In Part 1 of our series on budgeting, we learned how to eliminate disappearing dollars by creating a plan for Now Money, Life Money, and Later Money.
In Part 2, we used a real life example to work through the budgeting process together. We learned that even seemingly minor adjustments can add major fuel to your Later Money bucket.
Here in Part 3, we’ll take a deep dive into my top 10 strategies for making thoughtful adjustments so we can consistently win the budget game.
1. See the ball go through the hoop.
When I was playing basketball growing up, I learned the concept of “seeing the ball go through the hoop.” When I was struggling to make a shot, my coach encouraged me to drive to the basket and make an easy shot. Once I saw that I could make an easy shot, I had my confidence back.
By seeing the ball go through the hoop, I subconsciously reminded myself that I could do it. There was nothing wrong with me. I was ready for more challenging shots.
Anyone who has been around young kids has witnessed this same phenomenon. My son is learning to swim. When he proudly drifted (with a life vest on) two feet from me on his own, he proudly exclaimed, “I’m swimming! I’m swimming!” It didn’t matter that neither his arms nor his legs were moving.
Once he saw that he could enjoy the pool without holding onto dad for dear life, he wanted nothing to do with me. He knew for himself that he could do it.
This concept works in a lot of different money situations, especially when making thoughtful adjustments to your budget. In our really lost boy example, we made small adjustments to our grocery budget, phone and internet bills, and social life spending.
These adjustments were easy to implement and added major fuel to our Later Money. Just as importantly, there was an additional psychological benefit in proving to ourselves that we could make improvements.
Start small. See the ball go through the hoop.
2. Don’t cancel your social life.
The point of starting small is to identify beneficial adjustments that are relatively painless. Focus on the “relatively painless” part. Canceling your social life will not be relatively painless. Your social life consists of ongoing experiences that bring you happiness. We always should strive for more of those experiences, not less. So, don’t cancel your social life.
Looking again to our really lost boy, you probably noticed that I made small adjustments to my Life Money. However, even those small adjustments did not result in less time with my friends.
This is a key point: I didn’t spend any less time with my friends than I did before. Instead, I thought and talked about alternatives so I could still see them without spending a lot of money.
In recent years, my students have thought and talked about some great examples of this concept in action. For example, say your friends are going out to dinner on Friday night. You know it’s going to be more expensive than what your Life Money permits.
Instead of going to the dinner (and wrecking your budget), or not going to the dinner (and being sad at home), what alternatives can you think of?
One student suggested you can meet your friends beforehand for happy hour. Another student suggested you take a pass on dinner and invite your friends over to your place later that weekend for coffee and bagels.
If you don’t want to spend your Life Money to go see Taylor Swift in concert, invite your friends over to watch the documentary on Netflix.
The common theme is that you still get to spend time with your friends, while keeping more money in your pocket.
3. Talk to your friends about Life Money.
Surprise, surprise! More talking! I recommend you talk to your friends about the thoughtful adjustments you’re implementing with your Life Money. Like in most life situations, communication is key.
Once your friends know that you are working on thoughtful choices in your Budget After Thinking, they will happily support you. They’ll know that you aren’t blowing them off. In the rare instance that they don’t support you in striving for your dreams? You may need to question if these are the right friends for you.
The art of budgeting is not about cutting, especially when it comes to things you love. Budgeting is about thinking and talking to find solutions or alternatives.
You can keep doing the things that bring you happiness at the same time you’re making progress on your life goals. It just takes a little bit of mental effort.
4. Keep on traveling.
Making small adjustments works in all areas of your budget, not just your social life. Let’s look at travel, a major expense, but also one of the best sources of life experiences for a lot of people.
For our really lost boy, cutting out travel completely was a nonstarter. My sister lived in Los Angeles, one brother lived in Washington D.C., and the other brother studied abroad in Spain. My best friends from college lived in New York and Virginia. My grandma was in South Carolina.
If I wanted to see my people, traveling was part of the deal.
Traveling was also a huge expense, and paying for all that travel brought me a lot of stress. I needed to think and talk about a solution so I could travel for less money. You know where this is going, don’t you?
Instead of exerting mental energy worrying about how to pay to travel, I exerted mental energy to master the game of frequent flyer miles and credit card points. I researched the best credit cards for travel points and how to best use those points for free flights and hotels.
I learned the most affordable days of the week to fly and the best times of the year to visit certain places. Yes, this took mental effort. But, this was more preferable mental effort than worrying about money.
Even if you don’t want to take these steps, you can still make thoughtful decisions about cutting back on even one or two trips a year, which I also did. I spent less money, but the added benefit was that I appreciated each trip even more.
I had more time to look forward to that trip and more time to remember it before another trip distracted me.
Do not use credit cards just to earn points.
This is not a recommendation. It’s a requirement. Stay tuned for a future post on responsibly using credit cards to earn free vacations.
For now, the only rule that matters is to not overly spend on your credit cards just to earn points. That is a recipe for disaster.
Using credit cards to travel only works to your advantage if you can pay your bills, in full and on time, each month.
“Triple points!!!”
Years ago, my friend and I were out to dinner with our wives at a nice neighborhood spot in Chicago. When the check came, I pulled out my credit card. He pulled out a debit card. I nearly fell out of my chair.
It’s not that using a debit card is a bad choice. It’s a great choice for a lot of people. In this instance, however, I was shocked because I knew this guy very well.
We had travelled all over Europe together. We had just spent most of dinner talking about trips we had taken and trips we wanted to take. This friend is also one of the smartest guys I know, a statement that I will forever deny and insist that I was hacked, if he ever reads this.
I was shocked he wasn’t using a credit card to earn points so he could travel for free.
I couldn’t help myself and had to ask my friend about the debit card. (What do you want from me, I like to talk about money.) Turns out he just never really thought about using a credit card. He wasn’t actively avoiding credit cards, he just didn’t know there were advantages to go along with the potential negatives (if you don’t pay your bills).
My friend was an instant convert. He was thrilled (maybe an understatement) to learn about how he could travel for free with credit card points. He began responsibly using credit cards and never looked back.
To this day, he won’t leave me alone any time he earns “TRIPLE POINTS!!!” or books a free vacation for his family. I love it.
5. Spark and cut.
Another one of my favorite tricks was inspired by Marie Kondo, famous for helping people de-clutter their houses by asking a simple question, “Does this item spark joy?” If it does, keep it. If it doesn’t, get rid of it. So simple, and so powerful.
Marie Kondo is an inspiration. In my opinion, there is no clearer display of brilliance than taking a complex matter (like organizing your house) and distilling into a simple, understandable idea.
We can apply the same strategy to any area of our spending. Does this subscription bring me joy? If yes, keep it. If not, cut it. Does this health club membership bring me joy? This expensive clothing store? What about attending concerts? Sporting events?
If these things don’t honestly bring you joy, cut them from your life and your budget. Italian beef or unagi? Either one is fine, if you’ve determined for yourself that it brings you joy.
When you spark and cut, you’ll create more money to fuel your Later Money goals. Just as important, you’ll likely find that you don’t miss those things or activities.
You’ll value your newfound time and freedom to pursue those remaining parts of your life with more dedication.
6. It’s OK if you occasionally exceed your spending.
What should you do if you overspend one month? Don’t get discouraged and give up. Before all your hard work goes to waste, take the next month to course correct. If you overspent by $300 in your Life Money in December, make it a priority to underspend by $300 in January.
Is this easier said than done? Well, sure. It’s always easier to say you’re going to do something. The hard part is following through. It will take discipline to get back on track. What will drive that discipline?
Once again, it’s your ultimate life motivations that we’ve talked so much about (and will always continue to talk about). Without that clear vision of your ideal life in front of you, no budget will ever last.
Don’t panic. Course correct. Stay on track.
7. Make a game out of it, like the $500 Challenge.
When I veer off track and have a bad spending month, I try to not get down on myself. I’m human. It happens. So, lemons to lemonade. I make a game out of it called “The $500 Challenge.”
My wife and I started playing The $500 Challenge years ago. The game was simple. Each of us had to limit our Life Money for the month to just $500. Whoever spent the least that month, won the game.
I’ve never won the game. My wife is… competitive. I cope by lying to myself that she wins because I enjoy paying on date nights.
We’ve played this game several times to course correct after a high spending month. January is the perfect time of year for this game since the holidays in December often result in overspending.
The $500 Challenge has many benefits. When we succeeded, we’d be right back on track for our goals. Even if we couldn’t quite stay under $500 (never an issue for my wife), this game still reminded us to to prioritize the experiences and things in life that truly mattered to us.
Get creative with nights out.
My favorite part of the game was it forced us to get creative with our nights out. One of my favorite date nights was a product of the $500 challenge.
We had just moved to our new neighborhood. It was a Friday night. People were out and the city was bumping, per usual in summertime Chicago. We set out for a walk to explore with only one rule: we had $20 to spend or less on dinner for two.
We weren’t going to waste that money on an Uber, so we just started walking. A couple miles later, having learned all about our new surroundings, we ended up at a casual restaurant we had never been to.
We ordered a plate of nachos to share off the happy hour menu. We even had enough money left for one of us to wash it down with a cold beer. The nachos were great and the vibe was perfect. The check, with tip? 19 bucks.
We walked home, which helped digest our dinner, and went to bed feeling light in the belly and heavy in the wallet.
8. Buy it if you want it, but not right away.
About 10 years ago, my mom bought me a jacket for a birthday present. It was the exact jacket I wanted. How did she know, I asked her. “You mentioned it when we were downtown four months ago.” Four months ago!
I shouldn’t have been surprised. My mom has one of those steel trap memories. If you only met her for five minutes and then saw her again two years later, don’t be surprised when she asks about your consulting gig, your trip to New Orleans, and that blue dress that she really liked.
I learned from my mom’s gift strategy and modified it to help myself resist the temptation to make impromptu purchases. I don’t have her memory, but I do have a phone with a notes function.
When I see something that I might want to buy, I do my best to resist the temptation of buying it immediately and make a note in my phone. After a couple weeks, if I still want that thing, I buy it.
More times than not, I no longer want whatever it was that tempted me in the moment.
9. You don’t have to go big or go home.
We’ve been focusing on smaller adjustments, but of course, bigger adjustments can have a bigger impact on your overall budget. Making bigger adjustments means examining your biggest expenditures, which for most people is housing and transportation.
If your life situation allows for big changes in these areas, you should by all means consider them. After all, reducing your housing costs by $500 by switching to a less expensive apartment opens up a lot of dollars to deploy as fuel elsewhere. That one decision can make a big impact.
The challenge that I have personally experienced with big adjustments and continue to observe in my students today? Making big adjustments is not realistic for everyone.
Let’s talk about switching up your housing situation. By going big in this scenario, you are giving up your home. This may be a realistic and intelligent decision for someone in their 20s, with no dependents, and living somewhere with ample housing units available.
On the other hand, moving to a new home may not be realistic for someone with children in school and strong roots in a particular community.
To advise that family to pack up their home and move away could be counterproductive. While they’ll save money, they’re giving up a part of their lives that may be very important to their overall happiness. That tradeoff might not be worth it.
The same rationale applies to transportation costs. Like our really lost boy, if you live in a city with public transportation, you probably don’t need a car (or an expensive parking spot).
If you have kids and regularly drive them to dance class, swimming, soccer, gymnastics, piano, music class, ski lessons, and grandma’s house (yes, this is my life right now), giving up your car is not realistic.
How can I adjust my rising housing costs without giving up my home?
It’s because of these complicated tradeoffs that I encourage everyone to start with small adjustments while you’re thinking about bigger adjustments. As you think and talk about the bigger adjustments, you may unlock other solutions that don’t require you to move.
For example, if you’re renting an apartment, you could negotiate with your landlord about locking in a longer term lease at a fixed rent. That way, you keep your largest Now Money expense consistent and avoid paying more each year as your lease renews.
I employed this strategy with great success when I rented an apartment in Chicago, generating a lot of fuel for my Later Money by staying in the same apartment for seven years.
This strategy works for families, too. A buddy recently moved to a new state with his wife and two kids. Instead of buying a house right away, he signed a four-year lease on the perfect home for his family. He has a wonderful place to live and his costs are fixed for the near future.
What can I do if I’m a homeowner?
If you’re a homeowner, what can you do to reduce your expenses without giving up your home? You may not want to re-finance your mortgage in today’s environment, but could you address other rising home ownership costs?
As an example, I recently re-caulked and re-grouted my shower. I had never done that before, but I watched a lot of YouTube videos like this one. The project took me a while, in small bursts, but doing so saved me close to $1,000.00.
I also felt satisfaction for learning something new and getting a job done despite my many frustrations along the way.
In the long run, is $1,000 saved going to pay off my mortgage? Of course not. This is just one example to illustrate that we can all use our mental energy to think about solutions, without giving up our homes.
This thought process can be repeated endless times, and does not only apply to DIY projects. From your couch, you can work on lowering costs related to home insurance, maintenance, and utilities by making phone calls or sending emails.
When you’ve trained yourself to exert mental energy to solve your rising home ownership costs, those savings will add up. You can lower your expenditures without giving up your house.
10. Plan ahead for budget busters.
Budget busters are any inconsistent expenditures, good or bad, that can derail your planning. Good budget busters might include trips, weddings, and holiday/birthday gift shopping. Bad budget busters include unexpected car repairs, home repairs, or medical expenses.
Note, budget busters are inconsistent; they are not unexpected. These expenditures are 100% predictable every year, we just don’t always know when they will surface. Planning ahead for budget busters is crucial to staying on track.
To do so, open up a savings account, preferably at a different bank than your checking account. This helps isolate those funds so those dollars don’t disappear.
As part of our really lost boy’s Budget After Thinking, you’ll recall that we had a separate line item for budget busters in both our Now Money (bad budget busters) and Life Money (good budget busters).
I encourage you to do the same. Each month that you don’t spend your budget buster money, transfer it to your savings account so it’s there when you need it.
One more bonus tip for dealing with budget busters. We talked above about how to course correct when you exceed your budget in one month. On the flip side, what should you do when you’ve had a great month and underspent?
I recommend you transfer the amount you underspent to your budget busters savings account. Don’t let that hard-earned money sit in your checking account. Those dollars will disappear. By transferring them to savings, those dollars will be at your disposal when needed.
We’ve covered a lot of ground here to help generate fuel for your Later Money. To recap:
My Top 10 strategies for adjusting your Budget After Thinking:
- See the ball go through the hoop.
- Don’t cancel your social life.
- Talk to your friends about your life money.
- Keep on traveling.
- Spark and cut.
- It’s OK if you occasionally exceed your spending.
- Make a game out of it, like the $500 challenge.
- Buy it if you want it, but not right away.
- You don’t have to go big or go home.
- Plan ahead for budget busters.
These are the strategies that have worked for me in the past and continue to work for me today. I hope you’ve see than budgeting does not have to be hard and nasty. It just takes a little mental energy, exerted ahead of time.
Whether these specific tips work for your personal situation isn’t the point. I promised you before that I won’t tell you what to do with your money. Review my tips and focus on the thought process to identify solutions that might work for you.
Have you used any of these strategies? What about other strategies that worked for you?
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