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  • How to Budget with a Real Life, Really Lost, Boy

    How to Budget with a Real Life, Really Lost, Boy

    In Part 1 of our series on budgeting, we learned that the art of budgeting is having a plan for your next dollar before you earn it. That way, you avoid having disappearing dollars. It’s not a good feeling to work hard all month and then realize you have nothing to show for it.

    We also learned the three steps to get started with a realistic budget based off your current personal situation:

    • Step 1: Track your spending for at least 3 months.
    • Step 2: Separate your spending into 3 main categories.
    • Step 3: Make adjustments so your spending better aligns with your true motivations and desires in life.

    Here, in Part 2 of our series on budgeting, we’ll use a real life example to work through the budgeting process together. Through this example, you’ll see how even seemingly minor adjustments can make a big impact to your budget.

    In Part 3, we’ll take a deep dive into my top 10 strategies for making thoughtful adjustments to our budgets so we can add more fuel to our financial and life goals.

    Before we get ahead of ourselves, let’s meet a real life, really lost, boy.

    Learning from a real life, really lost, boy.

    In today’s budgeting example, we’ll look at real numbers from a real life, really lost, boy: 26-year-old Me. Remember when I told you I started a money journal in 2010? The dollar amounts below are what my actual income and spending looked like back then, adjusted for today’s dollars and rounded for easier math.

    For some context, I was 26-years-old, living by myself in Chicago (no dependents, no pets), and working as a slasher. Not a joke, that was my actual job title. I worked for a judge with the Appellate Court of Illinois, and as the junior member of the team, my responsibilities included lawyer duties and secretarial duties. I was a judicial law clerk “slash” secretary. Hence, slasher. Lawyers are funny, huh?

    In today’s dollars, I earned an annual salary of $90,000.00. That means I earned $7,500.00 per month. We did not have bonuses at the courthouse, so the $90,000.00 salary was my full compensation.

    How to benefit from this budgeting example.

    The benefit of going through an example like this is not to compare your situation to mine. Your income might be much higher or much lower. Same with your expenses. Instead of the numbers, focus on the thought process so you can start to think about adjustments that suit your current life.

    Below, you’ll see charts showing that I completed each of our three budgeting steps:

    • Step 1: I tracked my spending for 3 months and reflected the average monthly amount for each expenditure in the column labeled “Baseline Budget.”
    • Step 2: I created a separate chart for each of the three main categories: Now Money, Life Money, and Later Money.
    • Step 3: I made thoughtful adjustments to better align my spending with my true motivations in life. I illustrated my decisions in the third column labeled “Budget After Thinking.”

    Now Money

    Now Money is what you need to pay for basic life expenses. These are expenses that you can’t avoid and should be relatively fixed each month. If you have expenses for kids, pets, and other fixed life expenses, be sure to include them in your Now Money category.

    What I learned tracking Now Money.

    Now Money is pretty easy to track. There is not a whole lot of variance from month to month.

    You’ll notice immediately that I had one major expenditure that needed immediate adjustment. That parking spot for $430? Definitely did not need that. I lived 2 miles from work in one of the best cities for public transportation in the country. It was frustrating at times to look for street parking, but I didn’t use my car enough to justify the cost of a parking spot.

    The other adjustments resulted in more minor savings, but don’t ignore these. Each adjustment took relatively no effort to make, just a little bit of thought beforehand. When I say relatively no effort, I mean three phone calls and three reductions for car insurance, internet, and cell phone. That’s $70 saved per month, or $840 saved per year, for about 30 minutes of effort.

    Otherwise, I decided to show a bit more restraint when grocery shopping and found a cheaper place to get my haircut.

    All told, I reduced my Now Money Budget After Thinking by $585 per month with a little bit of thought and hardly any effort. That’s $7,020 per year of fuel for my Later Money.

    Life Money

    Two happy girlfriends looking on the shopwindow while standing with shopping bags near the mall because they created a budget with think and talk money

    Life Money is what you spend every month on things and experiences in life that you love.

    What I learned tracking Life Money.

    When you’re reviewing your Life Money expenses, don’t be overly aggressive in cutting here. These are the things and experiences that make your life enjoyable. Even modest adjustments can make a big difference in the long run.

    In Part 3 of our series on budgeting, I’ll show you my favorite strategies for adjusting your Life Money without sacrificing the things and experiences you love.

    As we saw with Now Money, with some thought and very little effort, I reduced my Life Money Budget After Thinking by $250 per month. That’s another $3,000 of fuel for my Later Money.

    Some bonus tips for tracking Life Money

    Life Money is the most annoying category to accurately track. These expenses vary month-to-month. You may buy concert tickets or have a trip planned some months, but not every month. So, how do we get an accurate picture of our Life Money?

    This is why I recommend you track your spending for at least three months. You’ll get a more accurate picture because you can average your Life Money spending over those 3 months and balance out any inconsistencies. Of course, if you have the patience to track your spending for even longer, you’ll get an even more accurate picture.

    Fortunately, it is easier to track our spending today with the availability of apps and online banking platforms that can automatically track your spending. We’ll review some of these tracking options in a future post.

    Keep it simple when tracking your Life Money.

    I highly recommend you keep it simple when tracking your Life Money. Many of my students give up on budgeting because they make this category more complicated than it needs to be. I really struggled with this at first because I was so concerned about doing it right.

    What I learned was that it doesn’t matter. If you go to happy hour with friends, don’t agonize over whether that goes into your “Dining Out” category or your “Drinks” category? It doesn’t matter. Make it easy on yourself. Have one category called “Social Life” and move on.

    Don’t forget that the point of budgeting is to learn your current habits so that you can make thoughtful adjustments. Don’t let yourself become so obsessed with the details that you get stressed and give up on budgeting.

    Break down large, annual expenses on a monthly basis.

    One last tip, when you have large expenses, like season tickets or a big vacation, it’s helpful to break down those expenses on a monthly basis. That way, you can see how much those individual purchases are impacting your overall monthly goals.

    I’m not suggesting you actually pay for that trip over 12 months (like on a credit card), or that you can only spend that much on travel in a certain month. Think of it this way: you likely will not take a trip every month of the year.

    Using my Budget After Thinking figures, let’s say I did not take a trip in January, February or March. That would mean that for my planned April trip, I now have $1,600 available that I can use, assuming you didn’t let those dollars disappear. In Part 3, we’ll talk about what to do with the money you didn’t spend in the first three months to make sure they don’t disappear when April rolls around.

    Later Money

    happy family mother father and children dancing at home  in their home they bought by budgeting with think and talk money.

    Later Money is what you are saving, investing, or using to pay off debt. This is the fuel for your most important goals.

    *This was pretax money to my employer’s retirement plan. For budgeting purposes, it’s easier not to count the amount here.

    What I learned tracking Later Money.

    This is where all your efforts in tracking your spending and making thoughtful adjustments starts to pay off, IF you have a plan for your next dollar before you earn it.

    In my baseline budget, I was very good about paying my student loan debt in full every month. I knew enough not to mess with student loans. The consequence was my credit card bills were the last to get paid each month. This usually meant only paying the required minimum since I had run out of money by this point. It also meant no money for savings or investments.

    In my Later Money Budget After Thinking, because of the thoughtful choices I made with my Now Money and Life Money, I created $800 of fuel.

    With that fuel, I had committed myself to paying off my credit card debt as quickly as possible. I also wanted to start the habit of saving each month. So, I added $750 of fuel to my credit card bills and $50 of fuel to my savings. I stayed true to my plan and put that money to work. Otherwise, what was the point of budgeting?

    Some bonus tips for tracking Later Money.

    When I run through this exercise with my students, I usually get a question along the lines of, “I’m aiming to save 20% of my income each month. Should I count the pretax money I’m saving for retirement towards that 20%?”

    It’s a sneaky question. Think about it: the rest of your budget relates to your take-home paycheck, meaning your after-tax money that hits your checking account. Your retirement savings are typically withdrawn from your paycheck before taxes and before you ever see the money.

    How to account for your pretax retirement savings can be another one of those tricky areas when you start budgeting. In my example, you may have noticed that I contributed $300 of pretax money through my employer’s retirement plan, but I did not count that money in my budget calculations.

    Should you count that money if you’re aiming to save a certain percentage each month? Setting aside that this question demonstrates how a standardized framework, like 50-30-20, can be very confusing…

    Yes! Give yourself credit where credit is due! Contributing to your retirement plan is a good choice. If you are aiming to save 5% or 10% or 20% each month in Later Money, count your pretax money towards that goal.

    Make budgeting as easy as possible for yourself.

    That said, I want to encourage you to make budgeting as easy as possible for yourself so you stick with it. In my example, I excluded the $300 pretax retirement savings because I am creating a plan for the $7,500.00 that hit my checking account each month. These are the dollars in jeopardy of disappearing.

    The entire point of your budget is to create a plan for your next dollar before you earn it. You already wisely chose to save your pretax dollars by enrolling in your employer’s retirement plan. Those dollars are already accounted for and working for you. They are not disappearing dollars. You did your job!

    Like in my example above, you can exclude the amount you’re saving for retirement in pretax dollars from your budget calculations. Feel good knowing that you’re saving that money. It’s icing on the cake. No need to worry about it when budgeting.

    The real life, really lost, boy was starting to figure it out.

    Let’s look at the complete picture before and after I started the budgeting process:

    Income of $7,500

    With some thought and relatively little effort, I was able to stop the disappearing dollars and start making progress towards my ultimate life goals.

    In my baseline budget, I was spending more than I earned each month. That meant I had no money to pay my credit card bills, which kept getting bigger because I kept spending. In my Budget After Thinking, I broke my habit of living above my means and generated $9,600 of fuel in one year for my Later Money goals.

    Taking these first steps may seem like minor steps on the way to financial independence, but they were the most important steps I ever took on my personal financial journey.

    The real life, really lost, boy was starting to figure it out. The spark was lit. There was no turning back.

  • How to Think About Money and Italian Beef

    How to Think About Money and Italian Beef

    Too many of us are really good at pretending not to worry about money.

    “Credit card debt?” Everyone has it. 

    “Emergency savings?” My job is secure.

    “Retirement?” I have so much time.

    Accept money for the tool that it is.

    Instead of honestly assessing our relationship with money, we actively ignore it. Yes, actively ignore. We don’t passively hide from our credit card bills. We all have the credit card apps on our phones and receive multiple emails about our bills. We know what the numbers are, and we bury that knowledge. We exert mental energy to not think about our money.

    Let’s stop doing that and re-frame how we think about money. Instead of convincing ourselves that we’re not worried about money, let’s accept money for the tool that it is. Let’s get energized thinking about what money can do for us.

    Thinking about money does not make you a bad person.

    Thinking about money does not make you a bad person. Always remember what money is: a tool. You are not a bad person for wanting to use that tool to build the best life for you and your family. 

    Remember, the goal is not to fall in love with or obsess over the dollars in your bank account. The goal is to think about how you can use those dollars to maximize your life experiences. When you start thinking like that, money is energizing. 

    A higher income won’t cure your money worries.

    You are not immune from worrying about money just because you have a high income. Ask people further along in their careers if earning more money magically solved all their money worries. A lot of times, the opposite is true. 

    The more we earn usually means the more we spend. We tell ourselves that we deserve to spend more. Or, we need to spend more to match our neighbors or colleagues. You can see this through the clothes people wear, the vacations they take, the restaurants they eat at. This habit of spending more, even as we earn more, explains why credit card debt in America continues to surge.

    The other thing about earning more? It also usually means we’re working more. If you were worried about money when you had more available time to think about it, what’s going to happen now that you’re working longer, harder hours?

    Vicki Robin, often credited for laying the groundwork for the FIRE movement, has a lot to say about the relationship between money, work, and time. Her book Your Money or Your Life is a must read.

    how to think about spending money on sushi or Italian beef
    Sushi Rice” by Skitter Photo/ CC0 1.0

    I could go for an Italian beef.

    Years ago, my friend came to Chicago to visit. He loves good food and treated me to one of the premier restaurants in the city. Very fancy, Japanese menu. 12 courses. Sake pairings. At one point, my friend spilled some sauce on his shirt. Having noticed his predicament, the waiter walked over and discreetly handed him a stain removal pen folded in a napkin. Classy, right?

    It was one of the best dining experiences I’ve ever had, but it had nothing to do with the food. I loved being there with my friend, and he knows it wasn’t about the food.

    Towards the end of the meal, I got up and went to the bathroom. I returned to my friend and the couple at the table next to us gushing about the meal. Turning to me, one of them asked, “Did you absolutely love the food, too?” He choked on his Unagi when I responded, truthfully, “I could really go for an Italian beef.” 

    I want you to spend your money.

    OK, so what’s the point? I am in no way saying we should all stop spending money. Or, that we shouldn’t use our money to enjoy what we want in life. Quite the opposite, actually. I want you to prosper. What I really want is for you to define for yourself what a prosperous life means. 

    If that means you want to use your money to eat Japanese delicacies instead of Italian beef, please do! Just do it because you put some intentional thought into how spending your money that way fits into your overall life experience.

    Get energized thinking about money.

    If you’ve read this far, I’m assuming that you’re tired of pretending not to worry about money. You’re tired of treating money just like everyone else. You’re tired of fooling yourself that if you just made more money, everything would be fine. You want the worrying to stop. 

    Now, you want to feel like you’re moving forward. You’re ready to be energized about using money as a tool to reach your hand selected goals, regardless of how much you make.

    To start moving forward, we need to change how we exert our mental energy when it comes to money. In the beginning, many of us exert mental energy into making excuses about our money. Or maybe worse, we actively ignore our money. We convince ourselves that we’re just like everyone else. We pretend not to worry.

    Let’s flip that around. Instead of exerting mental energy to ignore our money worries, let’s get energized thinking about how we can use money as a tool to build our lives. It starts with discovering what truly motivates us. Only then can we talk about strong personal finance habits. Without the motivation, we’ll slip back into that existence of pretending not to worry.

    There’s no dress rehearsal in life.

    Life doesn’t come with a dress rehearsal. There’s no practice game to test out new plays. We need to think about our motivations now and continue to think about those motivations as we go.

    You’ll soon hear all about my Tiara Goals, my made-up name for what truly motivates me. At this point, I’ll share the simple recognition that we each only get one life. I don’t say that to be morbid or depressing. I don’t say it to be inspirational, either. I’m saying it simply because it’s true.

    Bill Perkins, author of Die with Zero, makes a very convincing argument that most of us wait too long to start using money to create life-changing experiences. You should read Die with Zero and talk about it with your people. This book has led to more money conversations with my friends and family than any other book I’ve read.

    This truth is a powerful reminder for me to use money as a tool to accomplish my Tiara Goals. That truth helps explain why I work hard for my clients with mesothelioma, own rental properties, teach law students, and now write this blog.

    I encourage each of you to start thinking about what truly matters to you. Not in a theoretical sense. Not what you expect other people would say should matter to you. What you, after deliberate thought, believe truly matters. You won’t have all the answers right away, but you need to start somewhere. 

    For now, let’s start by helping each other. Let’s stop pretending that we aren’t worried about money, so we can do something about it.

    “Credit card debt?” Yup, and I’m attacking it. 

    “Emergency savings?” Growing each month.

    “Retirement?” Not a problem.

    “Unagi?” Eh, I’ll have the Italian beef. Dipped, hot peppers.

    4 responses to “How to Think About Money and Italian Beef”

    1. Kevin Avatar
      Kevin

      This really hit home for me! I read the book Die With Zero, and loved it.

      1. Matthew Adair Avatar

        Glad you enjoyed the post! And thank you for being a consistent reader of Think and Talk Money!

    2. SA Bandoni Avatar

      So, is the Italian beef like a ‘steak & cheese sub’ in Boston?…if so, then , hell yes… Italian beef over Unagi every time. It is great to see you tackle the topic and attempt to make money a candid discussion. I suspect your teachings, and this blog will inspire more people to do the same.

      1. Matthew Adair Avatar

        I appreciate those kind words, SA. It’s all about starting the conversation. And, Italian beef is probably like a steak & cheese sub… only better!

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