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You will Easily Know and Feel Money Well Spent

Coming up, we’re going to do our first Q&A post where I’ll answer questions from readers. So many good questions have already come in. Please keep them coming! Leave a comment below, subscribe to our newsletter, or find us on Instagram.

One question we already received was so good, I’ve answered it here in a dedicated post. The question came from someone that I love to talk money with. He read the Think and Talk Money Welcome Post where I mentioned that my credit card debt was partially due to having Chicago Cubs season tickets.

He knows that I’m a big Cubs fan and asked me if I would I really trade all those great experiences and memories just to save money.

It’s such a good question because it points to the intersection of money and life. It took me all of two seconds to know and feel the answer was, of course, “No, I would not have given up my Cubs tickets.”

He was absolutely right. If I gave up my tickets in 2010 when I was struggling with debt, I never would have been in the stadium in 2016 with my family for the Cubs’ World Series run. Those are some of the best memories I have.

In hindsight, I would have done some things differently so I could enjoy the experiences without the money worries. Let’s talk about that.

But first, story time.

Our nice friends, Phil and April.

Throughout that World Series run, we sat next to the nicest couple in the world, Phil and April. Phil was a diehard Cubs fan. April was more reserved. Both were smart and very friendly. They were enjoyable people to sit with. We chatted baseball, mostly. Pitching changes. Send the runner. Question the manager. That sort of thing. Completely normal, unremarkable stuff.

Until Game 5.

Game 5 was played on a crisp, October evening. Jackets and beanies weather in Chicago. Phil and April were sitting next to my brother and I, as usual. Mike Napoli was playing first base for Cleveland.

Around the 3rd inning, a jerk four rows in front of us taunted Napoli with a crude, juvenile insult. It was apparent the jerk was doing his part to keep Old Style in business for another year.

Phil was nice…and tough.

Anyway, the rest of our section was none too pleased with the jerk’s shameful display. Nobody was more displeased than Phil, who did what the rest of us were thinking but were too scared to do ourselves. Phil stood up. In so many words, Phil sternly recommended that the jerk knock it off and show some class.

The jerk turned around, aggressively scanning the crowd for the man who had publicly shamed him. The jerk had that unmistakable look in his eye that meant, “Let’s dance.” My brother and I were a bit worried for our nice… and all of a sudden tough…friend, Phil.

April did not look worried. She sat there like nothing strange was happening. Almost like she had seen this movie before.

When the jerk locked eyes with Phil, he immediately saw that Phil was happy to accept the invitation to tango. Well, the jerk was sloppy, but he had enough sense to recognize that he wanted no piece of Phil. He wisely turned back around and sat down quietly.

That was the last we heard from the jerk that night. Our nice, and now confirmed tough friend Phil had restored order.

Phil’s on TV!

On the day of the Cubs’ championship parade, my brother called me excitedly, “Phil’s on TV! Phil’s on TV!” It didn’t register right away who he was talking about. When I turned on the TV, sure enough, there was Phil, our World Series friend. I was so confused. Phil was giving an interview on set with the Cubs announcers. Our nice (and tough) friend, Phil? On TV?

I turned up the volume and listened to Phil talk about his experience watching the Cubs win the World Series. Maybe I was hoping he’d mention his nice friend, Matt. He didn’t.

I still couldn’t figure out why Phil was on TV. Why won’t they just put his name on the screen already!?

It wasn’t until the end of the interview that I learned who Phil was. All I could do was laugh.

Our nice, and confirmed tough, friend Phil is better known as World Wresting Entertainment (WWE) champion and icon, CM Punk.

His wife? WWE champion and bestselling author, AJ Mendez.

Life, huh?

A memory I wouldn’t trade for anything.

As much fun as the World Series was, my favorite Cubs memory actually took place during the 2015 season, the year before they won the World Series. It was during the 7th inning of Game 4 of the NLDS. This was the game where the Cubs knocked the rival St. Louis Cardinals out of the playoffs.

In the 7th inning, with the Cubs up 5-4, Kyle Schwarber hit one of the most epic home runs in Cubs history, landing his moonshot on top of the new right field video board. It was such a feat, the ball is now enshrined where it landed.

The entire stadium was rocking so loud, you could feel the ground shaking beneath your feet. Every fan was jumping up and down, hugging anyone close enough to touch. We were all dancing like nobody was watching. That moment was pure happiness.

I was there with my mom. A lifelong Chicagoan, she too was jumping up and down and high-fiving all the other diehard fans in our section. After the game, we met up with my wife at a restaurant and relived the victory over Champagne.

What does this have to do with money?

What does any of this have to do with money? When I said money was emotional, this is what I meant. I wouldn’t trade that memory with my mom for anything. My brother and I still joke about our nice friends, Phil and April.

These are the types of experiences that I want more of. These memories, and the desire for more like them, continue to motivate me today. I want to be good with money, not so I can stash it in the bank, but so I can use that money to create joy for me and my family.

So, to get back to my friend’s question. Would I really have given up my Cubs tickets? No, absolutely not.

What would I have done differently to keep the tickets but not the worries?

In hindsight, what could I have done differently so my Cubs tickets were not a major source of financial worry?

Even back then, I knew and felt that spending money on Cubs tickets was money well spent. I didn’t need to wait for hindsight to come to that conclusion.

That said, I would have put more thought into solutions to keep the tickets and the experiences without the debt and the shame. I would have looked at expenditures in my Now Money and Life Money buckets that were ripe for adjustment.

Maybe that would have meant giving up something else less meaningful, like my gym membership. Or, I could have looked into a side hustle as a way to earn more money, something we’ll explore at another time.

Whatever the solution was, I would have been more intentional with my decisions so my experiences were not overshadowed by my worries.

Talking money is really just talking life.

This was such a good question to illustrate a foundational concept of Think and Talk Money. Yes, we discuss money. But, we’re really talking about our lives and our experiences. Money is just a tool to help us.

And before you get cynical on me, of course money is not required for good experiences. That’s not the point. What I’m suggesting is that if you’re spending most of your time each week at your job, like most of us do, shouldn’t we think about the money we earn so we can maximize experiences like I had with my mom?

Think and Talk Money is all about awakening that thought process so we can use the tool of money to fuel meaningful lives. Would you use that tool to get you Cubs tickets? Or, do you prefer trips to Disney World? What if money is just the currency that you trade to get your time back, so you can do more of what you want with who you want?

Whatever it is that you’re after in life, thinking and talking about money will help get you there.

Keep the questions coming!

January 15, 2025
You Should Want to be Good with Money
So far, we’ve talked about why we need to think about money, why we need to talk about money, and Italian beef. Before we dive deep into budgeting, saving, paying off debt, and investing, we need to make sure our money mindset is locked in.

I hope you’ve started thinking about why you want to be good with money. This will be personal for all of us and may change with time. The more you think and talk about why you want to be good with money, the clearer your motivations will become.

Three powerful reasons why I want to be good with money:
1. Money can give you choices.
2. Money can give you personal power.
3. Money can give you time.
1. Money can give you choices.

This may seem obvious, but when you have money, you have choices. You can choose where to live. You can choose who you work for, or can work for yourself. You can choose how you eat, exercise, relax, and travel.

This holds true whether you make $50,000 or $250,000. Of course, your options may be different. The point is that when you’ve made good money choices, you’ll at least have options.

2. Money can give you personal power.

This is another way to say that money gives you control of your life situation. If you are in a bad relationship, a bad job, or just need a change, money gives you the personal power to do something about it.

3. Money can give you time.

When you have enough money to be truly financially independent, you have earned the freedom to do whatever you want with your time. You can spend your working hours at a job that is meaningful to you. You can spend more time with people who are meaningful to you.

It’s been said many times, “time is our most precious resource.” When you have money, you can buy your time back.

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The most important part of talking is listening.

From the time we’re in diapers, we start learning by observing people older than us. As my family prepares to leave the house, my son has recently started chanting “Let’s roll! Let’s roll! Let’s roll!” Yup, that one’s on me.

The same idea applies when it comes to life and money. I’ve mentioned before how much I’ve learned about life from listening to my clients suffering with mesothelioma. I’ve learned even more by listening to my family, friends, and mentors.

When you listen to enough people with more years behind them than you, certain themes continue to surface, like the importance of family. You’ll hear about creating experiences and memories, usually involving vacations or time with friends.

One thing I’ve never heard? Someone saying “I wish I spent less money on doing the things I loved.”

You don’t have to agree with everything you hear, but the act of listening will start turning the wheels in your own mind. And when your wheels start turning, you can’t be afraid to spend money on the things that make you happy.

Why do we need to actively think about the things that make us happy?

A sneak peak of how I look at budgeting.

I said we weren’t going to discuss budgeting yet, and we won’t. “Budgeting” is kind of a nasty word. Nobody likes to say it out loud, let alone aggressively do it each month. This is why we spend so much time in the beginning talking about our money mindset.

A budget is worthless if you are not motivated to stick to it. Sure, you may stick to your budget plan for a month or two, but you’ll fall back into old habits if you haven’t prioritized what matters most to you.

We’ll save the particulars for another day. A sneak peak at how I teach my students:

Like it or not, everyone needs a budget… for a little while. Once we’ve identified what we spend money on and made some thoughtful choices, most of us don’t need a rigid budget.

If you’ve thought and talked enough about your true motivations, you won’t need a budget either. Each month, you will take care of your obligations, grow your net worth, and use the rest of your money to buy things you love and to create experiences.

Talking money should be emotional.

If you’re being honest with yourself, talking money should be emotional. Remember, most of us exert mental energy pretending we’re not worried about money. My challenge to you is to exert that same energy into figuring out why we behave in certain ways when it comes to money.

The reason it matters is because we’re soon going to be talking in detail about budgeting, which is just the process of making thoughtful choices about how we spend our money. If we don’t know why we choose to spend in certain ways, we won’t be able to make lasting adjustments to our budget.

Have you ever thought about why you dine out?

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Let’s look at an example to start prepping ourselves for the budgeting process. This is a good time to revisit one of the main principles when talking money with your people: no judgments allowed. We’re not looking to shame ourselves or each other. We are aiming for understanding so we can make thoughtful decisions.

Say you’ve looked at your monthly spending and realize that you’re spending a lot of money dining out. The key to creating a budget you will actually stick to is actively thinking about why you spend so much money dining out. You might learn that dining out is an essential part of your best life. You might learn it’s really not.

Ask yourself these questions:

Is there an emotional reason you dine out frequently, like it makes you feel successful? Or, you like spending time with friends? Do you get joy out of trying new dishes?

Maybe it’s something else entirely and unrelated to your emotions. Maybe you don’t have time to cook at home because of your work schedule? Maybe it’s just laziness?

It might have nothing to do with how often you eat out, but where you choose to eat and what you choose to order. Do you order a bottle of wine with dinner? Could you have drinks at home beforehand instead?

When you honestly think about and answer these questions for yourself, you can start to make thoughtful decisions on whether that spending matches your priorities. If it doesn’t, then it’s an area for adjustment.

And, that’s really all that budgeting is. Not so nasty, right?
January 6, 2025
How to Think About Money and Italian Beef
Too many of us are really good at pretending not to worry about money.

“Credit card debt?” Everyone has it.

“Emergency savings?” My job is secure.

“Retirement?” I have so much time.

Accept money for the tool that it is.

Instead of honestly assessing our relationship with money, we actively ignore it. Yes, actively ignore. We don’t passively hide from our credit card bills. We all have the credit card apps on our phones and receive multiple emails about our bills. We know what the numbers are, and we bury that knowledge. We exert mental energy to not think about our money.

Let’s stop doing that and re-frame how we think about money. Instead of convincing ourselves that we’re not worried about money, let’s accept money for the tool that it is. Let’s get energized thinking about what money can do for us.

Thinking about money does not make you a bad person.

Thinking about money does not make you a bad person. Always remember what money is: a tool. You are not a bad person for wanting to use that tool to build the best life for you and your family.

Remember, the goal is not to fall in love with or obsess over the dollars in your bank account. The goal is to think about how you can use those dollars to maximize your life experiences. When you start thinking like that, money is energizing.

A higher income won’t cure your money worries.

You are not immune from worrying about money just because you have a high income. Ask people further along in their careers if earning more money magically solved all their money worries. A lot of times, the opposite is true.

The more we earn usually means the more we spend. We tell ourselves that we deserve to spend more. Or, we need to spend more to match our neighbors or colleagues. You can see this through the clothes people wear, the vacations they take, the restaurants they eat at. This habit of spending more, even as we earn more, explains why credit card debt in America continues to surge.

The other thing about earning more? It also usually means we’re working more. If you were worried about money when you had more available time to think about it, what’s going to happen now that you’re working longer, harder hours?

Vicki Robin, often credited for laying the groundwork for the FIRE movement, has a lot to say about the relationship between money, work, and time. Her book Your Money or Your Life is a must read.

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I could go for an Italian beef.

Years ago, my friend came to Chicago to visit. He loves good food and treated me to one of the premier restaurants in the city. Very fancy, Japanese menu. 12 courses. Sake pairings. At one point, my friend spilled some sauce on his shirt. Having noticed his predicament, the waiter walked over and discreetly handed him a stain removal pen folded in a napkin. Classy, right?

It was one of the best dining experiences I’ve ever had, but it had nothing to do with the food. I loved being there with my friend, and he knows it wasn’t about the food.

Towards the end of the meal, I got up and went to the bathroom. I returned to my friend and the couple at the table next to us gushing about the meal. Turning to me, one of them asked, “Did you absolutely love the food, too?” He choked on his Unagi when I responded, truthfully, “I could really go for an Italian beef.”

I want you to spend your money.

OK, so what’s the point? I am in no way saying we should all stop spending money. Or, that we shouldn’t use our money to enjoy what we want in life. Quite the opposite, actually. I want you to prosper. What I really want is for you to define for yourself what a prosperous life means.

If that means you want to use your money to eat Japanese delicacies instead of Italian beef, please do! Just do it because you put some intentional thought into how spending your money that way fits into your overall life experience.

Get energized thinking about money.

If you’ve read this far, I’m assuming that you’re tired of pretending not to worry about money. You’re tired of treating money just like everyone else. You’re tired of fooling yourself that if you just made more money, everything would be fine. You want the worrying to stop.

Now, you want to feel like you’re moving forward. You’re ready to be energized about using money as a tool to reach your hand selected goals, regardless of how much you make.

To start moving forward, we need to change how we exert our mental energy when it comes to money. In the beginning, many of us exert mental energy into making excuses about our money. Or maybe worse, we actively ignore our money. We convince ourselves that we’re just like everyone else. We pretend not to worry.

Let’s flip that around. Instead of exerting mental energy to ignore our money worries, let’s get energized thinking about how we can use money as a tool to build our lives. It starts with discovering what truly motivates us. Only then can we talk about strong personal finance habits. Without the motivation, we’ll slip back into that existence of pretending not to worry.

There’s no dress rehearsal in life.

Life doesn’t come with a dress rehearsal. There’s no practice game to test out new plays. We need to think about our motivations now and continue to think about those motivations as we go.

You’ll soon hear all about my Tiara Goals, my made-up name for what truly motivates me. At this point, I’ll share the simple recognition that we each only get one life. I don’t say that to be morbid or depressing. I don’t say it to be inspirational, either. I’m saying it simply because it’s true.

Bill Perkins, author of Die with Zero, makes a very convincing argument that most of us wait too long to start using money to create life-changing experiences. You should read Die with Zero and talk about it with your people. This book has led to more money conversations with my friends and family than any other book I’ve read.

This truth is a powerful reminder for me to use money as a tool to accomplish my Tiara Goals. That truth helps explain why I work hard for my clients with mesothelioma, own rental properties, teach law students, and now write this blog.

I encourage each of you to start thinking about what truly matters to you. Not in a theoretical sense. Not what you expect other people would say should matter to you. What you, after deliberate thought, believe truly matters. You won’t have all the answers right away, but you need to start somewhere.

For now, let’s start by helping each other. Let’s stop pretending that we aren’t worried about money, so we can do something about it.

“Credit card debt?” Yup, and I’m attacking it.

“Emergency savings?” Growing each month.

“Retirement?” Not a problem.

“Unagi?” Eh, I’ll have the Italian beef. Dipped, hot peppers.
4 responses to “How to Think About Money and Italian Beef”
1. Kevin
  
  January 11, 2025
  
  This really hit home for me! I read the book Die With Zero, and loved it.
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 12, 2025
  
  Glad you enjoyed the post! And thank you for being a consistent reader of Think and Talk Money!
  
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2. SA Bandoni
  
  January 12, 2025
  
  So, is the Italian beef like a ‘steak & cheese sub’ in Boston?…if so, then , hell yes… Italian beef over Unagi every time. It is great to see you tackle the topic and attempt to make money a candid discussion. I suspect your teachings, and this blog will inspire more people to do the same.
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 12, 2025
  
  I appreciate those kind words, SA. It’s all about starting the conversation. And, Italian beef is probably like a steak & cheese sub… only better!
  
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January 4, 2025
A New Financial Freedom Blog
I named my financial freedom blog “Think and Talk Money” because most of us don’t do enough of either.

I believe we can make it easier on ourselves to make consistent, good money choices if we just spent a little time each week thinking and talking about money.

Wouldn’t most of us agree that doing new things, and especially doing hard things, is easier when we have a partner? Someone to bounce ideas off. Someone to keep us accountable. Someone to pick us up when we aren’t at our best.

Have you ever talked about money or read a financial freedom blog?

Who is the person that knows the most about you?

Your best friend? Significant other? Brother or sister?

This person knows your most embarrassing stories. This person has seen you cry. This person has been there for you through thick and thin.

But, have you ever talked to this person about money?

Have you ever shared what drives you to wake up at 6 a.m. for work? Have you mentioned that you’re worried about how you’re going to pay off debt? Have you ever talked about how you’d like to use money as a tool build your life on your terms?

You might be surprised how powerful these conversations can be. It’s likely the person you’re talking to will be relieved you started the conversation.

If you don’t know where to begin with conversations like this, a financial freedom blog is a good place to start.

I didn’t read a financial freedom blog or talk about money in 2010.

I certainly didn’t think to have conversations about money in 2010 when I fell deeper and deeper into debt. I still remember the day when I realized I was financially heading in the wrong direction.

It was an ordinary Monday. I had grabbed my mail on the way out the door as I headed to my job at the courthouse. When I got to my desk, I opened my credit card statement and was stunned by what I saw. $20,000 owed ($30,000 in today’s dollars) one year into my career.

I was ashamed. I was supposed to be smart. Responsible. Trustworthy. How could I be so foolish?

Looking back, I wonder if I would have had these feelings for so long if I had read a financial freedom blog. Or, what if I was more willing to discuss my money choices with the people I trusted?

I likely would have saved myself a lot of worry, frustration, and time if I hadn’t struggled alone. Perhaps I would have learned that so many others were struggling with consumer debt like I was.

I made it harder on myself by not talking.

I unnecessarily did it the hard way, but I figured it out. I made it a priority to turn things around. I didn’t know the solution at that moment. But, I had been trained to do research so I could find answers to hard questions. So, that’s what I did.

Along the way, I realized that the fundamental and basic personal finance principles are, well, basic. George S. Clason wrote “The Richest Man in Babylon” nearly a century ago. His collection of parables set in ancient Babylon is legendary.

Everyone should read it. His advice is simple and excellent: spend less than you earn. Save. Invest. The same fundamentals are as true today as they were then.

Easy, right?

Money is about continuous choices.

Not exactly. Money is about continuous mindset and choices. The basic concepts are easy enough to understand. Consistently making good choices is hard.

Even as I was racking up credit card debt, I could have aced a quiz that asked, “Is it a good idea to spend more money than you earn every month and plummet deeper and deeper into debt?”

For some reason, though, most of us choose to deal with money on our own. I’d like to change that with my financial freedom blog. There’s a stigma that we shouldn’t talk about money. I’d like to change that, too.

Get comfortable talking about money.

I want us to get comfortable with the idea of going to our friends and loved ones to talk about money, just as we would talk about anything else. There should be no embarrassment or shame in it. We’re all dealing with the same challenges.

By talking about money, we can help each other turn those challenges into opportunities. If we can alleviate our money stress, perhaps we can reverse the trend of lower happiness levels among young people today.

Talking about money is not about numbers.

We’ll have plenty more to say about how to talk money in this financial freedom blog. For now, let’s agree that talking about money is not about prying into how many dollars we each have in the bank.

We can benefit by talking about our money mindset, habits, and strategies, while still keeping certain information private.

Let’s also agree that talking money is a “no judgment” endeavor.

We have all had different experiences that have shaped our relationship with money. It’s important not to pass judgment, especially when talking to our significant others. Your conversation won’t last very long if you ignore this advice.

Each session I’m with my students, I learn from their experiences and money mindset, same as they learn from mine. I encourage them to continue the conversation outside the classroom with their loves ones.

When my students report back, they tell me how empowered they felt after starting these conversations. The more we can talk money, the less we’ll feel alone. We’ll all make better choices because of it.

What topics will we cover in this financial freedom blog?

In this financial freedom blog, we’ll talk about the importance of money mindset and why you should want to be good with money. Money mindset touches every aspect of personal finance, so it’s a theme we’ll keep returning to.

I didn’t realize the power of money mindset until I wrote down my Tiara Goals for financial independence on a beach in 2017.

We’ll talk about personal finance fundamentals, like eliminating disappearing dollars with a Budget After Thinking.

While very few people enjoy the budgeting process, it’s a crucial first step to generate fuel for our savings and investments, which ultimately fund our major life goals.

In addition to budgeting, saving, and investing, we’ll learn how to responsibly use debt and why credit is important.

We’ll spend a lot of time discussing real estate investing, one of my favorite ways to achieve financial freedom.

Along the way, you’ll hear me regularly share one of my core beliefs:

Talking about money is not taboo.

There’s no reason to embark on your journey to financial freedom alone. Share your accomplishments and struggles with your friends and loved ones. You’ll only be better off for it.

I certainly will be doing that with my financial freedom blog.

Please share in the comments below if you’ve ever benefited from talking about money with a friend or loved one.

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2 responses to “A New Financial Freedom Blog”
1. Kevin
  
  January 3, 2025
  
  I’ve been learning from Prof. Adair for the past decade. Not only that, I’ve followed his advice, and it is one of the reasons I am financially independent today. I could not be more excited for this website – there’s so much more left to learn!
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 3, 2025
  
  Love our chats about life and money, Kev! I’m always looking forward to our next conversation!
  
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January 2, 2025
Personal Finance for Lawyers and Professionals
I founded Think and Talk Money after years of teaching personal finance for lawyers.

My purpose is to share these principles of personal finance for lawyers with all professionals striving for financial freedom.

I like to think and talk about money. To help us achieve financial freedom, we can’t be embarrassed or afraid to talk about money with our friends and family.

That’s why I’m on a mission to convince people that talking money is not taboo.

I like thinking and talking about life and money.

“If you want to get Matt talking, bring up life and money.”

My wife knows me better than anyone. I like thinking and talking about life and money. That’s why I started teaching financial wellness to law students in 2021 and started this blog in 2024. But, I wasn’t always like that.

When I graduated law school in 2009, I never thought about money. Within a year, I had racked up $20,000 in credit card debt ($30,000 in today’s dollars), on top of my student loan debt. My salary at the time was $62,000. This was a problem.

How did that happen? Well, I wasn’t thinking about money. I certainly wasn’t talking about money. I later learned that I had made every money mistake in the book. Rented a fancy apartment I didn’t need? Check. Paid for Cubs season tickets I couldn’t afford? Check. Traveled coast-to-coast? Traveled overseas? Put it all on credit cards? Check. Check. Check.

It’s not that I intentionally decided to get into debt. I generally wanted to make good choices. I am a relatively smart human. You are, too. You’re reading a blog about financial wellness with the entire internet at your fingertips.

Maybe you’re like me, and it hadn’t occurred to you that money was a thing you needed to think about. And to talk about. Preferably with people impacted by your money choices.

I dedicated myself to learning about money.

Since 2010, I’ve dedicated myself to learning about money and its role in crafting a healthy life. I read all the personal finance books. I listened to podcasts. I talked to people I trusted. I kept a money journal.

Along the way, I started to make choices with my money that matched my values.

15 years into learning, and now teaching personal finance for lawyers and professionals, here are a few things to know about me:

I work for clients with mesothelioma, a cancer caused by asbestos.

Since 2011, I’ve represented hundreds of people suffering from mesothelioma, a rare cancer caused by asbestos. Most of my clients are in their seventies and eighties. A significant part of my job since I’ve been in my twenties has been meeting with individuals in their homes after they had just found out they have incurable cancer.

Before we ever get around to talking about the case, we inevitably end up talking about life. I do most of the listening. You can imagine what I’ve learned about life in these moments. Most of my core money beliefs have been shaped by these powerful experiences.

I am a real estate investor and own rental properties in Chicago and Colorado.

In 2018, my wife and I bought our first rental property in Chicago, a 4-flat in an up-and-coming neighborhood. We lived in one unit and rented out the other three.

I’ll never forget riding my bike with my wife and a buddy, heading from the fancy part of the city where I had been living to my new home. I could tell my buddy was skeptical about my new neighborhood.

Finally, he saw something he recognized and said, “Hey, nice! A spin studio!” He saw a sign that read “Cycle Spin.” It was a laundromat.

He wasn’t the only one who was probably thinking, “what is Matt doing?” Well, that 4-flat allowed my wife and I (and eventually two kids) to live for free for six years.

See, the rent we collected covered our mortgage, insurance, taxes, maintenance, and then some.

With the money we saved, we bought our second rental property in 2019, a nearby 3-flat. In 2022, we purchased another Chicago 3-flat, where my family lived for about two years before moving to our permanent home. My tenants are doctors, lawyers, engineers, TV personalities, pilots, and other young professionals.

In 2021, we bought a rental condo in Colorado ski country. This had been a dream of mine hatched at The 1800 Club in Evanston during college.

Back then, I amused my friends on many a ski trip by cartwheeling down the mountain as I learned to snowboard. To pay for flights and lift tickets, I took a couple part-time jobs in local offices. I told myself one day I would “Get that Mountain.”

While my wife and I were contemplating life during the height of the pandemic, we determined that a ski condo fit perfectly with our desire to be with family, to be active, and to be outdoors as much as possible.

I started a money journal in 2010.

I started a money journal in 2010. It has been a lot of fun to look at as I launched my financial wellness course and as I’m writing this blog. I’ll refer back to these entries as I share my lessons about personal finance for lawyers and professionals.

Some entries are just scribbles while I worked through that month’s money question.

Some entries go deep. My favorite: I wrote in 2011 that someday I was going to marry the girl I had been dating at that time for the past few months. That girl became my wife in 2017.

I encourage everyone to keep some sort of money journal. It doesn’t have to be a daily log or a detailed memoir. It will help you think. It will also reinforce the idea that we all need to think about money continuously.

Some of the same challenges I had in my 20’s, are resurfacing today. I am more confident today because I can look back at how I handled those obstacles back then.

I have taught personal finance for lawyers since 2021.

Since 2011, I’ve taught law students how to research, write, and communicate in the courtroom. We work on finding answers to difficult questions. Oftentimes, there are many possible answers, and we have to think and analyze which is the best for our situation.

I regularly have coffee with students who want to talk about what comes next after finishing school. I learned that, just like me in 2009, my students didn’t typically think or talk about money and life. They never considered learning about personal finance for lawyers.

I wanted to help them avoid the money struggles that I had experienced at the beginning of my career.

That’s why in 2021, I designed and launched a law school course focused on personal finance for lawyers. My goal with that course, and this website, is to help us all think about using money as a tool to build a life that conforms to our personal values.

The point is not to get rich. Though, you will if that’s your goal and you follow along. The point is to live your life on purpose. Where you actively think and choose what happens next.

Think about why money matters.

The first step is to think about a simple and powerful question: why does money matter?

For me and many others, money is about financial independence, which translates to the power to choose. When we have the power to choose, we have the power to live a life that conforms to our personal values. We can live on purpose, not on auto-pilot.

We can choose to spend our working hours doing what is meaningful to us. We can choose to spend more time with the people that are meaningful to us. We can choose to use money as a tool to do what we want with our lives.

My favorite part during my personal finance for lawyers class is when my students share their motivations with each other. We all learn so much from these honest conversations.

It’s why I believe talking about money is so important. We all benefit from knowing that we’re not alone in our money worries. We can be inspired by hearing what our friends want from their money and their lives.

If nothing else, I want you to think and talk about money.

As a lawyer, I’ve been trained to build upon the work of those who have come before us. Think and Talk Money is my contribution to this essential field of personal finance, building upon what I was so grateful to learn. Not just from authors, but from all the people in my life who talk with me about life and money.

In teaching personal finance for lawyers, I’ve learned that most of us are facing the same challenges. Maybe my voice and my experiences will resonate with you. Maybe not. And that’s ok.

I will be honest about the mistakes I’ve made and the lessons I’ve learned. We’ll talk about motivation, habits, and fundamentals. We’ll talk about careers and goals. We’ll talk about investing in real estate and managing rental properties.

I’ll share my thoughts on key news and developments. I don’t expect you to agree with everything I say. Not every post will be immediately helpful for you. That’s not my goal or even realistic.

Think just a little bit about money every week.

My goal is to help you think even a little bit about your money choices every week. That way, your money life remains in balance with the rest of your life, and you can continually evolve and adapt your choices as your life changes.

I want to encourage you to think, and to talk, and to choose. If all I do is help you and your loved ones think more purposefully about your money, this website will be a success.

Maybe your goal is also financial independence, or the power to choose. The power to live on purpose. Maybe it’s something else entirely. Whatever it is, discovering your motivation is the crucial first step.

It’s so important that I’ll encourage you to think about that motivation every day. I’ve learned that money is something that we all need to think about as a regular part of our lives. Not that we should only think about money. Or that we need to obsess over money. Simply that we can’t ignore money.

How sad is it when we realize our hard earned money has just vanished? That at the end of each month, we have less money?

You’re not alone. There are a lot of smart people who need somewhere to turn learn about money. Or, maybe just a reminder to actively think about their money.

Most of us could use someone to talk to or something to read to help us learn about personal finance for lawyers and professionals.

I hope Think and Talk Money can be that place for you. I can’t, and won’t, tell you what to do with your money. It’s your life, after all. But, I will strive to help you think and talk with purpose about your money.

Here we go.
12 responses to “Personal Finance for Lawyers and Professionals”
1. Bill Molander
  
  December 31, 2024
  
  Well written, Matt! Best wishes to you in future endeavors.
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Thank you, Bill!
  
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2. Clarke Nobiletti
  
  December 31, 2024
  
  Excited for the valuable advice!
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Thank you, Clarke!
  
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3. Laurie
  
  December 31, 2024
  
  Hey, I think your ideas are very interesting. Thanks for your thoughts. Maybe keeping money journal is a good idea for me too. A fresh outlook and clean slate for starting out the new year makes sense too.
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Great attitude, Laurie! Keep me posted on your money journal!
  
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4. Jeffrey Tallis
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Smart young man! He listens to people! He takes what he hears and learns from it! Great stuff here! Your law students are lucky to have you as a money mentor!
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Thank you, Jeff! Glad you enjoyed the first post!
  
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5. Diana
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  This was a great read — thanks for sharing!
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Thank you, Diana!
  
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6. Nicholas Faklis
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Matt What are your thoughts on index funds vs individual stocks ?
  
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  Matthew Adair
  
  January 1, 2025
  
  Great question! I invest in index funds and think that’s the best choice for many of us. We’ll have to revisit this topic in a future post. Stay tuned!
  
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