student loan balances increased by $9 billion to reach $1.62 trillion.

    While these numbers are still too big to comprehend, one powerful conclusion is hard to miss:

    In every category, the amount of debt increased from the previous quarter.

    This pattern of increasing consumer debt has been consistent for some time now. HELOC balances have increased for eleven consecutive quarters. Credit card balances have increased or remained the same for 10 of the last 11 quarters.

    Now, let’s look at the statistics on a per household basis.

    Per household, we see the same picture of increasing consumer debt in the United States.

    According to an Experian report that compared consumer debt per household from 2023 to 2024, we see that:

    • Credit card balances increased 3.5% to $6,730.
    • Auto loan balances increased 2.1% to $24,297.
    • Mortgage balances increased 3.3% to $252,505.
    • HELOC balances increased by 7.2% to $45,157.
    • Student loan balances actually decreased by 9.2% in 2024 to $35,208. This one’s an outlier due to federal loan forgiveness programs.

    Let’s look closer at credit card debt for a moment.

    According to a recent survey looking at credit card debt in 2024 by Bankrate.com:

    • 48% of credit card holders carry a debt balance, an increase of 9% since 2021.
    • 53% of the people have been in credit card debt for more than a year.
    • The main causes of credit card debt are unexpected medical bills (15%), car repairs (9%) and home repairs (7%).

    According to another Bankrate.com survey, 33% of Americans report they have more credit card debt than emergency savings.

    These last couple stats helps us begin to understand why so many people fall into debt in the first place. It goes back to our previous conversation about the importance of emergency savings. When we don’t have savings, the first place we turn is to our credit cards.

    Consumer debt is a worldwide problem.

    While the above statistics are specific to the United States, you’re not off the hook if you live elsewhere. In fact, the data in your nation may be worse.

    Any readers in Denmark, Norway or Switzerland?

    According to a recent study by Compare the Market, these three nations lead the way with the highest household debt. The same study ranked the United States at number 18.

    What can we learn from these scary debt statistics?

    Whether we look at the national figures or per household numbers, the picture is clear.

    Worldwide, we have a consumer debt problem. And, it’s getting worse.

    For most of our conversation on debt, we’ll focus on credit card debt. Most everyone agrees this is the worst kind of debt to have. It’s also the type of debt that’s the most relatable applicable to many of us, regardless of where we are in our careers.

    Before we go any further, it’s important to understand the two main reasons why I share studies like these about debt.

    1. If you are currently in debt, please know that you are not alone.

    These scary stats make it abundantly clear that many of us are struggling with debt. You probably don’t know if your friends and family are in debt because we’ve been brainwashed not to talk about money.

    As you know, I’m on a mission to change that.

    Nearly half of us in America are burdened with credit card debt. And yes, it is a heavy burden. There’s no sense in trying to convince yourself that you’re not worried about it.

    The good news is there are proven strategies for getting out of debt that we will learn in upcoming posts.

    These strategies are not hard to implement, but they are challenging to stick with. Temptation to overspend is everywhere. To succeed in eliminating your debt, you need to have strong motivations.

    Personal finance always come back to your money mindset. Just like with budgeting, I can give you proven techniques and strategies.

    If your money mindset is not in the right place, it won’t matter. You’ll stay in debt, or worse, your debt will continue to increase.

    2. If you think you are immune from falling into debt, think again.

    When we are presented with statistics like this, it’s not uncommon for us to be in denial. We might say to ourselves:

    “No, I understand that other people are in debt. But, that won’t happen to me.”

    Or, “No, I make good money. I can pay off my credit card debt if I really wanted to.”

    If it were really that easy, then why do half of Americans carry credit card debt? Why is our credit card debt growing instead of shrinking?

    You may not currently be in credit card debt, and that’s a very good thing. But, what if one of those emergencies mentioned above surfaces in your life?

    • If you were hit with a large, unexpected medical bill, could you cover it without credit cards?
    • What if your roof needs to be replaced? Or, your furnace breaks during the middle of winter? Do you have tens of thousands of dollars saved to cover these necessary expenses?
    • Do you own a car? How awful is that annoying “Check Engine” light? A simple trip to the mechanic could be another few thousand dollars out of your pocket.

    These types of financial emergencies do not discriminate. Each one of these situations could happen to any of us at any time. Let’s not forget that 90% of us are not completely satisfied with our savings. That means almost all of us would have to turn to credit cards to cover these emergencies.

    Credit cards, close up, illustrating on Think and Talk Money that too many people worldwide have some form of debt.

    Ending up in debt might come as an unpleasant shock to you. Knowing these statistics will hopefully put your mind at ease that you’re not alone.

    So, even if you’re comfortable in your job and make good money, you may still end up in debt. If you do end up in debt, the lessons we’ll soon learn will ensure that your stay in the financial penalty box is as short as possible.

    In our series on debt, we’ll soon learn:

    • How in today’s world of social media, “Keeping up with the Joneses” is really more like “Keeping up with the Kardashians.”
    • There is a difference between “good debt” and “bad debt.” When used responsibly, good debt can help you reach your financial goals faster.
    • Paying off debt is hard. It’s heavy. It’s stressful. There’s no shame in admitting that. Just because it’s hard, doesn’t mean we can ignore it any longer.
    • The top strategies to pay off debt as efficiently and painlessly as possible.

    Whether you currently have debt or smartly want to be prepared just in case, our series on debt is crucial for anyone seeking financial independence. There is no faster way to undue all your hard work than to fall into debt.

    You don’t need me to tell you that debt is a major barrier to reaching financial freedom. In fact, debt is oftentimes the exact opposite of financial freedom.

    When you have debt, your choices are limited. It’s like you’re in financial prison. When you are free of debt, you are in control.

    Learning about handling debt does not have to be depressing or scary. When we talk it out together, I think you’ll find that you’re not alone. Like with all hard things, there’s no point in struggling by yourself.

    Hands in the air. We got this.

  • Why it’s Not Taboo to Talk Money

    Why it’s Not Taboo to Talk Money

    Why do so many smart people feel like they’re barely getting by?

    Even with salaries of more than $100,000, too many people across the United States are living paycheck to paycheck.

    Whether you are a high earner or not, we all need to exert mental energy on our personal finances. Don’t make the mistake that just because you make a lot of money, you are immune.

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    One of the biggest misconceptions in personal finance is that people that make a lot of money don’t have money worries.

    I’m not saying that we should feel sorry for people that are high earners. I’m pointing out that personal finance education is important for all of us.

    It’s not your fault if you’ve made poor money choices, up to a point.

    I don’t blame anyone, high earners included, for making poor money choices (up to a point). Most people never learn basic personal finance skills.

    Think about an emergency room physician. He was likely one of the top students in his class his entire life. He’s proven that he can learn complex matters. He can do the hardest things imaginable, like saving someone’s life.

    The problem is he was never taught to use his brain to manage his own personal finances.

    If that ER doctor is living paycheck to paycheck, he likely won’t receive much sympathy. He’s probably blamed for not making better money choices.

    People will say he makes plenty of money. It’s his own fault. He must be irresponsible or selfish or craves expensive things.

    I don’t think that’s fair.

    I think that ER doctor should get a pass from undeserved judgment. I’m not saying you have to feel bad for him or offer him your sympathies. What I am saying is he should be given a chance to learn about personal finance just like the rest of us.

    Does that mean he is forever excused from taking responsibility for his money choices?

    Of course not.

    We all need to take responsibility to educate ourselves. That’s the reason a website dedicated to thinking and talking about money exists in the first place.

    Fortunately, more than half of the United States now requires some form of personal finance education for high school students.

    That’s a great start, but it’s not enough.

    Personal finance education is for all stages of our lives.

    Personal finance education needs to continue throughout adulthood. So many of the concepts we talk about won’t resonate with high school kids who are still provided for by their parents.

    Personally, I needed to feel the pain of being out on my own before the core lessons sunk in. I had no perspective prior to that.

    One of my priorities with Think and Talk Money is to help you learn these core principles before you feel too much pain.

    If you’re in the early stages of your career, there is no better time than now to develop strong money habits. It can be very difficult to correct bad habits as time goes on. A better plan is to work on developing good money habits now.

    If you’re already established in your career, maybe all you need is a reminder or a sounding board to more consistently make good choices.

    If you’ve struggled up to this point and want to work on your money habits, there’s good news. You have a major advantage.

    You’ve felt the pain.

    Elementary Classroom of Diverse Bright Children Listening Attentively to their Teacher Giving Lesson. Brilliant Young Kids in School Learning to Be Great Scientists, Doctors, Programmers, Astronauts, but not learning about personal finance, which is why they need Think and Talk Money.

    You know what it’s like to live paycheck to paycheck.

    Use that perspective to motivate yourself to make adjustments.

    Don’t blame yourself or feel ashamed. Like the ER doctor, personal finance education wasn’t something you knew you needed. Now you know better. Time is still on your side, if you get started today.

    Talking about money is not taboo.

    One of my other priorities with Think and Talk Money is to confront the negative money stereotypes that dominate society. To start with, I’m on a mission against the common refrain that it’s taboo to talk about money with our family and friends.

    Are we supposed to accept that it’s better to struggle alone?

    That we should isolate ourselves in a constant state of worry?

    That we are forbidden from seeking out help by talking to the people we trust the most?

    I refuse to accept any of that.

    Who even said talking about money is taboo in the first place?

    What does “taboo” even mean? Let’s look it up.

    Taboo: “Banned on grounds of morality or taste.”

    Morality or taste? What does that mean? Let’s look up “moral.”

    Moral: “of or relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior.”

    Ah, I see.

    With these definitions as context, let me try to define taboo in terms that actually make sense:

    Taboo means we shouldn’t do things that we know are wrong.

    OK, that I get.

    I’m flipping the script on what taboo means when it comes to money.

    And with that understanding in mind, I’m flipping the script on what taboo means when it comes to money.

    I can keep going all day. I think you get the point. Talking money is not taboo.

    Keep an eye out for posts about the current money conversations I’m having.

    In the spirit of convincing you that talking money is not taboo, we are introducing a new post series this week. In this continuing series, I will highlight the current money conversations that I’m having with my friends and family.

    In our first of these posts later this week, I’ll share how my wife and I recently talked through our decision to split our Later Money between emergency savings, college savings and mortgage debt.

    I’ll also share some of the empowering conversations I’ve had recently with Think and Talk Money readers. I learn so much from these conversations, whether they’re with my mesothelioma clients, my students, or my friends.

    Let’s flip the narrative together.

    Talking money is not taboo. The only thing that’s taboo is avoiding your personal finances.

    Have you had any beneficial money talks lately? How did it feel afterwards?

    Please continue to reach out in the comments or on socials with your responses and thoughts.

  • Strong Motivation to Talk Money with Friends

    Strong Motivation to Talk Money with Friends

    My favorite teachers share a common gift of using analogies to make a teaching point more clear. My mentor and moot court coach in law school (he preferred we call him Sensei) was an expert at analogies.

    Back in law school, after working for months on a brief for a moot court competition, my team messed up and submitted a brief with a bad formatting error on the cover page.

    We knew we were going to get penalized, but after months of working on it, we still felt proud of our work. And, it felt good to be done.

    Diverse students high fiving together after completing a moot court brief.

    We called Sensei in celebration that we were finished. When we told him about the formatting error, he was… not pleased.

    “You fumbled the ball on the one yard line!”

    I told you he was good with analogies.

    Analogies can help us internalize key money concepts.

    I’ve found that analogies work well when trying to implement key money wellness habits into our lives. Like the idea of generating fuel for our ultimate life goals through our budgeting choices.

    I’m always on the lookout for new analogies to help make money concepts more relatable. It probably has to do with the common misconception that being good with money means knowing the ins-and-outs of the stock market.

    That just isn’t true.

    I want to help people realize that being good with money has little to do with understanding the stock market and more to do with generating money to invest in the first place.

    Relating money concepts to other familiar areas of life can help with that.

    Fresh vegetables being added to soil in a garden, symbolizing healthy financial habits learned at Think and Talk Money.

    This is one of the things I like best about teaching personal finance. Money touches all aspects of our lives, whether we like it or not. So, talking about money is really just talking about life. Sometimes that means using analogies.

    Which leads us to Peloton.

    See you on the leaderboard.

    My wife and I bought a Peloton bike during the pandemic, probably like a lot of you. I’m still a big fan, especially because of the flexibility an at-home workout provides when juggling life with kids.

    If you’re also a Peloton fan, who are your favorite instructors? For me, it’s Alex Toussaint and Matt Wilpers. And recently, Selena Samuela, because she loves Fourth Wing.

    It occurred to me the other day that my friends and I talk about Peloton a fair amount. I pretty much know who all their favorite instructors are and what type of music they ride to. I’ve been accused of having a hot bike that juices my score, which I continue to deny.

    There’s nothing better than doing a Peloton ride at home and seeing that your friend is doing the same ride. It gives you a jolt of energy to know your friend, in that exact moment, is doing the same thing as you.

    You know where I’m going with this Peloton analogy.

    It’s long been normal to talk about and motivate each other to exercise. But, it’s still considered taboo to talk about money.

    Why can’t we talk about money the same way we talk about exercising?

    I’m guessing that you know exactly what your closest friends and family members do for exercise. Weights? Yoga? Jogging? You also know which people do nothing at all.

    I’m also guessing you have no clue what motivates each of these people to work 2,000 plus hours per year to make money.

    Or, what their strategies are for using that money they make to fuel their life goals.

    Exercising has long been made better with a personal trainer or a friend to keep you on track. Those days when you don’t feel like working out, having someone to push you is a great advantage.

    Why shouldn’t we seek out that same great advantage when it comes to our money, something that touches every aspect of our lives?

    Fit people lifting dumbbells together during a workout session symbolizing thinking and talking about money.

    This idea extends well beyond exercise habits. I’m sure you know your friends’ current favorite travel destinations, books, and food?

    For me, it’s Colorado, Fourth Wing, and Italian beef, obviously.

    Do you know your friends’ current money goals?

    For me, it’s paying down mortgage debt on our rental properties.

    What are you waiting for?

    When we moved to our new neighborhood, the first people we met at the playground were a lovely couple that own a local fitness center. They’re also real estate investors and have young kids, like us.

    We’ve become friends and have had some amazing talks about life and money. In one such talk, I mentioned that I was thinking about starting Think and Talk Money.

    My friend heard me out and didn’t say a word until I finished. He then looked me square in the eyes, like only a coach could do, and said, “What are you waiting for?”

    He was absolutely right. A few months later, I launched Think and Talk Money and sent him a message thanking him. I was grateful for our talk about life. He was happy to have motivated me.

    Our friends can help with money just like they can help with exercise.

    Lately, I’ve thought about how much my friends and I can help each other if we talked about money concepts just like we talk about Peloton.

    One thing to mention, I don’t want to give you the idea that we’re constantly talking about exercise. It comes up from time to time, every once in a while. That’s enough of a reminder to pay attention to our fitness. Talking money is the same thing.

    You don’t have to bring up money with your friends every week or even every month. How about just every once in a while when it’s on your mind? I think you’ll find your friends are the best people to help you stop worrying about money.

    I think you’ll also find that you can be the one helping and motivating your friends. You don’t have to be an expert. Sharing any ideas can help jumpstart the thought process for your friends. That’s a really good feeling.

    Always remember, the amount of money we have doesn’t matter anymore than our scores on the bike. There’s no reason to talk about numbers unless the people in your life are comfortable with that.

    One caveat, I encourage you to talk specifics with certain people who are impacted by your money choices, like a spouse or partner.

    The point of talking money is not to compare yourself to others.

    Fitness instructors know that it’s not helpful to tell people to compare themselves to each other. We’re all built physically different and emotionally different. Instead, they encourage us to seek personal improvement, consistently over time.

    That’s how we should be talking money with our friends.

    We all basically agree with this concept, right? That it’s not helpful to compare ourselves to others. That’s a lesson that’s been drilled into our brains since we were kids.

    Let’s remember that lesson when we start approaching our friends to talk money. It’s not how much money any of us have, it’s what we’re doing with that money to fuel our goals that matters.

    Do you talk to your friends about paying for college?

    Many of my friends have young kids like me and saving for college is a common goal we share.

    In news that’s not news to anyone, college is expensive.

    Wouldn’t it be beneficial for us to talk about how we’re planning to pay for it?

    Students in university paid for by parents who learned good money habits on Think and Talk Money

    By talking about paying for kids’ college educations with your friends, you may learn about education-specific investment accounts, like 529 plans, which is a common strategy we’ll soon discuss.

    You may also learn less common, but potentially more appealing, strategies for your situation. An example is buying an investment property when your kids are young with the intention of selling it years later to pay for college. This is what Brandon Turner did, and he’s a very smart guy.

    The idea is you may learn something that makes it more likely to achieve your goals, whether that’s paying for college or anything else, like saving up for a wedding or paying off student loans.

    Is there a stronger motivation than helping your friends and loved ones?

    You don’t have to talk numbers. Talk about the strategy and help each other stay consistent. You both will benefit.

    Is there any stronger motivation in life than helping our friends and loved ones? On the same note, what better people to learn from than your friends, people you know and trust.

    That’s what talking money is all about.

    Leave a comment below if you’ve talked money with any of your friends lately.

    How did it go?

    Did you learn anything that you’d recommend when approaching the topic of money?

  • How to Stay on Budget with Two Simple Numbers

    How to Stay on Budget with Two Simple Numbers

    Most of us humans are pretty good at avoiding things we don’t like. The things I’ve done to avoid mayonnaise…

    Budgeting falls into this category of avoidance. Even though most of us can appreciate that budgeting is a crucial step in money wellness, we still avoid it.

    Some of us give it a shot, and usually quit before we notice meaningful improvements. Just as problematic, some of us obsess over our budgets in an unhealthy and unsustainable way. This was me for a while. My obsession was mint.com.

    I didn’t have a healthy relationship with budgeting apps.

    If you used mint.com like I did before it ended, do you also have nightmares about those red tracking bars? Mint.com users know exactly what I mean. Overspend $11 on groceries? Red bar. One too many lunches downtown? Red bar! A last minute Saturday morning yoga class? RED! BAR!

    It still pains me to think about how many hours of my life I wasted trying to recategorize expenditures so those red bars would turn green. If I just move this box of cereal from Groceries to Social Life, that Groceries bar will turn green. Oh wait, now Social Life is red. OK, move those movie tickets to Car Repairs.

    When my wife was still courting me, I introduced her to mint.com. You might be thinking, “Matt, why on earth would you introduce her to something that drove you crazy!?” Valid question.

    She was a good sport and gave it a shot for a little while. Thankfully, she was smart enough to realize tracking every penny wasn’t for her. The whole thing gave her more anxiety about money. Think about that. The idea was to create a plan for her next dollar so she didn’t have to worry about money. All I did was make it worse by introducing her to a budgeting app.

    There’s an alternative to tracking every penny for the rest of your life.

    That experience paved the way for my preferred budgeting method that my wife and I still use today. We discussed this method briefly in our recent Q&A post.

    Please keep in mind this method is for people who have already created a Budget After Thinking and are honestly dedicated to creating fuel for their Later Money. Only when you get to that point will you no longer need to track every penny. At that point, your money motivations will be so strong that you’ll stay on track without needing to track every expenditure.

    If you’re not there yet, don’t worry. You will be soon. Follow my top ten budgeting strategies until good habits become second nature. Then, move on to this simple plan.

    My preferred tracking method is a version of zero-based budgeting.

    Zero-based budgeting was first introduced in the 1970s by Peter Pyhrr. (I don’t love the name, either.) The main idea is that every dollar has a job, something we already talked about in our conversation about eliminating disappearing dollars.

    In my version of zero-based budgeting, you don’t need to track every penny. You don’t need budgeting apps or complicated spreadsheets.

    You’ll only need to focus on two numbers each month to know whether you are on track or falling behind. I’ll show you those two numbers below.

    Before you get too excited, I need to reiterate this key point: if you want to succeed with zero-based budgeting, you still need to first create a Budget After Thinking. Otherwise, you won’t be able to figure out the key two numbers that you need to focus on.

    This step is for those people who have already tracked their spending for at least three months, made thoughtful adjustments so their spending is in line with their values, and now know exactly how much fuel they can generate for their Later Money every month.

    OK, so how does this all work?

    I mentioned there are only two key numbers you’ll need to focus on each month:

    1. Your checking account cushion.
    2. Your Later Money transfer amount.

    Let’s explore each number.

    1. Your checking account cushion is your safety net.

    A checking account cushion is the amount of money in your checking account that you don’t plan to spend. The purpose of the cushion is to give you a little breathing room so you can pay your bills, even if you overspend in one month.

    Without the cushion, if you have a tough spending month, you either need to skip paying certain bills or skip making your Later Money transfer. Neither option is acceptable. The first option leads you into debt. The second option halts progress on your most important life goals.

    The checking account cushion gives you protection.

    How much of a checking account cushion do you need?

    How much of a cushion do you need? It depends on whether you have consistent income (regular paychecks), or are paid inconsistently (commissions, freelance, contract, etc.)

    If you are paid with consistent paychecks, I recommend your checking account cushion equal the amount you’ve planned to spend in your Now Money category from your Budget After Thinking (don’t worry, example below). This amount should give you a comfortable safety net without leaving too much money in your checking account that could be better used elsewhere.

    If your pay is inconsistent, you’ll need a larger cushion to cover the larger gaps between pay days. I recommend you have double the amount of your Now Money. Note, you may have to tweak this amount based on your unique situation.

    In our really lost boy example, he received paychecks biweekly. A good checking account cushion was $3,600 (equal to his Now Money).

    This means that there should be $3,600 in his checking account to start each month. At the end of the month, after paying all of his bills and making his Later Money transfers, he should still have $3,600 left in his checking account. That’s his checking account cushion.

    It’s OK if your checking account cushion temporarily dips below the amount you started the month with. This could happen during the time of the month when you pay certain bills, like your rent or mortgage. Don’t worry. The amount in your account will climb back up once you receive your next paycheck.

    A final point: don’t spend this cushion. Fight the temptation to use your checking account cushion to pay off bills or debt. Without that safety net, zero-based budgeting does not work.

    2. Your Later Money transfer is the main reason you’re budgeting in the first place.

    This number reflects the whole purpose of budgeting in the first place: to create fuel for your ultimate goals in life. If you don’t know what your goals are, revisit our conversation on why you should want to be good with money. It all starts with what you truly want from your life and how you can use your money to get it.

    When you’ve created your Budget After Thinking, you’ll know exactly what this amount is. In our really lost boy example, the total Later Money transfers added up to $2,050. In future posts, we will discuss where to transfer and what to do with this Later Money. No matter what, the goal is to put this money to work for you to progress towards your goals.

    By focusing on just these two numbers, (1) your checking account cushion and (2) your Later Money transfer amount, you don’t have to track every penny. You’ll know if you are hitting your goals or falling behind just by looking at these numbers.

    Now that we know the two key numbers to focus on, let’s see how this all works.

    How to ensure you are on track with your money goals with just two numbers.

    Sticking with our really lost boy, he predetermined that his checking account cushion is $3,600 and his Later Money transfer amount is $2,050.

    At the start of the month, that means he had $3,600 in his checking account. Throughout the month, his checking account balance increased when he got paid (our really lost boy earned $7,500 per month). His checking account balance decreased whenever he paid for things like rent ($2,200) and any other bills.

    The checking account cushion ensured that he had enough to cover all of his expenditures throughout the month. For example, if his rent was due on Wednesday, and he wasn’t getting paid until Friday, his checking account cushion ensured that he had enough in his account to pay the rent on time. His cushion might fall temporarily below $3,600, but his next paycheck would soon replenish his account.

    As the month went on, various bills came due. Utilities may be due on the 7th of the month. Credit card bills on the 15th. These payments can all be automated so he didn’t have to actively worry about them. Again, his checking account cushion guaranteed he had enough in his checking account to pay them.

    Towards the end of the month, in a perfect world, our really lost boy would have exactly $5,650 left after paying all of his bills. He could then transfer the predetermined $2,050 of Later Money to his various Later Money accounts. He’s then left with a checking account cushion of $3,600 and is ready to begin the next month.

    This is not a “set it and forget it” budgeting method.

    This is not a “set it and forget it” budgeting method. Think and Talk Money is all about exerting a little bit of mental energy on your money every week. This budgeting method is a good illustration of what that means. You don’t need to track every penny, but you still need to pay attention to your money choices.

    To help you with that, I suggest that you glance at your banking or credit cards apps once a week to monitor your spending. If you use credit cards or electronic payments for most expenditures, it is quick and simple.

    The reason it’s a good idea to glance at your banking apps is to make sure you are relatively close to your spending targets. If you notice that you’re overspending in the first half of the month, you can make the appropriate adjustments before the month ends.

    This small amount of effort throughout the month is worth it. Every time you make that Later Money transfer at the end of the month, you’ll feel exactly what I mean.

    Don’t strive for perfection.

    I said above “in a perfect world” to highlight that we’re not striving for perfection. That’s an impossible standard. One month, our really lost boy might have only had $3,300 left after making his Later Money transfer. That’s fine. It’s a temporary blip that he could easily fix, if he’s honestly dedicated to his life goals. He had a couple of options.

    His first option was to course correct the next month by spending $300 less. That could mean temporary adjustments in his Now Money or Life Money, such as skipping a couple dinners out, doing yoga at home, and buying chicken instead of steak at the grocery store.

    His second option was to replenish his checking account cushion from his specific budget busters savings account. What is that, you ask? It’s a separate savings account to cover you if you have one of these higher-spending months so you can keep your money plan progressing.

    In some months, you will actually underspend.

    Where do you get the funds for such an account? Believe it or not, in some months, your spending will come in under budget. Let’s say our really lost boy had one of these good spending months in January. Maybe he did Dry January and ate all his meals at home for health reasons to compensate for all the holiday celebrations.

    In this example, the result was he spent $500 less in January than he had budgeted for. Instead of leaving that $500 in his checking account (bringing his cushion up to $4,100) where it turns into disappearing dollars, he transferred it to his budget busters savings account.

    Then, when he had a high spending month, he could make a transfer back into his checking account to keep his cushion at $3,600. All while continuing to make his Later Money transfers every month.

    If you constantly run out of money before making your Later Money transfers, this method is not for you, yet.

    Always remember the goal of your Budget After Thinking is to generate fuel for your life goals. If you’re not making these Later Money transfers, you’ve defeated the purpose of having a budget in the first place.

    Don’t feel embarrassed or sad if that happens to you. Take it as a sign that you need to explore your Now Money and Life Money spending to see what adjustments you can make. Once you’ve found those adjustments, you can come right back to my version of zero-based budgeting.

    If you want this plan to work, where you only need to focus on two numbers instead of tracking every penny, you need to be honest with yourself that you’re ready for this.

    Decide for yourself what budgeting method works best for you.

    If you’ve been successful tracking your spending in a spreadsheet or a budgeting app, and enjoy the process, you should continue to do so. If it ain’t broke, don’t fix it, right?

    On the other hand, if you’ve created a Budget After Thinking and consistently hit your Later Money goals, you’re probably ready to stop tracking every penny, if you’d like.

    To recap, my version of zero-based budgeting is for those people who want to continue to fuel their Later Money goals without the anxiety of the spreadsheet. Instead, focus on those two numbers: (1) your checking account cushion and (2) your Later Money transfers. This is what I’ve been doing for years and it has worked.

    Happy boy with a bundle of money dollars cash who has a checking account cushion and Later Money.

    If your cushion falls short one month, that’s OK. We are not striving for perfection. Make up for it the next month or use your budget buster savings account to replenish your checking account. And, keep making your Later Money transfers.

    Has anyone else experienced mint.com anxiety? Are you currently using a budgeting app? How do you like it? Has any tried zero-based budgeting?

    Let us know in the comments below.

  • You will Easily Know and Feel Money Well Spent

    You will Easily Know and Feel Money Well Spent

    Coming up, we’re going to do our first Q&A post where I’ll answer questions from readers. So many good questions have already come in. Please keep them coming! Leave a comment below, subscribe to our newsletter, or find us on Instagram.

    One question we already received was so good, I’ve answered it here in a dedicated post. The question came from someone that I love to talk money with. He read the Think and Talk Money Welcome Post where I mentioned that my credit card debt was partially due to having Chicago Cubs season tickets.

    He knows that I’m a big Cubs fan and asked me if I would I really trade all those great experiences and memories just to save money.

    It’s such a good question because it points to the intersection of money and life. It took me all of two seconds to know and feel the answer was, of course, “No, I would not have given up my Cubs tickets.”

    He was absolutely right. If I gave up my tickets in 2010 when I was struggling with debt, I never would have been in the stadium in 2016 with my family for the Cubs’ World Series run. Those are some of the best memories I have.

    In hindsight, I would have done some things differently so I could enjoy the experiences without the money worries. Let’s talk about that.

    But first, story time.

    Our nice friends, Phil and April.

    Throughout that World Series run, we sat next to the nicest couple in the world, Phil and April. Phil was a diehard Cubs fan. April was more reserved. Both were smart and very friendly. They were enjoyable people to sit with. We chatted baseball, mostly. Pitching changes. Send the runner. Question the manager. That sort of thing. Completely normal, unremarkable stuff.

    Until Game 5.

    Game 5 was played on a crisp, October evening. Jackets and beanies weather in Chicago. Phil and April were sitting next to my brother and I, as usual. Mike Napoli was playing first base for Cleveland.

    Around the 3rd inning, a jerk four rows in front of us taunted Napoli with a crude, juvenile insult. It was apparent the jerk was doing his part to keep Old Style in business for another year.

    Phil was nice…and tough.

    Anyway, the rest of our section was none too pleased with the jerk’s shameful display. Nobody was more displeased than Phil, who did what the rest of us were thinking but were too scared to do ourselves. Phil stood up. In so many words, Phil sternly recommended that the jerk knock it off and show some class.

    The jerk turned around, aggressively scanning the crowd for the man who had publicly shamed him. The jerk had that unmistakable look in his eye that meant, “Let’s dance.” My brother and I were a bit worried for our nice… and all of a sudden tough…friend, Phil.

    April did not look worried. She sat there like nothing strange was happening. Almost like she had seen this movie before.

    When the jerk locked eyes with Phil, he immediately saw that Phil was happy to accept the invitation to tango. Well, the jerk was sloppy, but he had enough sense to recognize that he wanted no piece of Phil. He wisely turned back around and sat down quietly.

    That was the last we heard from the jerk that night. Our nice, and now confirmed tough friend Phil had restored order.

    Phil’s on TV!

    On the day of the Cubs’ championship parade, my brother called me excitedly, “Phil’s on TV! Phil’s on TV!” It didn’t register right away who he was talking about. When I turned on the TV, sure enough, there was Phil, our World Series friend. I was so confused. Phil was giving an interview on set with the Cubs announcers. Our nice (and tough) friend, Phil? On TV?

    I turned up the volume and listened to Phil talk about his experience watching the Cubs win the World Series. Maybe I was hoping he’d mention his nice friend, Matt. He didn’t.

    I still couldn’t figure out why Phil was on TV. Why won’t they just put his name on the screen already!?

    It wasn’t until the end of the interview that I learned who Phil was. All I could do was laugh.

    Our nice, and confirmed tough, friend Phil is better known as World Wresting Entertainment (WWE) champion and icon, CM Punk.

    His wife? WWE champion and bestselling author, AJ Mendez.

    Life, huh?

    A memory I wouldn’t trade for anything.

    As much fun as the World Series was, my favorite Cubs memory actually took place during the 2015 season, the year before they won the World Series. It was during the 7th inning of Game 4 of the NLDS. This was the game where the Cubs knocked the rival St. Louis Cardinals out of the playoffs.

    In the 7th inning, with the Cubs up 5-4, Kyle Schwarber hit one of the most epic home runs in Cubs history, landing his moonshot on top of the new right field video board. It was such a feat, the ball is now enshrined where it landed.

    The entire stadium was rocking so loud, you could feel the ground shaking beneath your feet. Every fan was jumping up and down, hugging anyone close enough to touch. We were all dancing like nobody was watching. That moment was pure happiness.

    I was there with my mom. A lifelong Chicagoan, she too was jumping up and down and high-fiving all the other diehard fans in our section. After the game, we met up with my wife at a restaurant and relived the victory over Champagne.

    What does this have to do with money?

    What does any of this have to do with money? When I said money was emotional, this is what I meant. I wouldn’t trade that memory with my mom for anything. My brother and I still joke about our nice friends, Phil and April.

    These are the types of experiences that I want more of. These memories, and the desire for more like them, continue to motivate me today. I want to be good with money, not so I can stash it in the bank, but so I can use that money to create joy for me and my family.

    So, to get back to my friend’s question. Would I really have given up my Cubs tickets? No, absolutely not.

    What would I have done differently to keep the tickets but not the worries?

    In hindsight, what could I have done differently so my Cubs tickets were not a major source of financial worry?

    Even back then, I knew and felt that spending money on Cubs tickets was money well spent. I didn’t need to wait for hindsight to come to that conclusion.

    That said, I would have put more thought into solutions to keep the tickets and the experiences without the debt and the shame. I would have looked at expenditures in my Now Money and Life Money buckets that were ripe for adjustment.

    Maybe that would have meant giving up something else less meaningful, like my gym membership. Or, I could have looked into a side hustle as a way to earn more money, something we’ll explore at another time.

    Whatever the solution was, I would have been more intentional with my decisions so my experiences were not overshadowed by my worries.

    Talking money is really just talking life.

    This was such a good question to illustrate a foundational concept of Think and Talk Money. Yes, we discuss money. But, we’re really talking about our lives and our experiences. Money is just a tool to help us.

    And before you get cynical on me, of course money is not required for good experiences. That’s not the point. What I’m suggesting is that if you’re spending most of your time each week at your job, like most of us do, shouldn’t we think about the money we earn so we can maximize experiences like I had with my mom?

    Think and Talk Money is all about awakening that thought process so we can use the tool of money to fuel meaningful lives. Would you use that tool to get you Cubs tickets? Or, do you prefer trips to Disney World? What if money is just the currency that you trade to get your time back, so you can do more of what you want with who you want?

    Whatever it is that you’re after in life, thinking and talking about money will help get you there.

    Keep the questions coming!

  • How to Think About Money and Italian Beef

    How to Think About Money and Italian Beef

    Too many of us are really good at pretending not to worry about money.

    “Credit card debt?” Everyone has it. 

    “Emergency savings?” My job is secure.

    “Retirement?” I have so much time.

    Accept money for the tool that it is.

    Instead of honestly assessing our relationship with money, we actively ignore it. Yes, actively ignore. We don’t passively hide from our credit card bills. We all have the credit card apps on our phones and receive multiple emails about our bills. We know what the numbers are, and we bury that knowledge. We exert mental energy to not think about our money.

    Let’s stop doing that and re-frame how we think about money. Instead of convincing ourselves that we’re not worried about money, let’s accept money for the tool that it is. Let’s get energized thinking about what money can do for us.

    Thinking about money does not make you a bad person.

    Thinking about money does not make you a bad person. Always remember what money is: a tool. You are not a bad person for wanting to use that tool to build the best life for you and your family. 

    Remember, the goal is not to fall in love with or obsess over the dollars in your bank account. The goal is to think about how you can use those dollars to maximize your life experiences. When you start thinking like that, money is energizing. 

    A higher income won’t cure your money worries.

    You are not immune from worrying about money just because you have a high income. Ask people further along in their careers if earning more money magically solved all their money worries. A lot of times, the opposite is true. 

    The more we earn usually means the more we spend. We tell ourselves that we deserve to spend more. Or, we need to spend more to match our neighbors or colleagues. You can see this through the clothes people wear, the vacations they take, the restaurants they eat at. This habit of spending more, even as we earn more, explains why credit card debt in America continues to surge.

    The other thing about earning more? It also usually means we’re working more. If you were worried about money when you had more available time to think about it, what’s going to happen now that you’re working longer, harder hours?

    Vicki Robin, often credited for laying the groundwork for the FIRE movement, has a lot to say about the relationship between money, work, and time. Her book Your Money or Your Life is a must read.

    how to think about spending money on sushi or Italian beef
    Sushi Rice” by Skitter Photo/ CC0 1.0

    I could go for an Italian beef.

    Years ago, my friend came to Chicago to visit. He loves good food and treated me to one of the premier restaurants in the city. Very fancy, Japanese menu. 12 courses. Sake pairings. At one point, my friend spilled some sauce on his shirt. Having noticed his predicament, the waiter walked over and discreetly handed him a stain removal pen folded in a napkin. Classy, right?

    It was one of the best dining experiences I’ve ever had, but it had nothing to do with the food. I loved being there with my friend, and he knows it wasn’t about the food.

    Towards the end of the meal, I got up and went to the bathroom. I returned to my friend and the couple at the table next to us gushing about the meal. Turning to me, one of them asked, “Did you absolutely love the food, too?” He choked on his Unagi when I responded, truthfully, “I could really go for an Italian beef.” 

    I want you to spend your money.

    OK, so what’s the point? I am in no way saying we should all stop spending money. Or, that we shouldn’t use our money to enjoy what we want in life. Quite the opposite, actually. I want you to prosper. What I really want is for you to define for yourself what a prosperous life means. 

    If that means you want to use your money to eat Japanese delicacies instead of Italian beef, please do! Just do it because you put some intentional thought into how spending your money that way fits into your overall life experience.

    Get energized thinking about money.

    If you’ve read this far, I’m assuming that you’re tired of pretending not to worry about money. You’re tired of treating money just like everyone else. You’re tired of fooling yourself that if you just made more money, everything would be fine. You want the worrying to stop. 

    Now, you want to feel like you’re moving forward. You’re ready to be energized about using money as a tool to reach your hand selected goals, regardless of how much you make.

    To start moving forward, we need to change how we exert our mental energy when it comes to money. In the beginning, many of us exert mental energy into making excuses about our money. Or maybe worse, we actively ignore our money. We convince ourselves that we’re just like everyone else. We pretend not to worry.

    Let’s flip that around. Instead of exerting mental energy to ignore our money worries, let’s get energized thinking about how we can use money as a tool to build our lives. It starts with discovering what truly motivates us. Only then can we talk about strong personal finance habits. Without the motivation, we’ll slip back into that existence of pretending not to worry.

    There’s no dress rehearsal in life.

    Life doesn’t come with a dress rehearsal. There’s no practice game to test out new plays. We need to think about our motivations now and continue to think about those motivations as we go.

    You’ll soon hear all about my Tiara Goals, my made-up name for what truly motivates me. At this point, I’ll share the simple recognition that we each only get one life. I don’t say that to be morbid or depressing. I don’t say it to be inspirational, either. I’m saying it simply because it’s true.

    Bill Perkins, author of Die with Zero, makes a very convincing argument that most of us wait too long to start using money to create life-changing experiences. You should read Die with Zero and talk about it with your people. This book has led to more money conversations with my friends and family than any other book I’ve read.

    This truth is a powerful reminder for me to use money as a tool to accomplish my Tiara Goals. That truth helps explain why I work hard for my clients with mesothelioma, own rental properties, teach law students, and now write this blog.

    I encourage each of you to start thinking about what truly matters to you. Not in a theoretical sense. Not what you expect other people would say should matter to you. What you, after deliberate thought, believe truly matters. You won’t have all the answers right away, but you need to start somewhere. 

    For now, let’s start by helping each other. Let’s stop pretending that we aren’t worried about money, so we can do something about it.

    “Credit card debt?” Yup, and I’m attacking it. 

    “Emergency savings?” Growing each month.

    “Retirement?” Not a problem.

    “Unagi?” Eh, I’ll have the Italian beef. Dipped, hot peppers.

    4 responses to “How to Think About Money and Italian Beef”

    1. Kevin Avatar
      Kevin

      This really hit home for me! I read the book Die With Zero, and loved it.

      1. Matthew Adair Avatar

        Glad you enjoyed the post! And thank you for being a consistent reader of Think and Talk Money!

    2. SA Bandoni Avatar

      So, is the Italian beef like a ‘steak & cheese sub’ in Boston?…if so, then , hell yes… Italian beef over Unagi every time. It is great to see you tackle the topic and attempt to make money a candid discussion. I suspect your teachings, and this blog will inspire more people to do the same.

      1. Matthew Adair Avatar

        I appreciate those kind words, SA. It’s all about starting the conversation. And, Italian beef is probably like a steak & cheese sub… only better!

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