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  • Big Decisions are Easier with Parachute Money

    Big Decisions are Easier with Parachute Money

    Pretend your life is like flying on an airplane.

    Maybe you feel like your airplane is a fighter jet, moving too fast to enjoy the ride. Maybe your airplane is a small regional carrier, boringly flying back and forth between the same two airports.

    For whatever reason, you decide you need to get off this airplane. You decide to take control and make a change. You’re ready to jump.

    All you need is a parachute.

    You have a choice between the only two parachutes on the plane.

    The first parachute has only one string (or line) connecting the canopy to the harness . You think to yourself, “This doesn’t seem very safe. What if that one string breaks? That would end very badly for me.”

    Then, you look at the second parachute. This parachute has 10 strings. You say to yourself, “OK, this one looks much safer. If one string breaks, the parachute still has nine other strings to keep me safe. Even if something goes wrong with one or two strings, I would glide safely to the ground.”

    It’s obvious which one of these parachutes to choose.

    This situation illustrates what I believe is one of the most empowering concepts in personal finance.

    It’s what I call “Parachute Money.”

    Before we move on to our next core personal finance topic, credit and debt, let’s take a few minutes to discuss this powerful money concept.

    What is Parachute Money?

    The central idea of Parachute Money is to create multiple sources of income so you are not beholden to any one source.

    Parachute Money includes your primary job, any side hustles, any income generating assets, and your emergency savings account. It also includes the income of your significant other, if you share finances.

    With Parachute Money, if one of your sources of income dries up, you are more than covered with your other sources.

    Picture each source of income as a string on your parachute. The more strings on the parachute, the stronger it is. Likewise, the more sources of income you have, the stronger your personal finances are.

    Note that multiple sources of income does not have to mean multiple jobs. Even with one job, you can still pursue additional, or stronger, parachute strings.

    Let’s say you earn a salary and also could earn commissions or bonuses. Each one of those income streams could be another string in your parachute.

    Or, you could prioritize boosting your emergency savings even more than you normally would. You might even consider a separate savings bucket called “Parachute Money.” Besides boosting your savings, you could also focus on passive income streams, like investing in dividend stocks.

    The central idea remains the same. Protect yourself with as many income sources as you can.

    Think of Parachute Money as a way to visualize financial independence.

    Think of Parachute Money as a way to visualize what financial independence really means.

    Parachute Money empowers you to confidently make big life changes. When you have Parachute Money, you are financially free to control your life, not the other way around.

    Parachute Money is all about your intentional decisions. It’s for when you’ve decided, on your terms, that you’re ready to make that big change in your life. You’re excited to take matters into your own hands, but you don’t want to disrupt your entire life in the process.

    To return to our airplane analogy, you could stay on the plane if you wanted. Nobody is forcing you to jump. But, you’re ready for something different. And when you do jump, you want a parachute that will help you land as safely as possible.

    That’s what Parachute Money can do for your life. It allows you to make that leap while landing gracefully.

    You could say it out loud like this, “I have Parachute Money. I am financially independent because I am not beholden to any single source of income. If one source of income goes away, because I’ve decided it’s time for a change, my other sources of income will protect me.”

    Parachute Money is more than just emergency savings.

    Parachute Money is more than just a bank account. We’ve talked about how an emergency savings account is the first savings account that everyone needs.

    An emergency savings account is part of your Parachute Money, but there’s more to it.

    Recall that an emergency savings account is what you turn to when life dictates your choices. If you unexpectedly lose your job or have a large bill to pay, emergency savings will keep you afloat. You didn’t choose for these things to happen, but you still need to be prepared.

    So, emergency savings are for protecting yourself and your family from the unexpected. Like we talked about above, Parachute Money is about you dictating the course of events, not the other away around.

    What are my current parachute strings?

    My wife and I have worked hard to create multiple sources of income. We currently have the following strings in our parachute, in no particular order:

    • My primary job as a mesothelioma attorney
    • My wife’s primary job as an attorney
    • Rental Property 1
    • Rental Property 2
    • Rental Property 3
    • Rental Property 4
    • Law School Professor
    • Emergency Savings

    Combined, these sources of money provide a solid parachute for us.

    If you wanted to, you can break out some of these sources of income into further parachute strings.

    For example, Rental Property 1 consists of 4 apartments. Each apartment could be a separate string. I teach multiple law school courses; each course could be another string. Like we talked about above, your job may include a salary, commissions, and bonuses. Each could be a separate parachute string.

    What are some situations where Parachute Money can make big decisions easier?

    Let’s look at three possible situations where Parachute Money can empower you to make the best choices for you and your family.

    1. It’s time for a new job.

    After working for the same company for 10 years, life around the office looks different.

    Your direct supervisor left for a new job. You were passed up to take her place. New policies are rolling out, including a requirement to be in the office five days per week.

    You feel stuck in place. You still like your job and most of the people you work with. And, you could hang around for the steady paycheck.

    Or, you can take control and make a change. If you have Parachute Money, you can take your time looking for a new job that matches your priorities. Maybe you decide not to go back to full-time work at all.

    2. It’s time to move.

    You live with a roommate and have another 10 months on your lease. Things have gotten uncomfortable.

    He doesn’t clean up after himself. He stays up late watching movies so loud you can’t sleep. He eats your favorite leftover Thai food you had saved for lunch the next day.

    You could “tough it out.” He’s still a good friend of yours.

    Or, you can take control and make a change. If you have Parachute Money, you can handle the costs of breaking the lease and finding a new apartment.

    3. It’s time to stop depending on your parents.

    You’re a full-grown adult and are still financially dependent on your parents.

    Sure, the money is nice to have.

    The problem is your parents have let it be known, in so many words, that they are to be consulted on how you spend their money.

    You may think you are choosing where to live or where to send your kids to school. Deep down? You know your parents will have the final word.

    Elderly father lends money to his adult son. He helps his child deal with financial problems. His son is hoping to not be dependent on his father anymore thanks to Parachute Money learned on Think and Talk Money.

    You can continue letting your parents dictate your life.

    Or, you can take control and make a change. If you have Parachute Money, you can tell your parents, “Thanks, but no thanks.”

    Parachute Money gives you control.

    These are just a few examples of how Parachute Money allows you to regain control of your life.

    Notice that in each situation, you’re not dealing with a sudden emergency. Instead, you’ve reached a tipping point and decided it was time for a change. Without Parachute Money, your options would be limited.

    In our example above about wanting a new job, Parachute Money allows you to make that leap. You may temporarily be without your primary source of income- that string on the parachute broke.

    But, you’ll be more than fine because you have other parachute strings to land you safely, like an emergency savings account, a side hustle as a ghost writer for a blog, and a rental property.

    Parachute Money is one of my favorite personal finance concepts.

    Parachute Money is one of my favorite concepts in personal finance. I first learned about the general idea from J L Collins in his renowned book on investing, The Simple Path to Wealth: Your road map to financial independence and a rich, free life.

    The Simple Path to Wealth is a must read for anyone wanting to learn the power of investing on your own through index funds.

    We’ll have plenty more to say about how Collins has influenced my own decisions in our investing series. I credit him for teaching me that investing does not have to be hard. It’s actually pretty simple if you follow his tips.

    To learn more from J L Collins, check out his website here.

    In his book and blog, Collins describes what he calls “F-You Money.” He tells the story of getting in a shouting match with his boss one day at work, shortly before walking away from that company. As Collins explains, nobody deserved an “F-You” more than that guy.

    In Collins’ example, he had enough money saved up where he could say those choice words to his boss. His “F-You Money” empowered him to live on his own terms.

    On your way to financial independence, don’t ignore Parachute Money.

    The reason I love the idea of Parachute Money is because it encapsulates so many of the money wellness habits and goals we’re striving for with Think and Talk Money.

    Parachute Money gives you flexibility and control. When you have multiple sources of money, you are not beholden to any one source.

    Think back to the image of the parachute with only one string. What happens if that one string breaks?

    Likewise, what happens if your only source of money no longer fits into your best life?

    As you think about these questions, picture yourself jumping out of the airplane.

    What parachute are you reaching for?

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  • Great Talk: Money and Cheeseburgers

    Great Talk: Money and Cheeseburgers

    Talking money is not taboo.

    The only thing that’s taboo is avoiding your personal finances.

    To help flip the script and convince you that talking money is not taboo, I plan to regularly post about the current money conversations that I’m having. Through my examples, I hope to encourage you to have similar conversations.

    In our first “Great Talk” post, we’ll discuss what my wife and I decided to do with our Later Money throughout 2025. We’ll also talk about how really smart people I know have started budgeting. We’ll conclude with an empowering conversation I had with a friend about what you can do with your time if money wasn’t an obstacle.

    What I’m doing with my Later Money in 2025.

    Later Money is what you are saving, investing, or using to pay off debt. This bucket includes long term goals and investments, like retirement and college savings. It also includes emergency savings, paying off debt, or any other shorter term goals, like saving for a wedding or a downpayment for a house.

    Later Money is the key category that fuels your ultimate life goals, like financial independence.

    The more you fuel this category, the faster you can reach your goals.

    So, what are my wife and I doing with our Later Money in 2025?

    We recently had a great talk about our options and came up with a plan that will guide us throughout the year. Before we talk about our 2025 goals, it’s important to keep in mind that your Later Money goals will change over time. That’s perfectly fine.

    Our goals in 2025 are not the same as they were between 2016 and 2024. Prior to 2025, my wife and I were focused on expanding our real estate portfolio.

    We purchased our first rental property in 2018, a four-flat in an up-and-coming Chicago neighborhood. Less than a year later, we bought a three-flat in the same neighborhood.

    In 2021, we invested in a Colorado rental ski condo. In 2022, we purchased our fourth rental property, a three-flat, in the same (now booming) neighborhood in Chicago.

    After living in our rental properties since 2018, we purchased a single-family home just outside Chicago in 2024.

    During this timeframe, any spare dollar we earned went towards acquiring more real estate. We contributed towards other financial goals, like retirement and college, but our priority was investing in real estate.

    Knowing when enough is enough.

    Our goals have changed in 2025. We started talking about revamping our goals towards the end of 2024. I owe a lot of credit for our new goals to Chad “Coach” Carson and his excellent book, Small and Mighty Real Estate Investor: How to Reach Financial Freedom with Fewer Rental Properties.

    In his book, Coach Carson makes a compelling argument to think about when enough is enough. His message was about acquiring more and more real estate, to no end, but also applies to any pursuit in life. You can learn more about Coach Carson and his incredible journey on his website.

    Reading Small and Mighty Real Estate Investor helped my wife and I conclude that at this point in our lives, we have enough. If anything, we’re closer to having too much on our plate. We self-manage our 10 units in Chicago and work closely with a property manager in Colorado. With our full-time jobs and kids at home, we’ve bitten off as much as we can chew.

    Our portfolio generates enough income to help fuel our current goals. If we were to continue expanding, the headaches could end up outweighing the financial benefits.

    We want to build a life full of experiences and memories. That means we need more time, not more money. Acquiring and managing more properties right now would take up a lot of time. That tradeoff is not currently worth it to us.

    So, if we’re not pursuing additional properties in 2025, what are our goals?

    After talking it through together and weighing all our options, my wife and I came up with these three goals for 2025:

    1. Our first goal is to continuing paying down our mortgage debt. We used HELOCs (Home Equity Line of Credit) to help us acquire some of our properties. Now that we’ve determined that “enough is enough,” we’re focused on paying back these loans.
    2. Our second goal is to build up our emergency savings. We mostly ignored our emergency savings between 2017 and 2024. It was risky and led to some touch-and-go moments that we’d like to avoid moving forward.
    3. Our third goal is to boost our contributions to our kids’ college savings accounts. We use what’s called a “529 college savings plan.” 529 plans are state-sponsored, tax-advantaged investment accounts. We use Illinois’ 529 plan because we receive a tax break as Illinois residents. Just about every state offers a 529 plan. They are a great way to save for college.

    With our plan in place ahead of time, we now know where every dollar is going before we earn it. This takes the anxiety out of trying to figure it out after the money has already hit our bank account.

    At the end of each month, all we need to do is make our Later Money transfers to each account. We can rest easy knowing that we’re making progress towards our personal finance goals.

    How Budgeting is Helping Very Smart People.

    One of my favorite moments since launching Think and Talk Money occurred just last week. Walking down the hall in my office, one of my colleagues called me over. She was very excited to share that she started tracking her spending so she can create a Budget After Thinking.

    We chatted for ten minutes. She’s been reading the blog on her commute to work every Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. She used Think and Talk Money vocabulary, like “Now Money” and “Life Money.”

    She showed me the app she’s been using to track her spending, one I wasn’t familiar with and am now looking into. She shared that she’s been telling her friends about Think and Talk Money because she’s already learned so much.

    This is exactly why talking about money is not taboo. She taught me something new and helped me think about my own budgeting process. She gave me new ideas to think about.

    How could this type of conversation be bad?

    We didn’t need to talk numbers. We talked strategy and habits. That’s what talking money is all about.

    What would you do with your time if money was not an obstacle?

    I had lunch with an old friend last week at a downtown Chicago lunch spot that’s been serving up epic burgers since the 1970’s. My friend and I are both balancing careers as lawyers in Chicago with young families at home.

    In between bites of a massive BBQ-bacon-cheeseburger, I asked him a question I like asking smart people:

    “What would you do with your time if money wasn’t an obstacle?”

    Without hesitation, he answered that he would work with his hands. He likes working on projects around the house. He gets immediate satisfaction from completing a repair or making an improvement.

    Two men eating out in cafe or restaurant talking about financial independence as learned on Think and Talk Money.

    His answer was great and very relatable. My years as a landlord has taught me the same feeling of satisfaction in completing a project.

    What stood out to me the most was how quickly he answered the question. He knew exactly what he would do if money was not an obstacle.

    This simple question helps illustrate what I mean when we talk about financial independence. It’s not an easy goal to accomplish, but I can’t think of a better goal to strive for.

    You are financially independent when money is not an obstacle.

    When you are financially independent, you can spend more time doing what is meaningful to you. You can spend more time with people that are meaningful to you.

    Whether you want to work with your hands or represent clients or teach kids, the choice is yours when you’re financial independent.

    That seems like a goal worth striving for.

    What could ever be better than that?

    So, let me ask you:

    What would you do with your time if money was no obstacle?

    Please share below!

    And always remember, talking money is not taboo.

  • Why it’s Not Taboo to Talk Money

    Why it’s Not Taboo to Talk Money

    Why do so many smart people feel like they’re barely getting by?

    Even with salaries of more than $100,000, too many people across the United States are living paycheck to paycheck.

    Whether you are a high earner or not, we all need to exert mental energy on our personal finances. Don’t make the mistake that just because you make a lot of money, you are immune.

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    One of the biggest misconceptions in personal finance is that people that make a lot of money don’t have money worries.

    I’m not saying that we should feel sorry for people that are high earners. I’m pointing out that personal finance education is important for all of us.

    It’s not your fault if you’ve made poor money choices, up to a point.

    I don’t blame anyone, high earners included, for making poor money choices (up to a point). Most people never learn basic personal finance skills.

    Think about an emergency room physician. He was likely one of the top students in his class his entire life. He’s proven that he can learn complex matters. He can do the hardest things imaginable, like saving someone’s life.

    The problem is he was never taught to use his brain to manage his own personal finances.

    If that ER doctor is living paycheck to paycheck, he likely won’t receive much sympathy. He’s probably blamed for not making better money choices.

    People will say he makes plenty of money. It’s his own fault. He must be irresponsible or selfish or craves expensive things.

    I don’t think that’s fair.

    I think that ER doctor should get a pass from undeserved judgment. I’m not saying you have to feel bad for him or offer him your sympathies. What I am saying is he should be given a chance to learn about personal finance just like the rest of us.

    Does that mean he is forever excused from taking responsibility for his money choices?

    Of course not.

    We all need to take responsibility to educate ourselves. That’s the reason a website dedicated to thinking and talking about money exists in the first place.

    Fortunately, more than half of the United States now requires some form of personal finance education for high school students.

    That’s a great start, but it’s not enough.

    Personal finance education is for all stages of our lives.

    Personal finance education needs to continue throughout adulthood. So many of the concepts we talk about won’t resonate with high school kids who are still provided for by their parents.

    Personally, I needed to feel the pain of being out on my own before the core lessons sunk in. I had no perspective prior to that.

    One of my priorities with Think and Talk Money is to help you learn these core principles before you feel too much pain.

    If you’re in the early stages of your career, there is no better time than now to develop strong money habits. It can be very difficult to correct bad habits as time goes on. A better plan is to work on developing good money habits now.

    If you’re already established in your career, maybe all you need is a reminder or a sounding board to more consistently make good choices.

    If you’ve struggled up to this point and want to work on your money habits, there’s good news. You have a major advantage.

    You’ve felt the pain.

    Elementary Classroom of Diverse Bright Children Listening Attentively to their Teacher Giving Lesson. Brilliant Young Kids in School Learning to Be Great Scientists, Doctors, Programmers, Astronauts, but not learning about personal finance, which is why they need Think and Talk Money.

    You know what it’s like to live paycheck to paycheck.

    Use that perspective to motivate yourself to make adjustments.

    Don’t blame yourself or feel ashamed. Like the ER doctor, personal finance education wasn’t something you knew you needed. Now you know better. Time is still on your side, if you get started today.

    Talking about money is not taboo.

    One of my other priorities with Think and Talk Money is to confront the negative money stereotypes that dominate society. To start with, I’m on a mission against the common refrain that it’s taboo to talk about money with our family and friends.

    Are we supposed to accept that it’s better to struggle alone?

    That we should isolate ourselves in a constant state of worry?

    That we are forbidden from seeking out help by talking to the people we trust the most?

    I refuse to accept any of that.

    Who even said talking about money is taboo in the first place?

    What does “taboo” even mean? Let’s look it up.

    Taboo: “Banned on grounds of morality or taste.”

    Morality or taste? What does that mean? Let’s look up “moral.”

    Moral: “of or relating to principles of right and wrong in behavior.”

    Ah, I see.

    With these definitions as context, let me try to define taboo in terms that actually make sense:

    Taboo means we shouldn’t do things that we know are wrong.

    OK, that I get.

    I’m flipping the script on what taboo means when it comes to money.

    And with that understanding in mind, I’m flipping the script on what taboo means when it comes to money.

    I can keep going all day. I think you get the point. Talking money is not taboo.

    Keep an eye out for posts about the current money conversations I’m having.

    In the spirit of convincing you that talking money is not taboo, we are introducing a new post series this week. In this continuing series, I will highlight the current money conversations that I’m having with my friends and family.

    In our first of these posts later this week, I’ll share how my wife and I recently talked through our decision to split our Later Money between emergency savings, college savings and mortgage debt.

    I’ll also share some of the empowering conversations I’ve had recently with Think and Talk Money readers. I learn so much from these conversations, whether they’re with my mesothelioma clients, my students, or my friends.

    Let’s flip the narrative together.

    Talking money is not taboo. The only thing that’s taboo is avoiding your personal finances.

    Have you had any beneficial money talks lately? How did it feel afterwards?

    Please continue to reach out in the comments or on socials with your responses and thoughts.

  • Q&A: Look for a Valuable Side Hustle

    Q&A: Look for a Valuable Side Hustle

    In this week’s Q&A, we talk about how the timing was right to launch Think and Talk Money, why you should consider a side hustle, and what comes next for the website.

    As always, please email your questions or leave a comment below or on socials.

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    You have a lot on your plate. Lawyer, teacher, landlord, young kids… why launch Think and Talk Money now?

    I had been thinking about writing a book or starting a website for a couple years. Over the holidays, my dad gave me the final push I needed.

    We were casually chatting while the kids played in the other room. Out of nowhere, he said, “Matt, you should do it.”

    Do what?

    “You should write a book.”

    Oh, no biggie.

    I didn’t expect him to say that. He went on to explain how you get to a certain age and you look back on life and wonder where it all went. You think about all the things that you wanted to do but never got around to doing.

    No regrets, blogging then book.

    He knew I had been thinking about writing a book for a while and didn’t want me to regret not doing it.

    I thought about it and realized he was right. I would never forgive myself if I didn’t take this chance.

    Now that I’ve thrown this out there, I have to do it, right?

    There’s never a perfect time in life. If I didn’t start Think and Talk Money now, I might never have gotten around to it. Something always comes up. It’s too easy to make excuses.

    It’s true we have a lot going on. Fortunately, I had a system already in place that gives me time to write thanks to Hal Elrod’s The Morning Miracle.

    I hesitate to say a certain book “changed my life.” This might be one of them.

    For almost 10 years now, I’ve been waking up at 5:30 a.m. to read, journal, and relax. It’s so beneficial to have that time for myself, especially now with kids, before the day gets away from me.

    To learn more about the benefits of a daily morning ritual, check out Elrod’s miracle morning website.

    Since launching Think and Talk Money, I use my mornings to blog instead of reading. I like teaching and writing about personal finance, so my mornings are still enjoyable.

    That being said, I may need to adjust the schedule to read the latest book in the Empryean series, Onyx Storm.

    How do you feel about side hustles?

    Short answer: I love side hustles.

    We’ll spend some time in a future post talking about all the advantages of having a side hustle.

    The obvious advantage is you can make more money. The important thing is what you do with that money to make the side hustle worth it. A side hustle is another time commitment, after all. If you’re going to take on the responsibility, make sure it counts.

    Before you consider a side hustle, have a plan in place for why you want additional money. Are you looking to pay down debt faster? Save for a wedding? Invest in your first rental property?

    One of my favorite experiences teaching personal finance to law students involved a side hustle. A couple of years ago, a student approached me during a break and told me about his credit card debt. It had been weighing heavily on him.

    After our discussion about side hustles, he committed himself to driving for DoorDash and using the income to pay off his credit card balance.

    Six months later he sought me out to share that the plan worked. His side hustle allowed him to pay off his credit card in less than six months. All while working a full-time job and attending law school par-time. I couldn’t have been happier.

    To help you think through why you might want a side hustle, check out these three posts:

    You Should Want to be Good with Money
    Part 1: How to Budget to Fix the Disappearing Dollar
    Why You Need to Fuel Your Savings

    BTW, you’re not too busy or important for a side hustle.

    Some people reading this will automatically think, “I’m way too busy to even think about another job.”

    In my personal finance class for law students, we spend a lot of time challenging that notion. Very few people- and I mean very few- are too important or too busy to take on a side hustle.

    You may think you’re one of those “too important” people. I would challenge you to assess whether you’re confusing “too important” with “too stressed.”

    Setting that conundrum aside, the ideal side hustle is something you enjoy doing that can earn you extra money at the same time. Some examples my students have come up with in class include:

    • Bartending. Entice your friends to come to your bar by offering cheap drinks. You get to hang out with them and get paid at the same time.
    • Fitness instructor. Instead of paying $48 for the spin class you love, become the instructor and get paid to lead the class.
    • Dog Walker. If you love dogs and don’t currently have one of your own, what better way to fill that void in your life while making money. The same applies to babysitting.
    • Home Baker. Make homemade treats with your kids and sell them to parents who don’t have the time.

    There is always a way to make more money.

    The point is there are always ways to make more money by doing things you like to do anyways. Even if you’re busy. You just have to exert some mental energy to figure out how.

    I’m reminded of another conversation my dad and I had when I was in high school.

    Growing up, my siblings and I were busy kids. Sports, clubs, performances, classes, you name it. I made a remark to my dad about it at one point.

    He responded that being busy wasn’t a bad thing because you don’t have time to fool around. When you have no choice other than to stay focused, you actually perform better in all facets of life.

    You’re not thrown off by distractions because you’re locked in on accomplishing your goals.

    Smiling female bartender talking with customers as her side hustle to make extra money learned on Think and Talk Money

    After launching Think and Talk Money, I feel a heightened sense of focus. It’s benefitting me in all of my pursuits. I take care of business as best I can, while prioritizing my family and my health.

    I can see your eye rolls through your screen.

    This guys is nuts. He’s a workaholic. He has no life.

    The people who know me best would beg to differ.

    They might just tell you that I’m striving to build a life where I spend my working hours doing what is meaningful to me.

    I spend my personal time with the people that are meaningful to me.

    Have you ever used a HELOC to invest in real estate?

    Yes, I’ve used HELOCs, which stands for Home Equity Lines of Credit, to scale my real estate portfolio.

    This question leads to so many concepts we need to discuss, from debt and credit to investing. We’ll come back to HELOCs more fully in a separate post.

    The bottom line is using HELOCs to scale your investment portfolio is a more advanced strategy that I would not recommend for everyone. I probably wouldn’t recommend it for most people, even experienced real estate investors.

    I say that for good reason. When you hear HELOC, think debt. For many of us, debt is problematic and leads to negative emotions.

    I experienced these negative emotions associated with debt. I only got comfortable with taking on debt as I learned to trust myself again with the responsibility.

    HELOCs are like credit cards, just in another form of debt.

    My advice: if you have proven to yourself that you can responsibly handle debt, using a HELOC may be a worthwhile strategy for you.

    By responsible with debt, I mean:

    If you satisfy all of the above, a HELOC may be useful to scale your real estate portfolio. If you’re thinking about using a HELOC in the near future and want to talk it out, please feel free to reach out.

    What’s it like being a blogger?

    It’s only been five weeks, but I’m happy I took the chance to launch Think and Talk Money.

    It’s been fun.

    And, it’s been hard.

    First, the fun stuff. I’ve enjoyed writing and talking about personal finance concepts that are important to me. I’ve especially enjoyed all the interactions with our readers.

    One unexpected element I’ve appreciated is the sense of accomplishment that comes with publishing every post. This is very different from my experience as a lawyer where we typically work on a case for years before its conclusion.

    I’ve also had fun writing in a new style. I haven’t ever blogged before. I haven’t done any writing other than legal writing since college. If you’ve ever had the pleasure of reading a legal brief or court opinion, first off, I’m sorry. Second, you understand how different legal writing is from blog writing.

    Even though the writing styles are different, there is certainly some overlap in the fundamentals. My aim in both styles of writing is to be clear, concise, and informative. I hope to be somewhat interesting, as well.

    As a blogger, I’m still finding my voice, as they say.

    It can be challenging to make core personal finance concepts- like budgeting and saving money- educational, simple, and entertaining. If I’m doing my job, then my personal finance content should also be relatable and understandable.

    Please let me know you have any feedback on what’s working (or not working for you)!

    So, what’s hard about blogging?

    Now, for the hard stuff.

    My wife and I launched Think and Talk Money with zero knowledge, skills, or experience in starting a website.

    Can you tell? Be nice.

    We have no tech background whatsoever. Two months ago, I had no idea what SEO, caching, or plugins were.

    We also have no design or marketing background. I didn’t even have social media (other than LinkedIn) until we launched. The fact that we have 129 Instagram followers (don’t laugh) seems like a small miracle to me.

    My first post on LinkedIn had more than 12,000 impressions in the first few days. I still have no idea what that means, but it’s exciting!

    If you’ve ever started a website, you know exactly what I mean. Creating the content is only the first step. So much more goes into it behind the scenes. We’re still only scratching the surface.

    To sum it up, the tech stuff has been challenging and time consuming. We’ve learned so much already but have so much more to learn.

    Thank you to everyone who has reached out with tips and suggestions!

    What’s the end game for Think and Talk Money?

    I completely understand why this is an important question to think about. The truth is we’re just getting started and haven’t thought about Think and Talk Money in terms of an end game.

    I’ve always liked to teach and write, and this lets me do more of both. For now, our mission is to introduce the most important concepts of personal finance through the blog.

    We post three times per week on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays.

    Some of the posts cover core personal finance topics in depth. Other posts are more targeted and address specific strategies or lessons.

    A writer engrossed in their work at a desk overlooking a tranquil lake, finding inspiration in the natural surroundings to write about personal finance at Think and Talk Money.

    There’s an intentional order to the way we’ve been introducing concepts. The order is important and mirrors the curriculum in my personal finance class for new lawyers.

    We started with money mindset, then moved to budgeting, then moved to savings.

    These are core personal finance concepts that we will always revisit in the blog. If your mind is not in the right place, it doesn’t matter if you know the particulars of how to budget or save.

    We’ll soon move on to topics like debt and credit, investing, and real estate.

    So, what comes next for Think and Talk Money?

    My wife and I are thinking about all the options: podcast, online courses, personal coaching, speaking events, and a book.

    Of all these options, the book might be the surest thing. I’ve wanted to write a book for a long time.

    Whatever happens, we’ll do our best to continue creating valuable content and listen to what our audience wants.

    Let us know if you have any thoughts or ideas on what should come next!

  • Why You Need to Track Your Net Worth

    Why You Need to Track Your Net Worth

    On the first of every month, I wake up at 5:15 a.m., brush my teeth, and put on my robe.

    I walk downstairs, pour a cup of coffee, and head to my favorite chair in the living room.

    I then power on my laptop and open an Excel file called “Adair Family Balance Sheet.” Using this basic spreadsheet, my wife and I have been tracking and discussing our net worth for years.

    It takes me about 20 minutes to update our family balance sheet each month. The hardest part is remembering all the passwords for our accounts.

    When I finish entering the new account values, I study the spreadsheet for about two minutes.

    I hope to see that our money efforts that month resulted in our assets increasing in value and our debts decreasing.

    When I’m finished with the updates, my wife grabs her coffee and sits with me. She will likewise study the family balance sheet for about two minutes.

    We’ll then spend about three minutes talking about the changes from the previous month.

    And, that’s it.

    It takes us less than 30 minutes each month to track and discuss what I consider the most important metric in personal finance.

    That’s all the time it takes to know if we are progressing towards our most important goals. By tracking our net worth, we can quickly see if we are making good money decisions or need to make adjustments.

    I recommend everybody, no matter where you are in your financial journey, track your net worth.

    Just like budgeting with two simple numbers, tracking your net worth is the best, and easiest, way to measure your money progress.

    There’s no better way to learn how much money you’re keeping after a month of making money.

    In this post, we’ll talk about what “net worth” means, how to track it, and why it’s so important.

    Let’s start with what net worth means.

    Going into hiding straight from a London pub.

    One night when I was studying abroad in London years ago, my good friend, Kais, and I were talking in a pub. I don’t remember what we were talking about when he offered:

    “If I was in trouble and needed to go into hiding, I could sell everything that I own, pay all my debts, put the leftover money in the bank, and be fine for a couple of years.”

    Uhh, OK…

    At the time, I had no idea what he was talking about.

    Still, I had to admit that it seemed pretty cool that he had that kind of financial flexibility. I knew I couldn’t survive for a couple of weeks, let alone a couple of years.

    People in an english pub talking about their net worth as learned on Think and Talk Money.
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    Looking back years later, I now realize that he was talking about his net worth.

    Kais, if you’re reading this, drop me a line to let me know you’re not hiding.

    So, what is net worth?

    Your net worth is simply all of your assets less all of your liabilities.

    Net Worth = Assets – Liabilities

    Yup, you only need those two numbers to calculate your net worth, the most important number in personal finance.

    There’s no complicated math involved. Just addition and subtraction, which couldn’t be easier in a basic balance sheet (or spreadsheet).

    Let’s start with understanding what counts as an asset.

    What are assets?

    An asset is anything that has economic value and can be owned or controlled.

    In even simpler terms, an asset is just about anything you can think of that could be exchanged for money.

    My family’s current assets include:

    • Retirement accounts for both me and my wife
    • College savings accounts for each kid
    • Health savings account (my favorite account… we’ll revisit)
    • Checking accounts
    • Savings accounts
    • Cars
    • Jewelry
    • Properties
    • Cash on hand

    Other common examples of assets include:

    • Collectibles (artwork, coins, designer bags)
    • Furniture
    • Household goods (TVs, appliances, rugs, etc.)
    • Clothes
    • Tools
    • Recreational gear (bicycles, golf clubs, boats)
    • Toys

    It’s up to you to decide what assets to include in your balance sheet. There is no strict science to it. That said, there’s no point in overstating (or understating) your assets. You (and your family) are the only ones who will be reviewing your balance sheet.

    I personally don’t include all of our household items, but you are certainly welcome to. For me, it’s not worth the time and effort to determine how much I could earn by selling my TV or snowboard.

    a closet that is organized and neatly arranged with clothes, shoes, and accessories, illustrating items that could count as assets learned on Think and Talk Money.

    It’s perfectly acceptable if you want to tally up the value of your items. I think it makes sense to do so if you have a lot of nice things. If you choose to do so, aim for estimates, rather than precise values, to make your life easier.

    Why it is so important to acquire assets.

    Assets can, but don’t always, appreciate (increase in value) over time. For example, a property may appreciate over the long term, but a typical car will do the opposite and depreciate (lose value over time).

    Assets can also generate income, but don’t always. A good rental property should generate monthly cashflow. A stock portfolio can generate dividends (payments from companies to investors).

    On the other hand, a designer bag won’t generate income, unless you charge people to borrow it. Even so, a designer bag is still considered an asset because you could exchange it for money.

    To state the obvious, owning assets is a very good idea. Especially assets that appreciate and assets that generate income.

    When you own these types of assets, your net worth will increase over time without much extra effort on your part. You don’t have to specifically trade your time for money with these types of assets.

    Think of it like this: the best way to achieve financial independence is to own assets that increase in value over time and generate income.

    By tracking your net worth each month, you’ll know how your assets are doing.

    Does my home count as an asset?

    Some people, like personal finance legend Robert Kiyosaki, don’t think you should count your home as an asset. The argument goes something like, “You can’t really sell your home because then you wouldn’t have anywhere to live. So, you shouldn’t count it as an asset.”

    I couldn’t possibly disagree more.

    For many of us, our homes are our most important purchase in our lives. Over the long run, most of our homes will appreciate in value, even if not as much as we hoped.

    We spend years working to make money so we can pay down the mortgage. Each payment we make reduces our debt and increases our equity in the home, thereby improving our net worth.

    Don’t overcomplicate it. Include your home as part of your net worth. Just don’t forget to include the mortgage as a liability (we’ll discuss below).

    How do you determine the value of your home for purposes of tracking your net worth?

    Make it easy on yourself. The goal is to obtain a reasonable estimate. If you’ve worked with a real estate broker, ask her for the current value of your home. She will use recent “comps”, meaning similar comparable properties in the area, to come up with a fair value.

    You can also make a decent estimate of the value of your home by studying comps yourself. Platforms like Redfin or Zillow make it easy to see what homes have sold in your neighborhood.

    Look for homes as similar to yours as you can find. Focus on size, the number of bedrooms and bathrooms, and the quality of the finishes.

    Remember, this is not an exact science. We’re aiming for an estimate of your home value only for the purpose of measuring your net worth.

    On our family balance sheet, I only update the estimated value of our properties once per year. That’s good enough for me, and all you really need to do.

    Now that we know what assets are, we need to figure out what liabilities are to calculate our net worth.

    What are liabilities?

    A liability is any debt or obligation that you owe to someone else. Liabilities are most commonly found in the form of loans.

    Unlike assets, liabilities diminish your overall net worth.

    To speed up your path to financial independence, focus on reducing or eliminating liabilities.

    Closeup image of a woman holding and choosing credit card to use, which she knows counts as liabilities from Think and Talk Money.

    My family’s current liabilities include:

    • Lines of credit
    • Mortgages

    Other common examples of liabilities include:

    • Credit card debt
    • Student loan debt
    • Auto loans
    • Personal Loans
    • Consumer loans

    When you are beginning your career, it’s common for your liabilities to be greater than your assets. This is usually because of student loan balances.

    Remember our real life, really lost boy? He had a negative net worth for years.

    Don’t let that discourage you from tracking your net worth. Even if you’re in negative territory, each month is a chance to shrink that negative number, which means your net worth is increasing.

    Whether you are paying down debt, or adding to your savings or investments, the result is the same: your net worth increases.

    The reason for tracking your net worth also remains the same: individual progress, over time.

    Now that we know what assets and liabilities are, we can create our balance sheet and determine our net worth.

    Creating your own net worth balance sheet is very easy.

    I’m happy to share the spreadsheet I currently use to track my net worth. Subscribe to our weekly email newsletter, and send me a reply to the next email asking for my net worth spreadsheet.

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    On the top of my family’s net worth spreadsheet, each row represents an asset, or something we own.

    On the bottom of the spreadsheet, the rows represent the debts we owe.

    Each of the 12 columns (one column for each month) in the spreadsheet indicates the value of each asset at the end of the month.

    The reason I add a new column for each month, instead of just updating the values in a single column, is so I can easily see how our net worth has changed over time.

    Once all 12 months for the year are filled in, I start a new sheet and repeat the process. This helps us track how our net worth has changed over the long run.

    Since your balance sheet is for your eyes only (or your family’s eyes), feel free to design it however you want.

    On our family spreadsheet, I use different colors to illustrate the different types of assets we own and liabilities we owe:

    Turquoise for securities (stocks and bonds). Orange for checking accounts. Purple for savings and objects (like cars and jewelry). Green for properties.

    I like color coding because it helps me quickly visualize what we own or owe in each broad category.

    Here’s what a simple balance sheet looks like:

    If you want to create your own balance sheet, here’s what it might look like:

    AssetsJanuaryFebruaryMarch
    401(k)
    Roth IRA
    529 College
    HSA
    Checking
    Savings
    Car
    Home
    Rental Properties
    Total
    LiabilitiesJanuaryFebruaryMarch
    Credit Cards
    Mortgage
    Student Loan
    Auto Loan
    Total

    Once you input the amounts for each cell in the appropriate column, use the “sum” function to total your assets and separately total your liabilities.

    Then, all you need to do calculate your net worth is create one final row labeled “Net Worth”.

    In the “Net Worth” cell, simply use the “sum” function again to subtract the liabilities total from the assets total.

    JanuaryFebruaryMarch
    NET WORTH

    That’s all there is to it. Now, you know your net worth.

    Tracking your net worth is the best way to measure your personal financial progress.

    By now, you should be thinking that it’s not too difficult to track your net worth.

    It takes my wife and I less than 30 minutes each month to track and talk about the most important number in personal finance.

    How can we spend so little time on the most important number in personal finance?

    Because we’re only looking for progress compared to what our net worth was previously.

    We’re not interested in anyone else’s numbers. We only care about making personal improvements for our family.

    If our net worth is increasing over time, it means we are heading in the right direction.

    It means that we are continuing to fuel our Later Money goals. We’re paying down debt. We’re letting our investments do their thing.

    If our net worth is decreasing, it means we need to consider making adjustments.

    Sometimes our net worth decreases because the markets are heading down. If that’s the case, we don’t do anything. At this stage in our lives, we can afford to wait for the markets to tick back up.

    If the issue is that our debt is increasing, or we haven’t fueled our investments that month, we make adjustments.

    By studying our net worth each month, we can catch these setbacks before they become a continuous problem.

    That’s all there is to it.

    All before the kids wake up.

    Do you currently track your net worth?

    Have you found it useful to measure your overall financial health.

  • Strong Motivation to Talk Money with Friends

    Strong Motivation to Talk Money with Friends

    My favorite teachers share a common gift of using analogies to make a teaching point more clear. My mentor and moot court coach in law school (he preferred we call him Sensei) was an expert at analogies.

    Back in law school, after working for months on a brief for a moot court competition, my team messed up and submitted a brief with a bad formatting error on the cover page.

    We knew we were going to get penalized, but after months of working on it, we still felt proud of our work. And, it felt good to be done.

    Diverse students high fiving together after completing a moot court brief.

    We called Sensei in celebration that we were finished. When we told him about the formatting error, he was… not pleased.

    “You fumbled the ball on the one yard line!”

    I told you he was good with analogies.

    Analogies can help us internalize key money concepts.

    I’ve found that analogies work well when trying to implement key money wellness habits into our lives. Like the idea of generating fuel for our ultimate life goals through our budgeting choices.

    I’m always on the lookout for new analogies to help make money concepts more relatable. It probably has to do with the common misconception that being good with money means knowing the ins-and-outs of the stock market.

    That just isn’t true.

    I want to help people realize that being good with money has little to do with understanding the stock market and more to do with generating money to invest in the first place.

    Relating money concepts to other familiar areas of life can help with that.

    Fresh vegetables being added to soil in a garden, symbolizing healthy financial habits learned at Think and Talk Money.

    This is one of the things I like best about teaching personal finance. Money touches all aspects of our lives, whether we like it or not. So, talking about money is really just talking about life. Sometimes that means using analogies.

    Which leads us to Peloton.

    See you on the leaderboard.

    My wife and I bought a Peloton bike during the pandemic, probably like a lot of you. I’m still a big fan, especially because of the flexibility an at-home workout provides when juggling life with kids.

    If you’re also a Peloton fan, who are your favorite instructors? For me, it’s Alex Toussaint and Matt Wilpers. And recently, Selena Samuela, because she loves Fourth Wing.

    It occurred to me the other day that my friends and I talk about Peloton a fair amount. I pretty much know who all their favorite instructors are and what type of music they ride to. I’ve been accused of having a hot bike that juices my score, which I continue to deny.

    There’s nothing better than doing a Peloton ride at home and seeing that your friend is doing the same ride. It gives you a jolt of energy to know your friend, in that exact moment, is doing the same thing as you.

    You know where I’m going with this Peloton analogy.

    It’s long been normal to talk about and motivate each other to exercise. But, it’s still considered taboo to talk about money.

    Why can’t we talk about money the same way we talk about exercising?

    I’m guessing that you know exactly what your closest friends and family members do for exercise. Weights? Yoga? Jogging? You also know which people do nothing at all.

    I’m also guessing you have no clue what motivates each of these people to work 2,000 plus hours per year to make money.

    Or, what their strategies are for using that money they make to fuel their life goals.

    Exercising has long been made better with a personal trainer or a friend to keep you on track. Those days when you don’t feel like working out, having someone to push you is a great advantage.

    Why shouldn’t we seek out that same great advantage when it comes to our money, something that touches every aspect of our lives?

    Fit people lifting dumbbells together during a workout session symbolizing thinking and talking about money.

    This idea extends well beyond exercise habits. I’m sure you know your friends’ current favorite travel destinations, books, and food?

    For me, it’s Colorado, Fourth Wing, and Italian beef, obviously.

    Do you know your friends’ current money goals?

    For me, it’s paying down mortgage debt on our rental properties.

    What are you waiting for?

    When we moved to our new neighborhood, the first people we met at the playground were a lovely couple that own a local fitness center. They’re also real estate investors and have young kids, like us.

    We’ve become friends and have had some amazing talks about life and money. In one such talk, I mentioned that I was thinking about starting Think and Talk Money.

    My friend heard me out and didn’t say a word until I finished. He then looked me square in the eyes, like only a coach could do, and said, “What are you waiting for?”

    He was absolutely right. A few months later, I launched Think and Talk Money and sent him a message thanking him. I was grateful for our talk about life. He was happy to have motivated me.

    Our friends can help with money just like they can help with exercise.

    Lately, I’ve thought about how much my friends and I can help each other if we talked about money concepts just like we talk about Peloton.

    One thing to mention, I don’t want to give you the idea that we’re constantly talking about exercise. It comes up from time to time, every once in a while. That’s enough of a reminder to pay attention to our fitness. Talking money is the same thing.

    You don’t have to bring up money with your friends every week or even every month. How about just every once in a while when it’s on your mind? I think you’ll find your friends are the best people to help you stop worrying about money.

    I think you’ll also find that you can be the one helping and motivating your friends. You don’t have to be an expert. Sharing any ideas can help jumpstart the thought process for your friends. That’s a really good feeling.

    Always remember, the amount of money we have doesn’t matter anymore than our scores on the bike. There’s no reason to talk about numbers unless the people in your life are comfortable with that.

    One caveat, I encourage you to talk specifics with certain people who are impacted by your money choices, like a spouse or partner.

    The point of talking money is not to compare yourself to others.

    Fitness instructors know that it’s not helpful to tell people to compare themselves to each other. We’re all built physically different and emotionally different. Instead, they encourage us to seek personal improvement, consistently over time.

    That’s how we should be talking money with our friends.

    We all basically agree with this concept, right? That it’s not helpful to compare ourselves to others. That’s a lesson that’s been drilled into our brains since we were kids.

    Let’s remember that lesson when we start approaching our friends to talk money. It’s not how much money any of us have, it’s what we’re doing with that money to fuel our goals that matters.

    Do you talk to your friends about paying for college?

    Many of my friends have young kids like me and saving for college is a common goal we share.

    In news that’s not news to anyone, college is expensive.

    Wouldn’t it be beneficial for us to talk about how we’re planning to pay for it?

    Students in university paid for by parents who learned good money habits on Think and Talk Money

    By talking about paying for kids’ college educations with your friends, you may learn about education-specific investment accounts, like 529 plans, which is a common strategy we’ll soon discuss.

    You may also learn less common, but potentially more appealing, strategies for your situation. An example is buying an investment property when your kids are young with the intention of selling it years later to pay for college. This is what Brandon Turner did, and he’s a very smart guy.

    The idea is you may learn something that makes it more likely to achieve your goals, whether that’s paying for college or anything else, like saving up for a wedding or paying off student loans.

    Is there a stronger motivation than helping your friends and loved ones?

    You don’t have to talk numbers. Talk about the strategy and help each other stay consistent. You both will benefit.

    Is there any stronger motivation in life than helping our friends and loved ones? On the same note, what better people to learn from than your friends, people you know and trust.

    That’s what talking money is all about.

    Leave a comment below if you’ve talked money with any of your friends lately.

    How did it go?

    Did you learn anything that you’d recommend when approaching the topic of money?

  • Better at Making or Keeping Money?

    Better at Making or Keeping Money?

    When people learn that I’ve been teaching money wellness to law students, I usually get a reaction like, “I need that class! I know nothing about investments and the stock market.”

    It’s a fair reaction. Investing in the stock market can be complicated. Most of us never learn basic stock market principles, let alone how to manage an investment portfolio.

    It’s also a reaction that has always fascinated me. Yes, wanting to learn about investing is important. But, it’s not where money wellness begins.

    I often wonder, why do people automatically assume that money wellness means investing? There are so many things that we need to get right before we can focus on investing.

    Learning about the stock market wasn’t going to help me when I was struggling with debt. I needed to first figure out how to make better spending choices and get out of debt. I needed to play defense before I could go on offense.

    Yes, investing is important.

    No, it shouldn’t be the first thing we think of when we hear money wellness.

    We’ve hardly mentioned investing so far in this blog.

    Have you noticed that so far in the Think and Talk Money blog we have hardly even mentioned the word “invest”?

    That’s because in order to invest, we first need available money.

    To have available money, we need a budget that actually works.

    To have a budget that actually works, we need honest, powerful life goals.

    Are you starting to see why we first talk about money mindset? Then we moved on to budgeting?

    We will talk about investing once we have a plan to continuously generate money to invest.

    We will soon talk about investing. A lot. Don’t worry. In my money wellness class, we discuss in depth the importance of investing to create wealth.

    Here at Think and Talk Money, we will also talk extensively about investing, including in the stock market and in my preferred asset class, real estate.

    Investing is not as hard as generating money to invest.

    For now, our goal is to establish sound habits so we have real money to consistently invest over time. It doesn’t make sense to learn how to invest until we have a strong foundation in place.

    I think you’ll also find that investing is really not that hard. If learning how to do it on your own doesn’t sound like something you want to do, there are professionals that can do it for you. Whether it’s a good idea to go that route is something we’ll discuss so you can make an informed decision.

    If you do hire a professional to invest your money, you still need to know enough so you can talk to this person.

    Plus, this person will likely tell you that your ongoing mission is to generate more cash to fuel investments. That’s what we’re focusing on now.

    The fun part is once you’ve discovered your motivations and established strong habits, you will consistently have money available so you can invest month after month for the rest of your life.

    You could be a terrific investor. If you only have $1,000 to invest a single time, your upside will be limited. If you continuously generate $1,000/month of Later Money to invest, your options (and your wealth) will grow exponentially.

    My wife and I would not own five properties today if we didn’t first learn personal money wellness.

    My wife and I would not own five properties (11 rental units) today if we had not first learned money wellness fundamentals. I don’t just mean we wouldn’t have had money available to invest, although that is certainly true.

    I also mean we wouldn’t have the skills and knowledge to successfully run our real estate business. If you’ve ever wanted to be a business owner or investor, working on personal finance skills now is critical.

    Maybe that’s not your path. Still, these skills are critical whether you are a consultant, a writer, or a teacher. Would you agree that having money issues and stress at home can distract you from performing your job at the highest level?

    How many hours per year do you work to make money?

    Lately, when people ask me why I’m so passionate about money wellness, I respond with a question of my own that goes something like this:

    “Let’s say we work 2,000 hours per year to make money (40 hours per week, 50 weeks per year).

    We won’t even count all the hours we spend getting dressed and commuting to our jobs.

    We also will pretend we’re not looking at our emails in the evening and on weekends.

    We definitely won’t count the hours we’re staring at the ceiling fan because we can’t sleep.

    OK, so that’s 2,000 hours (plus) per year, to make money.

    How many hours per year do we think about what to do with that money?”

    Let that sink in for a moment.

    How many hours do you work every year to make money? 2,000? 3,000? I’m guessing a lot of those hours are stressful.

    Now, how many hours do you think about what to do with that money?

    Do you spend any hours at all talking about what to do with that money?

    This is why I am passionate about money wellness. Most people spend the vast majority of their lives worried about making money and practically no time at all thinking about what to do with that money.

    No, I’m not suggesting that you need to think about money for 2,000 hours per year.

    What I am suggesting is that even that little bit of time each week spent thinking and talking about money is just as important as the time you spent earning it.

    Think and Talk Money is about encouraging each other to make purposeful money choices.

    Robert Kiyosaki put it best in Rich Dad Poor Dad, “It’s not how much money you make. It’s how much money you keep.”

    If you knew someone that made $1,000,000 per year, and at the end of the year, had only invested $20,000, what would your reaction be?

    What if you knew someone who made $100,000 per year and invested $20,000? Did your reaction change?

    Multicultural group of women stacking hands together - Female community concept with different girls support each other - Girlfriends hugging outdoors encouraging each other to visit think and talk money.

    Think and Talk Money is all about actively thinking and talking about money so we can help each other make informed choices with our hard earned money.

    Whether you make a lot of money or a little money, it doesn’t matter. What you choose to do with that money is up to. It’s your life.

    All I want is for you to make those choices from a position of informed confidence.

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      Great insight! The foundation is so important!

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  • You will Easily Know and Feel Money Well Spent

    You will Easily Know and Feel Money Well Spent

    Coming up, we’re going to do our first Q&A post where I’ll answer questions from readers. So many good questions have already come in. Please keep them coming! Leave a comment below, subscribe to our newsletter, or find us on Instagram.

    One question we already received was so good, I’ve answered it here in a dedicated post. The question came from someone that I love to talk money with. He read the Think and Talk Money Welcome Post where I mentioned that my credit card debt was partially due to having Chicago Cubs season tickets.

    He knows that I’m a big Cubs fan and asked me if I would I really trade all those great experiences and memories just to save money.

    It’s such a good question because it points to the intersection of money and life. It took me all of two seconds to know and feel the answer was, of course, “No, I would not have given up my Cubs tickets.”

    He was absolutely right. If I gave up my tickets in 2010 when I was struggling with debt, I never would have been in the stadium in 2016 with my family for the Cubs’ World Series run. Those are some of the best memories I have.

    In hindsight, I would have done some things differently so I could enjoy the experiences without the money worries. Let’s talk about that.

    But first, story time.

    Our nice friends, Phil and April.

    Throughout that World Series run, we sat next to the nicest couple in the world, Phil and April. Phil was a diehard Cubs fan. April was more reserved. Both were smart and very friendly. They were enjoyable people to sit with. We chatted baseball, mostly. Pitching changes. Send the runner. Question the manager. That sort of thing. Completely normal, unremarkable stuff.

    Until Game 5.

    Game 5 was played on a crisp, October evening. Jackets and beanies weather in Chicago. Phil and April were sitting next to my brother and I, as usual. Mike Napoli was playing first base for Cleveland.

    Around the 3rd inning, a jerk four rows in front of us taunted Napoli with a crude, juvenile insult. It was apparent the jerk was doing his part to keep Old Style in business for another year.

    Phil was nice…and tough.

    Anyway, the rest of our section was none too pleased with the jerk’s shameful display. Nobody was more displeased than Phil, who did what the rest of us were thinking but were too scared to do ourselves. Phil stood up. In so many words, Phil sternly recommended that the jerk knock it off and show some class.

    The jerk turned around, aggressively scanning the crowd for the man who had publicly shamed him. The jerk had that unmistakable look in his eye that meant, “Let’s dance.” My brother and I were a bit worried for our nice… and all of a sudden tough…friend, Phil.

    April did not look worried. She sat there like nothing strange was happening. Almost like she had seen this movie before.

    When the jerk locked eyes with Phil, he immediately saw that Phil was happy to accept the invitation to tango. Well, the jerk was sloppy, but he had enough sense to recognize that he wanted no piece of Phil. He wisely turned back around and sat down quietly.

    That was the last we heard from the jerk that night. Our nice, and now confirmed tough friend Phil had restored order.

    Phil’s on TV!

    On the day of the Cubs’ championship parade, my brother called me excitedly, “Phil’s on TV! Phil’s on TV!” It didn’t register right away who he was talking about. When I turned on the TV, sure enough, there was Phil, our World Series friend. I was so confused. Phil was giving an interview on set with the Cubs announcers. Our nice (and tough) friend, Phil? On TV?

    I turned up the volume and listened to Phil talk about his experience watching the Cubs win the World Series. Maybe I was hoping he’d mention his nice friend, Matt. He didn’t.

    I still couldn’t figure out why Phil was on TV. Why won’t they just put his name on the screen already!?

    It wasn’t until the end of the interview that I learned who Phil was. All I could do was laugh.

    Our nice, and confirmed tough, friend Phil is better known as World Wresting Entertainment (WWE) champion and icon, CM Punk.

    His wife? WWE champion and bestselling author, AJ Mendez.

    Life, huh?

    A memory I wouldn’t trade for anything.

    As much fun as the World Series was, my favorite Cubs memory actually took place during the 2015 season, the year before they won the World Series. It was during the 7th inning of Game 4 of the NLDS. This was the game where the Cubs knocked the rival St. Louis Cardinals out of the playoffs.

    In the 7th inning, with the Cubs up 5-4, Kyle Schwarber hit one of the most epic home runs in Cubs history, landing his moonshot on top of the new right field video board. It was such a feat, the ball is now enshrined where it landed.

    The entire stadium was rocking so loud, you could feel the ground shaking beneath your feet. Every fan was jumping up and down, hugging anyone close enough to touch. We were all dancing like nobody was watching. That moment was pure happiness.

    I was there with my mom. A lifelong Chicagoan, she too was jumping up and down and high-fiving all the other diehard fans in our section. After the game, we met up with my wife at a restaurant and relived the victory over Champagne.

    What does this have to do with money?

    What does any of this have to do with money? When I said money was emotional, this is what I meant. I wouldn’t trade that memory with my mom for anything. My brother and I still joke about our nice friends, Phil and April.

    These are the types of experiences that I want more of. These memories, and the desire for more like them, continue to motivate me today. I want to be good with money, not so I can stash it in the bank, but so I can use that money to create joy for me and my family.

    So, to get back to my friend’s question. Would I really have given up my Cubs tickets? No, absolutely not.

    What would I have done differently to keep the tickets but not the worries?

    In hindsight, what could I have done differently so my Cubs tickets were not a major source of financial worry?

    Even back then, I knew and felt that spending money on Cubs tickets was money well spent. I didn’t need to wait for hindsight to come to that conclusion.

    That said, I would have put more thought into solutions to keep the tickets and the experiences without the debt and the shame. I would have looked at expenditures in my Now Money and Life Money buckets that were ripe for adjustment.

    Maybe that would have meant giving up something else less meaningful, like my gym membership. Or, I could have looked into a side hustle as a way to earn more money, something we’ll explore at another time.

    Whatever the solution was, I would have been more intentional with my decisions so my experiences were not overshadowed by my worries.

    Talking money is really just talking life.

    This was such a good question to illustrate a foundational concept of Think and Talk Money. Yes, we discuss money. But, we’re really talking about our lives and our experiences. Money is just a tool to help us.

    And before you get cynical on me, of course money is not required for good experiences. That’s not the point. What I’m suggesting is that if you’re spending most of your time each week at your job, like most of us do, shouldn’t we think about the money we earn so we can maximize experiences like I had with my mom?

    Think and Talk Money is all about awakening that thought process so we can use the tool of money to fuel meaningful lives. Would you use that tool to get you Cubs tickets? Or, do you prefer trips to Disney World? What if money is just the currency that you trade to get your time back, so you can do more of what you want with who you want?

    Whatever it is that you’re after in life, thinking and talking about money will help get you there.

    Keep the questions coming!

  • How to Make a Budget After Thinking

    How to Make a Budget After Thinking

    In Part 1 of our series on budgeting, we’re going to learn that the art of budgeting is having a plan for your next dollar before you earn it. That way, you avoid having disappearing dollars.

    Here, we’ll learn how to create our baseline budget based off of our current personal situation. Wherever you currently are in life, you can then make adjustments to your spending based on what you truly want.

    In Part 2 of our series on budgeting, we’ll use a real life example to work through the budgeting process together. Through this example, you’ll see how even seemingly minor adjustments can make a big impact to your budget.

    In Part 3, we’ll take a deep dive into my top 10 strategies for making thoughtful adjustments to our budgets so we can add more fuel to our financial and life goals.

    In the end, I’ll show you how to use the information you’ve learned about yourself to create a lasting money plan that does not require you to track every penny. What I mean is that if you can practice these budgeting tips for just a little while, you actually won’t need to budget anymore. That’s when thinking and talking about money starts to be a lot of fun.

    Let’s start with a question:

    What would you do right now with $20,000.00?

    What would you do right now with a $20,000.00 bonus that was unexpectedly deposited into your checking account?

    No strings attached. It’s your money to do anything with.

    Answering this question should be fun. It’s a free $20,000.00!

    But, my guess is that if you thought seriously about it, you didn’t have much fun at all.

    Many of us likely struggled with what to do. We want to do the right thing, but we don’t know what that right thing is. Should we pay down debt? Should we invest? Take a vacation? Do nothing?

    Do you have a plan for where your next dollar is going?

    The reason we struggle with decisions like this is because most of us don’t have a plan for where our next dollar is going. What ends up happening is we do nothing. Our money hits our checking account, we spend it on this or that, and pretty soon that money has disappeared. We haven’t used the money to advance any of our priorities. It’s just gone.

    To me, this is one of the most important money mistakes that we need to fix right away. Having a plan for our money, before we earn it, is essential if we want to reach our goals. With a plan, we can eliminate the disappearing dollars with confidence that our money is being used to serve our purposes.

    Budgeting is about having a plan ahead of time where your next dollar is going.

    And, that leads us to budgeting. The word “budget” is synonymous with “plan”. The art of budgeting is to know what you want to do with your money before it hits your checking account. Otherwise, it’s too late. Those dollars will disappear.

    I teach my students that to create a budget, you need to first study your own personal situation to figure out where your dollars are currently going. Then, you can figure out a plan for how to use your next dollar before you earn it. This applies not just to bonuses or other unexpected dollars, it applies to every dollar you earn.

    When you put the time in to study your own habits, you can then create a realistic budget. When you have a realistic budget, you will have confidence that your dollars are working for you.

    Some dollars will be used to pay your ordinary life expenses, some dollars will be used for all the things in life you love, and some dollars will go to your financial goals.

    That’s all there is to it.

    Let’s take a look at three steps to take when first creating a budget.

    Step 1: Track your spending for at least 3 months.

    I recommend everyone, regardless of where you are in life, start with this first step of tracking your spending for at least three months. Without knowing where your money is currently going, you won’t be able to think about adjustments.

    I won’t lie to you. This step can be hard and you probably won’t like it. This is the step that makes people think budgeting is a nasty word. I get it and don’t blame you for having that reaction.

    Still, there’s no getting around this first step. Remember, you don’t have to budget forever, just long enough to learn your own behaviors towards money.

    Please know that many of us struggle with this first step. You might not like what you learn by tracking your spending. When I first started budgeting, I learned that I was $20,000.00 in debt and was spending way more than I earned. That wasn’t fun, but I’m happy that I put in the effort to find my blindspots and make adjustments.

    I often think to myself, “Where would I be today if I didn’t go through this process 15 years ago? How much further into debt would I have fallen?”

    Talk to your people as you go through the budgeting process.

    One last thing, budgeting is one of those areas where it can really help to talk with our people along the way for support and encouragement. You don’t have to budget in secret. We’re all in this together. Put the mental energy into this step, so you can stop wasting mental energy worrying about money and start getting energized thinking about money.

    In Part 2 of our budgeting series, we’ll talk about the different ways you can track your spending. I’ve used apps, spreadsheets, and even the notes function on my phone. The good news is, tracking your spending is easier today than it’s ever been.

    Regardless of how you track your spending, be honest with yourself. If you intentionally or mistakenly leave out certain expenditures, you won’t learn where your money is actually going. A budget, which is just a plan, is only as good as the data it’s built off of. Be honest about your data.

    One quick note: Budgets are usually done monthly, so you’ll want to create a separate accounting for each month you tracked. The reason we track three months of spending is so you’ll be able to identify any patterns or inconsistencies in your spending from month-to-month. This helps ensure you’re making decisions based off the best data possible.

    Step 2: Separate your spending into three three main categories.

    Great work completing the first step! That wasn’t easy, but you did it.

    Now that you have tracked your spending for three months, you can assign each expense into separate categories. Most personal finance experts agree, though we have different names for each category, that you should divide your money into three main buckets. I refer to these buckets as:

    1. Now Money
    2. Life Money
    3. Later Money

    1. Now Money

    Now Money is what you need to pay for basic life expenses. These expenses include housing, transportation, groceries, utilities (like internet and electricity), household goods (like toilet paper), and insurance. These are expenses that you can’t avoid and should be relatively fixed each month.

    2. Life Money

    Life Money is what you are going to spend every month on things and experiences in life that you love. This bucket includes dining out, concerts, vacations, subscriptions, gifts, and anything else that brings you joy.

    We can’t be afraid to spend this money. This bucket is usually what makes life fun and exciting. The key is to think and talk so you are spending this money consistently on things that matter to you.

    3. Later Money

    Later Money is what you are saving, investing, or using to pay off debt. This bucket includes long term goals, such as retirement plan contributions (like a 401k or Roth IRA), college savings for your kids (like a 529 plan), emergency savings and paying off student loan or credit card debt. This bucket also includes any shorter term goals, like saving for a wedding or a downpayment for a house.

    Most fun of all, this bucket includes any investments you make to more quickly grow your wealth, like investing in real estate or the stock market.

    You’ve probably guessed it already. Later Money is the key category that fuels your ultimate life goals, like financial independence. The more you fuel this category, the faster you can reach your goals.

    Don’t worry about assigning a percentage to each category.

    I have intentionally not recommended target amounts or percentages to allocate to each of your three categories. The reason is because of what I’ve learned from my students over the years. I’ll lay out my full reasoning in a separate post.

    The short version is that in my experience working with law students, assigning target percentages for each category is counterproductive. When I used to teach my students to aim for certain percentages in each category, I could tell that they would get discouraged as soon as I put the numbers on the slideshow. I completely understand why.

    Each of us is starting in a different place. If you are currently spending 80% of your monthly income on Now Money, it’s not helpful to have someone tell you to create a budget that automatically drops that level to 50%. My students would tune me out as soon as I put those numbers on the board.

    Now, I teach my students to think and talk about their current personal realities and aim for steady and lasting improvements. I want my students to create a plan that will last, not an unrealistic plan that they give up on after a few months.

    So, whatever amount you’re currently spending in each bucket, that’s what we’re going to work with as we move on to step 3.

    One other thing before you move on to step 3: don’t get hung up stressing about what type of expense goes into each category. Sometimes, it gets tricky. Do clothes you buy for work count as Now Money or Life Money? Don’t stress. It doesn’t really matter. It’s not worth the mental energy thinking about it. Just stay consistent and move on.

    If you still want a target, aim for 20% of your income added to your Later Money each month.

    All that said, I know that some of us operate better if we have a specific target in mind. If that’s you, the conventional wisdom is to aim for 20% of your income added to your Later Money each month.

    Targeting 20% savings each month was popularized in Elizabeth Warren’s book, All Your Worth: The Ultimate Lifetime Money Plan, first published in 2005 (before she was Senator Warren, she was a law professor and author). Senator Warren advocated for a 50-30-20 budget framework with 50% going to fixed costs (what I call “Now Money”), 30% going to wants (“Life Money”), and 20% going to financial goals (“Later Money”).

    Most personal finance experts agree that the 50-30-20 framework is a solid plan for your budget.

    In theory, I agree.

    In reality, I’ve become convinced through working with my law students that the 50-30-20 framework does not cut it in today’s environment. Like me, some experts have also recognized a 60-30-10 framework may be more appropriate today.

    While I agree the 60-30-10 framework is more realistic, my experience has taught me that assigning rigid percentages is just not a practical framework for most people at the beginning of budgeting process.

    Step 3: Make adjustments so your spending better aligns with your true motivations and desires in life.

    OK, so now that you have assigned your spending to each of the three categories, the next step is to think and talk about your current habits and whether you’re spending matches your true motivations and desires in life.

    If you decide that your spending does not match your life values, then it’s time to make some adjustments. What kind of adjustments?

    We’ll talk much more about how to make those adjustments in Part 2 of our budgeting series. In essence, my budgeting philosophy is to aim for steady and lasting improvements based on your current reality and your ultimate motivations. What does that mean?

    Your budget is really just about finding fuel for the best things in life.

    small tree growing with sunshine in garden like small money choices before big.

    This is where we circle back to the importance of having a clear understanding of what we want out of our money. Money is a tool. Ask yourself:

    “Is your current spending aligned with how you want to use your money to fuel your goals and ambitions?”

    If not, you can make incremental adjustments as you progress towards your ideal spending alignment.

    The idea will be to continuously add more fuel to our Life Money and Later Money, the buckets that represent the things we love the most (Life Money) and our most important life goals (Later Money).

    You can make small adjustments, which are usually easier and faster to put in place. These adjustments might include dining out a bit less, cutting out a concert, or cancelling a gym membership or subscription you don’t use.

    You can also make big adjustments, like moving to a cheaper part of town or getting rid of you car.

    Small or big, the key is that when you make these adjustments, you repurpose that money in a thoughtful and intentional way. You’re now starting to align your budget with your money motivations.

    With each thoughtful decision, you’re progressing towards your best money life. Most importantly, you’re learning about yourself and developing lasting habits. You won’t get discouraged and give up on budgeting.

    As we wrap up Part 1 in our budgeting series, keep the three initial steps in mind.

    • Step 1: Track your spending for at least 3 months.
    • Step 2: Separate your spending into 3 main categories.
    • Step 3: Make adjustments so your spending better aligns with your true motivations and desires in life.

    As you start to implement these steps, you’ll start to have a clearer picture of how your money can work for you.

    And, the next time you’re asked what you would do with $20,000.00, you’ll know the answer ahead of time because you have a plan in place.

    Answering the $20,000.00 question will be fun. No more anxiety-inducing, disappearing dollars.

  • You Should Want to be Good with Money

    You Should Want to be Good with Money

    So far, we’ve talked about why we need to think about money, why we need to talk about money, and Italian beef. Before we dive deep into budgeting, saving, paying off debt, and investing, we need to make sure our money mindset is locked in.

    I hope you’ve started thinking about why you want to be good with money. This will be personal for all of us and may change with time. The more you think and talk about why you want to be good with money, the clearer your motivations will become.

    Three powerful reasons why I want to be good with money:

    1. Money can give you choices.
    2. Money can give you personal power.
    3. Money can give you time.

    1. Money can give you choices.

    This may seem obvious, but when you have money, you have choices. You can choose where to live. You can choose who you work for, or can work for yourself. You can choose how you eat, exercise, relax, and travel.

    This holds true whether you make $50,000 or $250,000. Of course, your options may be different. The point is that when you’ve made good money choices, you’ll at least have options.

    2. Money can give you personal power.

    This is another way to say that money gives you control of your life situation. If you are in a bad relationship, a bad job, or just need a change, money gives you the personal power to do something about it.

    3. Money can give you time.

    When you have enough money to be truly financially independent, you have earned the freedom to do whatever you want with your time. You can spend your working hours at a job that is meaningful to you. You can spend more time with people who are meaningful to you.

    It’s been said many times, “time is our most precious resource.” When you have money, you can buy your time back.

    an hour glass running empty can be fixed because money gives you time back
    Photo by Aron Visuals on Unsplash

    The most important part of talking is listening.

    From the time we’re in diapers, we start learning by observing people older than us. As my family prepares to leave the house, my son has recently started chanting “Let’s roll! Let’s roll! Let’s roll!” Yup, that one’s on me.

    The same idea applies when it comes to life and money. I’ve mentioned before how much I’ve learned about life from listening to my clients suffering with mesothelioma. I’ve learned even more by listening to my family, friends, and mentors.

    When you listen to enough people with more years behind them than you, certain themes continue to surface, like the importance of family. You’ll hear about creating experiences and memories, usually involving vacations or time with friends.

    One thing I’ve never heard? Someone saying “I wish I spent less money on doing the things I loved.”

    You don’t have to agree with everything you hear, but the act of listening will start turning the wheels in your own mind. And when your wheels start turning, you can’t be afraid to spend money on the things that make you happy.

    Why do we need to actively think about the things that make us happy?

    A sneak peak of how I look at budgeting.

    I said we weren’t going to discuss budgeting yet, and we won’t. “Budgeting” is kind of a nasty word. Nobody likes to say it out loud, let alone aggressively do it each month. This is why we spend so much time in the beginning talking about our money mindset.

    A budget is worthless if you are not motivated to stick to it. Sure, you may stick to your budget plan for a month or two, but you’ll fall back into old habits if you haven’t prioritized what matters most to you.

    We’ll save the particulars for another day. A sneak peak at how I teach my students:

    Like it or not, everyone needs a budget… for a little while. Once we’ve identified what we spend money on and made some thoughtful choices, most of us don’t need a rigid budget.

    If you’ve thought and talked enough about your true motivations, you won’t need a budget either. Each month, you will take care of your obligations, grow your net worth, and use the rest of your money to buy things you love and to create experiences.

    Talking money should be emotional.

    If you’re being honest with yourself, talking money should be emotional. Remember, most of us exert mental energy pretending we’re not worried about money. My challenge to you is to exert that same energy into figuring out why we behave in certain ways when it comes to money.

    The reason it matters is because we’re soon going to be talking in detail about budgeting, which is just the process of making thoughtful choices about how we spend our money. If we don’t know why we choose to spend in certain ways, we won’t be able to make lasting adjustments to our budget.

    Have you ever thought about why you dine out?

    people sitting beside brown wooden table thinking and talking about if this was money well spent.
    Photo by Kevin Curtis on Unsplash

    Let’s look at an example to start prepping ourselves for the budgeting process. This is a good time to revisit one of the main principles when talking money with your people: no judgments allowed. We’re not looking to shame ourselves or each other. We are aiming for understanding so we can make thoughtful decisions.

    Say you’ve looked at your monthly spending and realize that you’re spending a lot of money dining out. The key to creating a budget you will actually stick to is actively thinking about why you spend so much money dining out. You might learn that dining out is an essential part of your best life. You might learn it’s really not.

    Ask yourself these questions:

    Is there an emotional reason you dine out frequently, like it makes you feel successful? Or, you like spending time with friends? Do you get joy out of trying new dishes?

    Maybe it’s something else entirely and unrelated to your emotions. Maybe you don’t have time to cook at home because of your work schedule? Maybe it’s just laziness?

    It might have nothing to do with how often you eat out, but where you choose to eat and what you choose to order. Do you order a bottle of wine with dinner? Could you have drinks at home beforehand instead?

    When you honestly think about and answer these questions for yourself, you can start to make thoughtful decisions on whether that spending matches your priorities. If it doesn’t, then it’s an area for adjustment.

    And, that’s really all that budgeting is. Not so nasty, right?